husband meeting up with female trainer and friends tonight out of town

[Anonymous]

I love how women post these and almost always say, "my husband is handsome and very successful".

I've lived in the DC area for a while now, and I'm in my early 30's .....and 90% of the men in DC are not "handsome". Rarely are they both handsome and successful.

Some are successful at work, but not so much with the home life.



OP's husband sounds like he's up to no good. Just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman who had an affair almost ten years ago. My husband and I reconciled, but after a lot of work on myself and my marriage and helping my husband heal. We are in a great place now.

BUT...if I ever went ahead and did something that even remotely made my husband uncomfortable, he would be out the door. Which is his right, I agree with him. And that is what I find most upsetting here...you told him this dinner and interactions with the trainer made you uncomfortable, and he went ahead and did things anyway. Especially considering his history. That is disrespectful and makes me question whether he truly learned anything after the last experience with affairs.

I'm sorry OP. If I were you I'd quietly start gathering information and see if it matches up with what you get told. Maybe even go in and do a couples session of training to meet this trainer. A second chance from a betrayed spouse is a huge gift...if a former wayward spouse can't appreciate that then they definitely don't deserve a third chance. Good luck.

He sounds like a pig. He also has no business having dinner with a personal trainer. Who does that?

It almost sounds like he enjoys her distress and gets a thrill out of it. I'm in the camp that he's been cheating all along.

[Anonymous]

Why are you insecure, did you let yourself go

[Anonymous]

I hope OP got out and scheduled an appt with this trainer to get the story. Not in a confrontational/crazy way, but in a "do you even know this guy/can you verify this story" way... because otherwise I think the trainer should be concerned this guy stalked her trip to Vegas- it just makes no sense that a female would even entertain sharing trip plans/meeting a married client who happens to be in Vegas at the same time.

This is very specific and you will only recognize this if you've seen it, but I feel like OP is one of these people who gets nervous/ lies preemptively or for no reason about a weird detail to distract from another area, and in doing so trips himself up/attracts more attention so that he can put up a fuss/play victim and pout/then go out and do what he wanted to do in the first place. Ugh. Major mindf*ck.

[Anonymous]

No OP shouldn't talk to his trainer. She can find out on her own. Tons of ways.

[Anonymous]

handsome is in the eye of the beholder. He's successful, makes $$, thus, he is handsome.

[Anonymous]

OP can you please please update us? We’re invested!

[Anonymous]

Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

Can you give us any more information? Good luck! Hugs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

Can you give us any more information? Good luck! Hugs!

No I think that’s enough. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

Can you give us any more information? Good luck! Hugs!

No I think that’s enough. Thank you!

Yeah, that's enough. Thanks for the update and good luck.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP any updates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

Can you give us any more information? Good luck! Hugs!

What more information do you need? Why do you need it?

Honestly, there are a lot of bored people here slavering to hear the misfortune of others. I’d never post anything personal here. DCUM will drink your tears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are working on us. Working on him understanding why this is not ok, how it affects me, what to do in the future. I don’t think he’s cheating. I just think he open the door to wide to potentially go down that path. I know you all will say I’m being dumb or naive. We both want our marriage to work, so that’s where we are.

Can you give us any more information? Good luck! Hugs!

What more information do you need? Why do you need it?

Honestly, there are a lot of bored people here slavering to hear the misfortune of others. I’d never post anything personal here. DCUM will drink your tears.

She posted something personal and people replied. She started it and can't be mad people want to know. It's like watching a drama and never seeing the ending.

[Anonymous]

Op here I’m not mad people are asking. I understand. There just isn’t a lot to share right now. I am keeping close tabs on things and we have had a number of good talks. One day at a time.