How to comfortably return to company I left over sexual harassment issue?

[Anonymous]

Sorry. You can apply but won't this job if they talk to him. If you do get and accept the job it won't be long before he makes your life hell and all your new co-workers are talking about you. Move on from that company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have moved on. I am not looking for a fight. I hope to never see or interact with this person and will do my best not to. The question was whether or not I should do anything to protect myself. I am not a troll. I haven't even had a chance to look at that other thread you're referring to. I actually have no interest in retribution; I just want to go to work and do my job. but I have to say, this thread is exhibit a why I didn't report in the first place. You get called a drama queen. You get called a liar. You get called hostile. You're "looking for trouble," or have ulterior motives. I strongly suggest that the people doubting me or my motives take a good inward look. You are part of the problem, whether you're a man or a woman.

As was said before, its because of your attitude and refusal to listen. Not because of what happened to you. Its your personality, your stubbornness, and your refusal to see outside yourself that is causing people to respond in this manner. Zero to do with sexual harrassment.

Exhibit A of why women don't report harrassment in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have moved on. I am not looking for a fight. I hope to never see or interact with this person and will do my best not to. The question was whether or not I should do anything to protect myself. I am not a troll. I haven't even had a chance to look at that other thread you're referring to. I actually have no interest in retribution; I just want to go to work and do my job. but I have to say, this thread is exhibit a why I didn't report in the first place. You get called a drama queen. You get called a liar. You get called hostile. You're "looking for trouble," or have ulterior motives. I strongly suggest that the people doubting me or my motives take a good inward look. You are part of the problem, whether you're a man or a woman.

As was said before, its because of your attitude and refusal to listen. Not because of what happened to you. Its your personality, your stubbornness, and your refusal to see outside yourself that is causing people to respond in this manner. Zero to do with sexual harrassment.

Exhibit A of why women don't report harrassment in the workplace.

Yes, you've already proven to us that you're a lawyer, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have moved on. I am not looking for a fight. I hope to never see or interact with this person and will do my best not to. The question was whether or not I should do anything to protect myself. I am not a troll. I haven't even had a chance to look at that other thread you're referring to. I actually have no interest in retribution; I just want to go to work and do my job. but I have to say, this thread is exhibit a why I didn't report in the first place. You get called a drama queen. You get called a liar. You get called hostile. You're "looking for trouble," or have ulterior motives. I strongly suggest that the people doubting me or my motives take a good inward look. You are part of the problem, whether you're a man or a woman.

As was said before, its because of your attitude and refusal to listen. Not because of what happened to you. Its your personality, your stubbornness, and your refusal to see outside yourself that is causing people to respond in this manner. Zero to do with sexual harrassment.

Exhibit A of why women don't report harrassment in the workplace.

Yes, you've already proven to us that you're a lawyer, OP.

I'm not the OP, jackass.

[Anonymous]

NP and this thread is a case study in blaming the victim.

OP, you can apply, but you'll be swimming upstream. Chances are, they'll want to protect themselves and won't hire you. Sorry to hear this happened to you, and I hope you can find a better path forward than this place.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I applied. Now that the application is in though, I am having cold feet. That’s to be expected though. It’s a tough decision because this job is unique and a massive promotion, and there’s no equivalent job locally. And I need to stay in the area. At the same time, I hate putting myself out there like this. I’m stronger than I was then, but there’s still that old vulnerability. So I am going to try to put it out of my head until I need to think about it. If I get no reply, I’ll move on. Who knows, maybe I’ll get a response and decide I don’t want to deal in the end. I won’t know if I don’t try, and I know I can handle whatever comes my way. Thanks again to the PPs who took on some of the haters. I really wonder why that one person cares so much about stopping me in my tracks. Weird.

[Anonymous]

OP here with update. I was hired. I did speak to HR after the offer was extended and am comfortable with the situation. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. I was hired. I did speak to HR after the offer was extended and am comfortable with the situation. Thank you.

wow, amazing! good luck. you deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Thank you—fortunately it was a very quick and easy process!

[Anonymous]

I have a few questions that you are free to not answer if you don't want to:

Did you have an interview with the hiring manager?
Did you tell HR about the sexual harassment after you got the offer?
Do you know if they got a reference from the supervisor who harassed you?

[Anonymous]

Congrats, op

[Anonymous]

To answer questions...
Yes they got a reference from the harasser--he gave a glowing one as he should have done. I did excellent work and all my written reviews were stellar. He did not try to derail this in any way.
Yes I talked to HR after I had the offer
I was very undramatic and all business about it, framed it as a statement "given the history I assume I will not ever be expected to report to x." I did not have to state the history, they acknowledged there had been issues. No one labeled it for what it was. It was clear we all were looking forward but I would have some protections in place. Hope that helps.

[Anonymous]

Well that was the fastest hiring process in history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well that was the fastest hiring process in history.

The OP said she was asked to apply. Of course it was fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer questions...
Yes they got a reference from the harasser--he gave a glowing one as he should have done. I did excellent work and all my written reviews were stellar. He did not try to derail this in any way.
Yes I talked to HR after I had the offer
I was very undramatic and all business about it, framed it as a statement "given the history I assume I will not ever be expected to report to x." I did not have to state the history, they acknowledged there had been issues. No one labeled it for what it was. It was clear we all were looking forward but I would have some protections in place. Hope that helps.

You sound like a rockstar OP. The one thing I WOULD still be wary of is why they kept your harasser on even though the incident was well known and he should have been fired. Has he continued his pattern? As we know now from the headlines, these guys are not "one and done." They tend to be serial harassers. And the "stars" are given a lot of leeway. This may not impact you directly (because you're a rockstar and he apparently knows his place with you now) but it's something to keep in mind. That said, maybe there were extenuating circumstances on his part (alcohol? personal stress? legitimate crush on you?) that made it a one-off. It's hard to tell. But the good thing is that the fact that the company reached out to you AND HIRED YOU BACK shows that they are at least somewhat confident they can manage the complications. Either that or the place is a mess. Who knows! Good luck!