I feel like I settled

[Anonymous]

OP, you have been posting on DCUM about the same thing for quite some time now. Despite hundreds of responses giving you sound advice, you are back yet again, still looking for what?

You shouldn’t make any life-changing decisions right now, because you have a track record of making poor decisions. Get therapy — it’s the only thing that can help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is not social media. It’s an anonymous discussion forum. It’s not like op created a self-identifying username.

Oh that'll make such a huge difference in her husbands interpretation of her displeasure with his "Average Joe-ness"...
She wasn't saying it on Facebook or Twitter she was just saying it on DCUM.
I feel so much better knowing that while she thinks I'm a boring piece of shit and she married down she only expressed it on an anonymous forum.
Whew!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is not social media. It’s an anonymous discussion forum. It’s not like op created a self-identifying username.

Oh that'll make such a huge difference in her husbands interpretation of her displeasure with his "Average Joe-ness"...
She wasn't saying it on Facebook or Twitter she was just saying it on DCUM.
I feel so much better knowing that while she thinks I'm a boring piece of shit and she married down she only expressed it on an anonymous forum.
Whew!

Better than a circle of hens that cluck.

[Anonymous]

I can hear the struggle that's going on in your mind by reading your post. Sometimes when we start to compare ourselves to others, our lives, marriages, jobs, kids, etc. never measure up to our friends, coworkers or neighbors lives, marriages, jobs, kids, etc. Have you thought about the good characteristics that your husband has? Maybe consider changing how you talk about your husband to your friends. There is a good article about differences in spouses and and feeling stuck.[https://bit.ly/2IE9hNp] Have you thought about speaking positive, uplifting things about your husband when you are with your friends? Sometimes our feelings and emotions can come across when we discuss our spouses to other people. Have you considered that maybe your friends are picking up on your tone when you speak about your husband? Maybe think back about why you married your husband and what still makes him a good "catch". Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

All women think they settled. They watched the royal wedding this weekend and thought about how they deserve a prince too. They should get divorced like Meghan and find their own prince! Their oafish husband is the only thing holding them back, LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All women think they settled. They watched the royal wedding this weekend and thought about how they deserve a prince too. They should get divorced like Meghan and find their own prince! Their oafish husband is the only thing holding them back, LOL.

Well let’s face it Meghan settled for the second string prince...always a prince never a king.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women think they settled. They watched the royal wedding this weekend and thought about how they deserve a prince too. They should get divorced like Meghan and find their own prince! Their oafish husband is the only thing holding them back, LOL.

Well let’s face it Meghan settled for the second string prince...always a prince never a king.

She looked so unhappy at that shotgun wedding.

[Anonymous]

Either get rid of your husband or get rid of your friends. I would get rid of the friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is not social media. It’s an anonymous discussion forum. It’s not like op created a self-identifying username.

Oh that'll make such a huge difference in her husbands interpretation of her displeasure with his "Average Joe-ness"...
She wasn't saying it on Facebook or Twitter she was just saying it on DCUM.
I feel so much better knowing that while she thinks I'm a boring piece of shit and she married down she only expressed it on an anonymous forum.
Whew!

My ex-wife used to post lies about me here in DCUM. When I found out the wheels of divorce began to turn more swiftly. Now I hang around here to warn other entitles witches that what they write here, but more importantly think, can bite their ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is not social media. It’s an anonymous discussion forum. It’s not like op created a self-identifying username.

Oh that'll make such a huge difference in her husbands interpretation of her displeasure with his "Average Joe-ness"...
She wasn't saying it on Facebook or Twitter she was just saying it on DCUM.
I feel so much better knowing that while she thinks I'm a boring piece of shit and she married down she only expressed it on an anonymous forum.
Whew!

My ex-wife used to post lies about me here in DCUM. When I found out the wheels of divorce began to turn more swiftly. Now I hang around here to warn other entitles witches that what they write here, but more importantly think, can bite their ass.

What a fulfilling life you have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Myself and my friends are very ambitious. Top of the class, ambitious careers, eager and interested in the greater world and trends. I was the first to settle down and married my now husband when we met at a prestigious grad program. He was the first person in his family to go to college and he was so smart in academics. When we married I was so happy and felt I had picked my perfect match. But then I noticed he took a small job at a small company in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t care much as my career was impressive and occupied me. Meanwhile a few years later my friends are settling down and it’s obvious they are also interested in and seeking ambitious accomplished men, when we get together it’s all about “ wow your man is so smart” or “ wow your husband just made millions” and then they turn to me and are like, “ oh John is so adorable!”

I don’t like that condescending tone. Some have actually told me they are so surprised I ended up with him.

It gets to me.

I also feel like there must be something wrong with me that I wasn’t able to marry a “catch”

You and your friends sound insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.

Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.

NP.
You are BITTER and a braggart! Why? Arent all of us allowed to enjoy different lives? Damn, you’re small!

yeah, that was a pretty weird and bitter tangent. someone doesn't seem so happy with their life choices, despite all the bragging.

[Anonymous]

Suddenly, you think you are too good for your dh?
Think again. You are doing what your so call friends are doing, looking down at him. Did he do anything wrong? or not good enough.
Out of respect, maybe you need to get out before you start treating him like the others.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you settled well below your market value- Jeff Bezos was quoted that losing you was the greatest mistake of his life, and the 8x10 of you that Prince Harry keeps on his nightstand has created quite a stir at Buckingham Palance...Giselle’s pissed, too, as Tom calls your name at the height of passion...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you settled well below your market value- Jeff Bezos was quoted that losing you was the greatest mistake of his life, and the 8x10 of you that Prince Harry keeps on his nightstand has created quite a stir at Buckingham Palance...Giselle’s pissed, too, as Tom calls your name at the height of passion...

lol that was funny.

I know OP is not around, but the truth is that many women struggle at one time or another with thinking they could have done better. The irony is that when you indulge this thinking you degrade yourself and your marriage instead of elevating yourself and your marriage. So knock it off and focus on being the person you want to be and be a good friend/lover to your DH. Unless you decide you want to get divorced and then just do it already and get it over with.