Drama with my neighbor due to her obvious interest in my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just lonely since her divorce and looking to make friends? And because she wanted another baby and you just had one she can get her "fix"? I don't know, I'm not there. But you sound like you're overreacting. If she hit on your husband, ok, but by your own admission she just makes small talk and once offered him a ride to work (was it in the opposite direction she was going or something else weird?). I just don't get women who don't like any other women talking to their husbands.

I’m her friend though, not my husband. Why does she need to drive him anywhere? I could see if she knew our car was in the shop or something but to just randomly ask is fishy, IMO. Also, yes it is out of her way but she doesn’t even know where he works.

[Anonymous]

The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just lonely since her divorce and looking to make friends? And because she wanted another baby and you just had one she can get her "fix"? I don't know, I'm not there. But you sound like you're overreacting. If she hit on your husband, ok, but by your own admission she just makes small talk and once offered him a ride to work (was it in the opposite direction she was going or something else weird?). I just don't get women who don't like any other women talking to their husbands.

I’m her friend though, not my husband. Why does she need to drive him anywhere? I could see if she knew our car was in the shop or something but to just randomly ask is fishy, IMO. Also, yes it is out of her way but she doesn’t even know where he works.

Ummm... you guys are neighbors, sounds like she may just see you guys collectively as "the neighbors" and is trying to be friendly to the family and not just to you. I try to be friendly with my neighbors - husbands, wives, kids, pets - just because I like the idea and feel of community, and I would be there to help either if I sensed anyone needed a hand, i.e a lift to work, etc. Sounds like she may be just trying to bond with her "neighbors" and not just you, per se. You have not been clear as to what constitutes flirting. Are her boobs "accidentally" falling out whenever hubby is near? Is she watering the lawn in tight clingy outfit? Is she a looker?

Maybe she just needs emotional support - going through a divorce can be tough.

[Anonymous]

Trust your instincts. Divorced woman who is way too friendly with your husband and actively asks about him, seeks him out, and offers him rides in the mornings isn't a good sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust your instincts. Divorced woman who is way too friendly with your husband and actively asks about him, seeks him out, and offers him rides in the mornings isn't a good sign.

Just tell her this and get it over with. Perhaps she just doesn’t understand boundaries.
Really though it would be a way worse sign if this was going on behind your back. I think that she’s harmless. Harmless and lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just lonely since her divorce and looking to make friends? And because she wanted another baby and you just had one she can get her "fix"? I don't know, I'm not there. But you sound like you're overreacting. If she hit on your husband, ok, but by your own admission she just makes small talk and once offered him a ride to work (was it in the opposite direction she was going or something else weird?). I just don't get women who don't like any other women talking to their husbands.

I’m her friend though, not my husband. Why does she need to drive him anywhere? I could see if she knew our car was in the shop or something but to just randomly ask is fishy, IMO. Also, yes it is out of her way but she doesn’t even know where he works.

Ummm... you guys are neighbors, sounds like she may just see you guys collectively as "the neighbors" and is trying to be friendly to the family and not just to you. I try to be friendly with my neighbors - husbands, wives, kids, pets - just because I like the idea and feel of community, and I would be there to help either if I sensed anyone needed a hand, i.e a lift to work, etc. Sounds like she may be just trying to bond with her "neighbors" and not just you, per se. You have not been clear as to what constitutes flirting. Are her boobs "accidentally" falling out whenever hubby is near? Is she watering the lawn in tight clingy outfit? Is she a looker?

Maybe she just needs emotional support - going through a divorce can be tough.

+1

[Anonymous]

Be magnanimous and offer your husband once or twice a week to go over and ‘help’ her through this difficult and lonely time.

[Anonymous]

So she’s not allowed to also be your husband’s friend?

You’re really annoying and insecure.

[Anonymous]

OK, the offered ride thing is a little weird. If you are not comfortable, keep your distance, stop going over there and tell your DH to do the same. Just tell her your busy. If he is doing yard work and she comes out, he can say "No time to talk today, Mary, it looks like it's going to rain."

[Anonymous]

If a man was doing this - going up to Op's husband and asking him "So where's your wifey?" or waiting for Op to walk past and going up to walk with her....everyone would say "He's weird", "He's stalking you", "Watch out"!

Well, women can be just as weird and just as obsessed as men are. Op. trust your instinct on this woman. She's giving you a bad vibe for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut but be gentle with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, the offered ride thing is a little weird. If you are not comfortable, keep your distance, stop going over there and tell your DH to do the same. Just tell her your busy. If he is doing yard work and she comes out, he can say "No time to talk today, Mary, it looks like it's going to rain."

Really? A neighbor that can’t make pleasant small talk for a few minutes is a very bad neighbor. That would just be cruel.

And it's ‘you are’ - ‘Just tell her you are busy’.

[Anonymous]

We need more info. We need a picture of your hubby to see if he is that hot.

Look, you are being insecure. You sound like those housewives from the 50s who completely isolated divorced moms. Have empathy.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound like she’s into your husband.

Even if she was, don’t you trust him? She’s not crossing any lines here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

+1. She's probably just lonely and maybe her social skills are a bit rusty. I ask my female neighbors about their DHs, or even make small talk with their DHs, and trust me, I have zero interest in stealing them away.