I feel like I settled

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.

[Anonymous]

OP, you and your friends aren't "interesting" and "impressive". You are insufferable.

You have a real opportunity for personal growth here, with your husband. You don't deserve him now, but see if you can become the kind of person who does.

[Anonymous]

I work at NASA, know many people at USAID and World Bank... how is this at all impressive? Most are just Bureaucrats, except many at World Bank are foreign nationals who come from connected families — they aren’t that impressive, though perhaps their parents are.

None of these people are making millions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.

Yeah, does anyone work at WB/IMF without knowing someone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Myself and my friends are very ambitious. Top of the class, ambitious careers, eager and interested in the greater world and trends. I was the first to settle down and married my now husband when we met at a prestigious grad program. He was the first person in his family to go to college and he was so smart in academics. When we married I was so happy and felt I had picked my perfect match. But then I noticed he took a small job at a small company in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t care much as my career was impressive and occupied me. Meanwhile a few years later my friends are settling down and it’s obvious they are also interested in and seeking ambitious accomplished men, when we get together it’s all about “ wow your man is so smart” or “ wow your husband just made millions” and then they turn to me and are like, “ oh John is so adorable!”

I don’t like that condescending tone. Some have actually told me they are so surprised I ended up with him.

It gets to me.

I also feel like there must be something wrong with me that I wasn’t able to marry a “catch”

You chose your husband for several reasons. If those reasons no longer apply or no longer resonate with you, do him a favor and leave. But I have to ask, if a prestigious job was so important to you, why didn't you speak up when he was choosing his small job in the middle of nowhere? Seems to me you could've influenced his decision if you cared that much, but for whatever reason you didn't. You valued different things than your friends did, you need to mature a bit and stop being so insecure.

[Anonymous]

troll

[Anonymous]

This sounds sort of familiar- "globablist" married to "redneck" husband. It's probably a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t other people looking down on him; it’s you looking down on him.

This!! Omg. Set him free to marry someone who will adore him. You are not right for one another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds sort of familiar- "globablist" married to "redneck" husband. It's probably a troll.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.

Yeah, does anyone work at WB/IMF without knowing someone?

Yes, the vast majority of people, certainly at the IMF. They got there through their academic credentials and hard work. Your jealousy is showing.

[Anonymous]

I don’t buy this I have really rich/snobby/successful friends and we don’t talk about each other’s husbands.

[Anonymous]

I've traveled in some pretty rarefied circles but I've never heard someone refer to themselves as a globalist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.

Yeah, does anyone work at WB/IMF without knowing someone?

yes, my American-born DH landed a job there w/o knowing anyone (he's also quite successful there, having risen through the ranks to a top leadership position).

[Anonymous]

Maybe this will help you: flip and think about this from your husband's perspective. What are the things he could feel he "settled" on? I'll help you start: sure, you're worldly and successful...but you're also a negative person and high maintenance. You're insecure, self-important and unappreciative. I'm guessing he's had to deal with that (and all the accompanying drama/baggage) on a daily basis for years; maybe he could've been a lot happier if he'd married someone who was cheery, kind, and positive.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a privileged brat. Also, given that you have similar educational backgrounds he may prefer being a big fish in a small pond whereas you are a small fish in a big pond. His career is probably more fulfilling than yours, which is why you wrote this horrible post--to maintain your feelings of superiority.