Drama with my neighbor due to her obvious interest in my husband

[Anonymous]

We’ve been neighbors for 2 years. She never really spoke to me until I had my daughter. Then, out of nowhere, she wants to be my best friend. She invited me over a few times and she seemed very nice. However, she started bringing up my husband a lot in conversation and every time she saw me she would say “Where’s the hubby?” and even seemed disappointed once that I didn’t bring him over to her house with me. Lately, she’s been trying to spark up conversation with him and even offered him a drive to work one morning.

She continues to try to be my “friend” and today when she showed up at the park beside our house and sat beside me. I was ready to leave and didn’t really say anything to her. She looked like she was about to cry because of it.

I feel bad for not sitting and talking with her but I feel like a real friend should not be talking to my husband like this, especially since they’ve never even sat down and talked to each other before.

Am I wrong here? I don’t think she understands what she is doing is kind of pissing me iff.

[Anonymous]

I am so glad you are not my neighbor!

[Anonymous]

Did she have kids? Sounds like she didn't like you pre-kids because for some reason women who give birth decide 'Oh I have a kid, I'm no longer female and can't connect with childless females anymore'. It's really weird and I've noticed it happen with several new mothers.

[Anonymous]

Apart from this insistence on seeing your husband, have you noticed any other strange behaviors?

Anyhow, since she has been nothing but kind, you have to be polite, courteous and let her down lightly.

[Anonymous]

Is she single? What does she look like?

[Anonymous]

Well if you think she does not understand, Explain it to her in a way that make s more sense than what you posted here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been neighbors for 2 years. She never really spoke to me until I had my daughter. Then, out of nowhere, she wants to be my best friend. She invited me over a few times and she seemed very nice. However, she started bringing up my husband a lot in conversation and every time she saw me she would say “Where’s the hubby?” and even seemed disappointed once that I didn’t bring him over to her house with me. Lately, she’s been trying to spark up conversation with him and even offered him a drive to work one morning.

She continues to try to be my “friend” and today when she showed up at the park beside our house and sat beside me. I was ready to leave and didn’t really say anything to her. She looked like she was about to cry because of it.

I feel bad for not sitting and talking with her but I feel like a real friend should not be talking to my husband like this, especially since they’ve never even sat down and talked to each other before.

Am I wrong here? I don’t think she understands what she is doing is kind of pissing me iff.

Talking to your husband like what? You've mentioned that she's offered to drive him to work (which seems like a neighborly thing if they are going to the same place at the same time) and that since having a child, she has wanted to talk to both of you. That doesn't set off any red flags for me, but I'm not there.

What does your DH think?

[Anonymous]

You sound immature. So my response is if your bedroom game is on point, you have nothing to worry about. If nothing I time to up your game. Make live to prevent war/divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:a real friend should not be talking to my husband like this, especially since they’ve never even sat down and talked to each other before.

That's confusing. So they have or haven't talked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound immature. So my response is if your bedroom game is on point, you have nothing to worry about. If nothing I time to up your game. Make live to prevent war/divorce.

I hate people that think like this. A man can have a perfect wife that gives it up daily and still cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a real friend should not be talking to my husband like this, especially since they’ve never even sat down and talked to each other before.

That's confusing. So they have or haven't talked?

She makes small talk while he’s out front but he’s never came over to her house with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been neighbors for 2 years. She never really spoke to me until I had my daughter. Then, out of nowhere, she wants to be my best friend. She invited me over a few times and she seemed very nice. However, she started bringing up my husband a lot in conversation and every time she saw me she would say “Where’s the hubby?” and even seemed disappointed once that I didn’t bring him over to her house with me. Lately, she’s been trying to spark up conversation with him and even offered him a drive to work one morning.

She continues to try to be my “friend” and today when she showed up at the park beside our house and sat beside me. I was ready to leave and didn’t really say anything to her. She looked like she was about to cry because of it.

I feel bad for not sitting and talking with her but I feel like a real friend should not be talking to my husband like this, especially since they’ve never even sat down and talked to each other before.

Am I wrong here? I don’t think she understands what she is doing is kind of pissing me iff.

Talking to your husband like what? You've mentioned that she's offered to drive him to work (which seems like a neighborly thing if they are going to the same place at the same time) and that since having a child, she has wanted to talk to both of you. That doesn't set off any red flags for me, but I'm not there.

What does your DH think?

He even mentioned how weird it is that she will wait for him and walk in the same direction that he is walking so they can talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound immature. So my response is if your bedroom game is on point, you have nothing to worry about. If nothing I time to up your game. Make live to prevent war/divorce.

I hate people that think like this. A man can have a perfect wife that gives it up daily and still cheat.

Exactly. Anyone who says “if your bedroom is on point” sounds immature. Life is not a game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did she have kids? Sounds like she didn't like you pre-kids because for some reason women who give birth decide 'Oh I have a kid, I'm no longer female and can't connect with childless females anymore'. It's really weird and I've noticed it happen with several new mothers.

She has 2 and we have 2 older children that are her children’s ages. She did mention that she wants another baby but she was going through a divorce at the time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's just lonely since her divorce and looking to make friends? And because she wanted another baby and you just had one she can get her "fix"? I don't know, I'm not there. But you sound like you're overreacting. If she hit on your husband, ok, but by your own admission she just makes small talk and once offered him a ride to work (was it in the opposite direction she was going or something else weird?). I just don't get women who don't like any other women talking to their husbands.