DS wants his GF to sleep over

[Anonymous]

I'm relieved this wasn't written by a parent of DD's BF as they're almost 18 and spend several hours alone and I'm not sure what difference it makes which hours they are. At 16 I would definitely say no; pushing 18 I'm less certain.

[Anonymous]

Nope, and I would not be pleased that he used the privilege he was bestowed for NYE as a bargaining chip to push the issue.

[Anonymous]

OP there's something wrong with you if you even think this is a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP there's something wrong with you if you even think this is a question.

There's always a wise guy in the bunch. Go take a chill pill.

[Anonymous]

I would have never let him stay over on nye. To not drive home?!? You opened the door for him to drink and not worry about driving home. You should have picked him up. Two 16 year olds do not need to spend the night over each other houses. You are not bonding at night, you are sleeping. Sleep in your own bed.

[Anonymous]

No, you aren't being too strict.
I don't believe in waiting until marriage and I'm not against teens having safe sex, but I'm not rolling out the red carpet and laying rose petals on the bed for them either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, not too strict. That would never happen in our house. If they want to have sex, they will find a way, so you may want to be having new and direct safe sex and pregnancy discussions. But, as for me, I don't intend to give them the opportunity.

Hell no.

They can figure out how to fool around without my help or endorsement.

[Anonymous]

Not too strict. He just wants to hook up. You aren't his friend. Good job mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say yes but have her sleep in the guest room.

The only way I would do that is if I tied a string of empty soda cans around the door knob to the guest room.

Love this. I mean, who didn’t sneak out of their room in the middle of the night after parents were asleep ... better make sure you change the sheets in the guest room or DSs room in the morning if you allow this, OP.

The sheets would be the least of my concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have never let him stay over on nye. To not drive home?!? You opened the door for him to drink and not worry about driving home. You should have picked him up. Two 16 year olds do not need to spend the night over each other houses. You are not bonding at night, you are sleeping. Sleep in your own bed.

OP here. NYE --I didn't want him on the roads with the other drivers who are likely intoxicated...not an issue of him driving drunk. Plus he and his friends don't drink. As for me picking him up...same issue. I don't want to be on the roads. If you think risking it to pick up your kid on NYE is worth it, that is your decision. I feel I made the right decision under the circumstances. Something about the tone of your post makes me believe you are an unhappy person PP. Try not to be so judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have never let him stay over on nye. To not drive home?!? You opened the door for him to drink and not worry about driving home. You should have picked him up. Two 16 year olds do not need to spend the night over each other houses. You are not bonding at night, you are sleeping. Sleep in your own bed.

OP here. NYE --I didn't want him on the roads with the other drivers who are likely intoxicated...not an issue of him driving drunk. Plus he and his friends don't drink. As for me picking him up...same issue. I don't want to be on the roads. If you think risking it to pick up your kid on NYE is worth it, that is your decision. I feel I made the right decision under the circumstances. Something about the tone of your post makes me believe you are an unhappy person PP. Try not to be so judgmental.

+1

[Anonymous]

FWIW my cousin is 18 and he had his now ex-girlfriend sleep over during the summer.

[Anonymous]

No! I would never allow this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you aren't being too strict.
I don't believe in waiting until marriage and I'm not against teens having safe sex, but I'm not rolling out the red carpet and laying rose petals on the bed for them either.

Yup. I'm in my late 20s and my parents will let my fiancee and I share a bed when we're over for holidays, etc. (and my parents and I always had a very open discussion/relationship about sex...we're not prudes), but letting a high schooler have a sleepover with his girlfriend is ridiculous. I try not to side-eye people's parenting choices, but I'd really question a parent who allowed that. It strikes me as extraordinarily trashy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah no way