How to comfortably return to company I left over sexual harassment issue?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you stand a chance in hell to even be offered that job.

that would actually be illegal retaliation.

Do you really think they would state this as the reason they don't hire her? Please.

And I agree with everything 10:57 says.

News gets out. You'd be surprised how dumb people are about this stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you stand a chance in hell to even be offered that job.

that would actually be illegal retaliation.

When has something being illegal stopped anyone? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here — just catching up on the responses. Thank you for the advice. If I want the job I am not letting the fact that I was victimized a few years ago stop me from applying. I would never work with this man again though and don’t intend to engage unless I have to. BTW I didn’t gossip,
Others did. What happened to me was fairly common knowledge-which I know sounds crazy. I agree with the pp who said I should make sure I really want the job before subjecting myself to the whole thing. I do think I will get an interview at minimum, based on how specific the job is and how highly I am respected in my field. I am low drama and that actually contributed to my (bad) decision not to report. Although at the time I was warned not to...

Was this man your immediate supervisor or did you work together on a team?

I worked in HR for 10+ years & if a former employee was looking to come back to the company, the first thing we'd do is review your employment personnel history with us (salaries, raises, absences, grievances or alterations, etc).

The very close second thing we would do is contact your former direct supervisor (if they were still employed by the company). Ava employees folder will only tell us so much & speaking to your former boss gives us great insight as to the type of employee you were (were they reliable? were they consistently tardy? did they cause drama? etc.).

Of course we'd never come out & openly ask such questions of your former manager, however we do ask questions that will bait them into speaking more candidly about the candidate & it usually doesn't take much effort to get them spilling what they know.

If this man was your boss at any time that you were with this company & if he would be in a higher position than you now AND he's well respected in the company or does his job successfully, I'm sorry but you probably don't have a shot at getting the job. He'll probably make up some excuse that paints you in a very negative light & you'll never, ever know the truth about what he said because HR won't tell you what it was, they'll just tell you that they're going with another candidate.

I'm sure you know this now but for future reference, always, always, ALWAYS report harassment of any form to HR.
Even if you don't want to sue the company or you don't want him terminated, you at the very least want it to stop, as you should never, ever be forced to work in an unsafe or hostile work environment. Nobody else will ever know that you went to HR either.

At the very least it should always be documented, because if this sleazeball has the audacity & utter gall to do this to you so openly without any concern of retribution, termination or even mortification, he's probably also brazen enough to be doing it to multiple women... not just you.

[Anonymous]

Op here. At this point would it make sense to talk to hr, even off the record as in not a formal complaint? In this company HR has my written performance reviews, which are glowing, including from this man. Yes he was my direct supervisor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. At this point would it make sense to talk to hr, even off the record as in not a formal complaint? In this company HR has my written performance reviews, which are glowing, including from this man. Yes he was my direct supervisor.

Right before you apply for a job with them? OP, are you for real?

[Anonymous]

PP again. There is no such thing as "off the record" when it comes to sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Why would you consider returning to this company?? The company didn't protect you. The best revenge is moving on. Get some therapy if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you stand a chance in hell to even be offered that job.

that would actually be illegal retaliation.

When has something being illegal stopped anyone? Please.

I didn't say it would stop it, just that OP would have a case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you stand a chance in hell to even be offered that job.

that would actually be illegal retaliation.

When has something being illegal stopped anyone? Please.

I didn't say it would stop it, just that OP would have a case.

She would have no case. They can give a million other reasons as to why they didn't hire her. No one is obligated to hire or rehire anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. At this point would it make sense to talk to hr, even off the record as in not a formal complaint? In this company HR has my written performance reviews, which are glowing, including from this man. Yes he was my direct supervisor.

Right before you apply for a job with them? OP, are you for real?

+1
OP still has poor judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. At this point would it make sense to talk to hr, even off the record as in not a formal complaint? In this company HR has my written performance reviews, which are glowing, including from this man. Yes he was my direct supervisor.

Oh, good God... really?

You're not even an employee yet and you're already starting drama & that's exactly the way that HR is going to view you... like you're loony tunes.

No chance in hell they're taking you back of this guy was your former boss & he's still held in high regard, as they will definitely go to him for his opinion on hiring you back.

Move on... they cannot possibly be the only company you're so highly qualified to work at.


Something tells me that this has absolutely NOTHING to do with being qualified for the job & EVERYTHING to do with these unresolved issues you've been hanging onto with your former boss. You should seek some therapy.

[Anonymous]

Do you by any chance have a 600K earning startup seeking DH?


Also is this the *only* company you can work in? What field and pay, others can offer suggestions.

[Anonymous]

we all get in trouble for Sexual Harassment it happen to the best of us.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Man you guys are tough on me. I have been trying not to out myself here because the situation is pretty specific. To give enough context for the advice to be useful to me, though, HR contacted me personally. The hiring partner knows me and wants to hire me. The job is mine if I want it. I am not sure if I should address this old issue with HR. I have no interest in drama. I have no mental health issues. I just want to make sure I know what I am getting into and figure out if I should be asking for any protections. The job is in another area of the firm far from the predator, but he would still be senior to me in the org chart. I have a glowing reference from him in writing and actually think he would vouch for me, crazy as that may sound. And yes, I suppose nothing is confidential, but they’re not going to force me to sue if I consult with them!

[Anonymous]

Also alas no 600k partner. I will have to look for that thread at some point.