Embarrassed by trashy in laws

[Anonymous]

I guess you don't believe that men marry women like their mothers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You love your spouse? How did s/he not wind up the same as their parents?

Yeah I love my spouse. I’m realizing he’s not that different from them. He gets too drunk too and gets wobbly; thinks climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless.

From this response alone they should be embarrased if you. You are ignorant. Maybe it's to your advantage they get drunk and don't notice how ignorant you are.

[Anonymous]

Getting rid of my trashy in laws was one of the top benefits of divorce.

[Anonymous]

It was a rude awakening for me when I met the extended relatives on my MIL’s side. FIL’s side also basically blue collar with all the stereotypes fitting right in. I came from highly educated parents with professional careers, and both sets of grandparents were also highly educated, wealthy, cultured, etc. I’m not saying blue collar workers can’t be cultured or that advanced degrees from stellar institutions automatically trumps someone without a college degree. But I had a culture shock once I joined my husband’s family. I underestimated how much time I would end up having to interact with them (weekly) and how miserable those visits would be. We meet up for every single holiday plus Fathers Day Mothers Day extended families’ birthdays, 12 birthdays. My first year of marriage, I thought, how did I end up here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was a rude awakening for me when I met the extended relatives on my MIL’s side. FIL’s side also basically blue collar with all the stereotypes fitting right in. I came from highly educated parents with professional careers, and both sets of grandparents were also highly educated, wealthy, cultured, etc. I’m not saying blue collar workers can’t be cultured or that advanced degrees from stellar institutions automatically trumps someone without a college degree. But I had a culture shock once I joined my husband’s family. I underestimated how much time I would end up having to interact with them (weekly) and how miserable those visits would be. We meet up for every single holiday plus Fathers Day Mothers Day extended families’ birthdays, 12 birthdays. My first year of marriage, I thought, how did I end up here?

. They drink a ton, behave like drunks, say eye popping things, engage in embarrassing behaviors in public. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also get drunk and wobbly. I also think climate change is real! I also have a useless liberal arts degree!!!! Well, ok, I draw the line there, it was of use, just not to make big money.

Me too! I also throw parties at which I serve beer, tap water, and costco veggie trays and the main entertainment is adults gabbing about sports and life while the children amuse themselves.

[Anonymous]

White trash voted for Trump. I'd be embarrassed too OP

[Anonymous]

Don’t have kids OP! They will be your kids grandparents. You didn’t think this through very well did you?

[Anonymous]

My DH's father's side if the family is like this and they're all a little weird/kooky. But they are nice people and we have a tacit agreement to not discuss politics or crazy conspiracy theories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting rid of my trashy in laws was one of the top benefits of divorce.

Mine too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess you don't believe that men marry women like their mothers?

Not always. Sometimes men with angry mothers marry bubbly women, in hopes of leaving the angry mother behind. (Same is true of daughters and their husbands, in relationship to their fathers).

[Anonymous]

I would find them incredibly and endlessly fun and exciting. I have a Ph.D from Ivy, come from a good family (by your standards), know how to perform when the situation calls for refined sensibilities, and I'm a democrat. They would crack me up. Spice of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You love your spouse? How did s/he not wind up the same as their parents?

Yeah I love my spouse. I’m realizing he’s not that different from them. He gets too drunk too and gets wobbly; thinks climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless.

Serious question - what attracted you to your DH in the first place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You love your spouse? How did s/he not wind up the same as their parents?

Yeah I love my spouse. I’m realizing he’s not that different from them. He gets too drunk too and gets wobbly; thinks climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless.

Well, then he's not all bad. Liberal arts degrees were created for schools to make $$ off of morons who couldn't handle a real degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You love your spouse? How did s/he not wind up the same as their parents?

Yeah I love my spouse. I’m realizing he’s not that different from them. He gets too drunk too and gets wobbly; thinks climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless.

You must have made a typo. Don’t you mean he believes climate change isn’t real, like his folks?

Yup, that would be the full stereotype.