husband meeting up with female trainer and friends tonight out of town

[Anonymous]

He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

+1

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.. Very few guys would even have a female trainer unless its J Micahels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

Desperate is that last word anyone would use to describe me. I’m pretty confident and tough. Yes, I’d like to believe him but it really doesn’t seem probable that this is innocent. Even if it is, it’s wrong on so many levels given our history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll.. Very few guys would even have a female trainer unless its J Micahels

oP here Not a troll. I don’t know that may be true. I’m female and have had both. I’ve also sensed flirtation before with make trainers and shut it down quickly. But I never thought about male with a female trainer. I believe him he’s being bounced around but all the other stuff is pretty suspicious.,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

Desperate is that last word anyone would use to describe me. I’m pretty confident and tough. Yes, I’d like to believe him but it really doesn’t seem probable that this is innocent. Even if it is, it’s wrong on so many levels given our history.

Your desperation comes through in the email you sent him. You know he's a known liar. If there is something elicit and shady going on, this is hardly something he'd be honest with you about. Yet you ask him so many questions and show him all your cards, giving him all the information he needs to say exactly what he needs to say to get the desired effect from you.

You need to take a step back and get a grip. This is not an honest man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

+1

if he hadn't cheated before, i'd be fine. But he cheated. Your lack of trust is on him due to his actions. His lame ass excuse trying to make it sound lie you are an uptight bitch is not cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

Desperate is that last word anyone would use to describe me. I’m pretty confident and tough. Yes, I’d like to believe him but it really doesn’t seem probable that this is innocent. Even if it is, it’s wrong on so many levels given our history.

Your desperation comes through in the email you sent him. You know he's a known liar. If there is something elicit and shady going on, this is hardly something he'd be honest with you about. Yet you ask him so many questions and show him all your cards, giving him all the information he needs to say exactly what he needs to say to get the desired effect from you.

You need to take a step back and get a grip. This is not an honest man.

I’m taking your counsel. I hear you. I’m a pretty straightforward, very honest person so it’s hard for me to think in terms of “ showing my hand” in a strategic sense. Out of curiosity, how would you have handled tonight? Honest question. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Completely shady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

+1

if he hadn't cheated before, i'd be fine. But he cheated. Your lack of trust is on him due to his actions. His lame ass excuse trying to make it sound lie you are an uptight bitch is not cool.

Yeah the “you’re being crazy and spun up” lines made my blood broil.

[Anonymous]

I would say: I do not feel comfortable with this. I ask you not to go out of respect for me.

If he goes- I'd be done. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's playing you like a fiddle and you're desperate to believe him.

+1

if he hadn't cheated before, i'd be fine. But he cheated. Your lack of trust is on him due to his actions. His lame ass excuse trying to make it sound lie you are an uptight bitch is not cool.

Yeah the “you’re being crazy and spun up” lines made my blood broil.

Yup. Honestly- this alone tells me this man does not respect you. Kick him to the curb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His response

OMG. Really honey this is a bit crazy. I am simply having dinner with a group of them and going home to bed. You have nothing to worry about or get this spun up about. I love you and have ZERO interest in anyone else

Going home to bed with which one?

You have clearly stated you are not ok with this. He is going ahead anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say: I do not feel comfortable with this. I ask you not to go out of respect for me.

If he goes- I'd be done. Sorry OP.

I guess I did the first part and not the second. He’s out now and said again that I’m being ridiculous and will grab dinner and call me when he’s back to his room. I’m in no mood to talk and am going to try to get to sleep. It’s late here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll.. Very few guys would even have a female trainer unless its J Micahels

Not true. I'm a trainer and always have several male clients. When I was involved with MMA, most of my clients were male. That said, I would never meet a male client for dinner. Unless my husband was with me, of course. Ethical, professional trainers don't put themselves in that situation.