Drama with my neighbor due to her obvious interest in my husband

[Anonymous]

Is your neighbor a realtor? If so, watch out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need more info. We need a picture of your hubby to see if he is that hot.

Look, you are being insecure. You sound like those housewives from the 50s who completely isolated divorced moms. Have empathy.

Op isn't the one stalking another woman's husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

+1. She's probably just lonely and maybe her social skills are a bit rusty. I ask my female neighbors about their DHs, or even make small talk with their DHs, and trust me, I have zero interest in stealing them away.

Yeah, I think we all do that. It isn't so much that this neighbor lady talks to Op's husband or asks about him. It's the way she consistently brings him up in conversation and seeks him out - it's more than just a casual pleasantry on her part.

Op is picking up on a weird vibe with this lady. Op should listen to her gut about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more info. We need a picture of your hubby to see if he is that hot.

Look, you are being insecure. You sound like those housewives from the 50s who completely isolated divorced moms. Have empathy.

Op isn't the one stalking another woman's husband.

“Stalking”?? This is why no one takes you people seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

+1. She's probably just lonely and maybe her social skills are a bit rusty. I ask my female neighbors about their DHs, or even make small talk with their DHs, and trust me, I have zero interest in stealing them away.

Yeah, I think we all do that. It isn't so much that this neighbor lady talks to Op's husband or asks about him. It's the way she consistently brings him up in conversation and seeks him out - it's more than just a casual pleasantry on her part.

Op is picking up on a weird vibe with this lady. Op should listen to her gut about it.

OP probably has no other hobbies (other than concocting outlandish neighbor-stalking stories) so the easiest thing to make small talk about is her spouse.

And a PP made a valid point: don’t you trust your husband, OP?

[Anonymous]

You sound like a country bumpkin with suspicious mind who has no life other than your spouse. Thank god my neighbor's not like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

+1. She's probably just lonely and maybe her social skills are a bit rusty. I ask my female neighbors about their DHs, or even make small talk with their DHs, and trust me, I have zero interest in stealing them away.

Yeah, I think we all do that. It isn't so much that this neighbor lady talks to Op's husband or asks about him. It's the way she consistently brings him up in conversation and seeks him out - it's more than just a casual pleasantry on her part.

Op is picking up on a weird vibe with this lady. Op should listen to her gut about it.

OP probably has no other hobbies (other than concocting outlandish neighbor-stalking stories) so the easiest thing to make small talk about is her spouse.

And a PP made a valid point: don’t you trust your husband, OP?

Op hasn't indicated that multiple women are throwing themselves at her husband. She has said that this one particular neighbor lady is expressing an unusual and uncomfortable level of interest in her husband.

Op and her husband have zero obligation to this woman. If she is making them uncomfortable they don't have to deal with her. Period.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. This is weird. OP should trust her instincts

[Anonymous]

Some of the toughest and roughest women I've seen were ugliest women. There's a saying ugliest women are the hardest. They create problems by getting their defenses up from the get go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the toughest and roughest women I've seen were ugliest women. There's a saying ugliest women are the hardest. They create problems by getting their defenses up from the get go.

You sound like a complete and total ass with major boundary issues. I hope you know that.

[Anonymous]

Does your DH have a job that could help her, like in the same field or something? Maybe she's trying to get a business contact from DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The poor woman is going through a divorce and befriends you and is nice to your husband probably out of being your friend and you snub her at park to the point that she almost starts crying? Jesus.

+1. She's probably just lonely and maybe her social skills are a bit rusty. I ask my female neighbors about their DHs, or even make small talk with their DHs, and trust me, I have zero interest in stealing them away.

Agreed. I have zero interest in any of my neighbors/friends husbands but I still Chit chat or might ask about them if there is something going on in their lives - injury, new job, who knows. Also regarding the ride. Did the husband mention something like he was going to be late for the bus etc. the neighbor may have mistaken something he said for meaning he needs a ride. My MIL is like this with people in general - a little socially awkward and overly helpful to the point where it’s a bit odd. Like my cat threw up in front of us and she ran to try to clean it up.

Point is there needs to be more details provided to determine whether she’s hitting on husband or just trying too hard to be YOUR friend.

[Anonymous]

There doesn't need to be any more details. This woman is weirding Op and her husband out. They shouldn't talk badly about her in the community or anything but they also don't have to deal with her.

The one possibility is, that the guy she is divorcing was controlling and not a very friendly, neighborly type. Maybe now that they are splitting up this lady is finally able to start making friends in the neighborhood and that is why she is so intent on chatting up Op and her husband - she's desperate for human interaction. It's also possible that she's looking for a guy friend to take care of handyman type things around her house that her husband used to take care of for her. Regardless of her intent, she is coming across as pushy. She probably does want something....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your neighbor a realtor? If so, watch out.

And there may be something to this, too.

[Anonymous]

You seem very insecure about your marriage. Nothing this woman did/said would have bothered me. My neighbors are always friendlier to my husband than to me and I don’t see anything wrong with it. None of them ever hit on my husband I don’t think and even if they did, my husband will tell me and shut it down in a sec. If what you reported is accurate, you are a mean neighbor OP. She was probably leaving okon by for a friend and she sounds lonely