Sex is repulsive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming OP is a woman?

Playing the odds. Women are much more likely to have negative views of sex than men are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming OP is a woman?

Playing the odds. Women are much more likely to have negative views of sex than men are.

This is true.

I'd say for me (woman) sex can be repulsive when I'm not connected to my partner. When I'm connected, it's awesome. Could it be, OP, that you and your SO need some help connecting?

[Anonymous]

Life is too short for that shit. Sex is not repulsive but your outlook on life is. You are not a victim or a martyr. Divorce and move on.

Signed,

A woman who loves sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming OP is a woman?

Playing the odds. Women are much more likely to have negative views of sex than men are.

This is true.

I'd say for me (woman) sex can be repulsive when I'm not connected to my partner. When I'm connected, it's awesome. Could it be, OP, that you and your SO need some help connecting?

This.. when I'm not connected to my DH (ie, bitter/angry with him), and I tried having sex with him, it made me feel gross. Otherwise, it can be awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming OP is a woman?

Playing the odds. Women are much more likely to have negative views of sex than men are.

This is true.

I'd say for me (woman) sex can be repulsive when I'm not connected to my partner. When I'm connected, it's awesome. Could it be, OP, that you and your SO need some help connecting?

This.. when I'm not connected to my DH (ie, bitter/angry with him), and I tried having sex with him, it made me feel gross. Otherwise, it can be awesome.

Then here we have the answer to discussions in other threads, about why a woman shouldn't have sex with her husband just because she's married to him! She should do it if and when they both feel like it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming OP is a woman?

Playing the odds. Women are much more likely to have negative views of sex than men are.

This is true.

I'd say for me (woman) sex can be repulsive when I'm not connected to my partner. When I'm connected, it's awesome. Could it be, OP, that you and your SO need some help connecting?

This.. when I'm not connected to my DH (ie, bitter/angry with him), and I tried having sex with him, it made me feel gross. Otherwise, it can be awesome.

Then here we have the answer to discussions in other threads, about why a woman shouldn't have sex with her husband just because she's married to him! She should do it if and when they both feel like it!

The point is that both SHOULD feel like it. At least majority of the time. Otherwise why stay together?

[Anonymous]

The vast majority of time couples start out having frequent and good sex. Time changes that. In most of my friends it's been the slow resentment and degradation of the relationship because the women are doing 100% of the emotional labor, 75% of the household labor, and 50% of the work labor. Their DHs stop trying too. Like zero setting the mood, they just move in on them with some crass line or nothing at all and then expect their wives to want them. Get it together, dudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The vast majority of time couples start out having frequent and good sex. Time changes that. In most of my friends it's been the slow resentment and degradation of the relationship because the women are doing 100% of the emotional labor, 75% of the household labor, and 50% of the work labor. Their DHs stop trying too. Like zero setting the mood, they just move in on them with some crass line or nothing at all and then expect their wives to want them. Get it together, dudes.

Lose weight and stop whining so much.

[Anonymous]

To me, sex would be repulsive except with a very narrow handful of people.

[Anonymous]

Have you always been sex repulsed?

It's not outside the realm of normal and nothing to feel bad about, or change if you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it's complete bullshit. I am a married man that often does things for my wife that I'm not particularly fond of. We have been taking dancing lessons twice a week for an hour each night and I really don't like it. I would rather be at home watching a ballgame or sipping on some wine.

Why do I do it? I love my wife and can see the joy that it brings her. Its only 2 hours a week and this woman has put up with some of my quirks (minor but just like any other person they are there) for 20+ years.

Most women conflate sex into their marriage with every other issue under the sun. Let's say that you are talking 3 times a week and each time is 30 minutes. That's 1 1/2 hours a week?

If you don't like the guy any more divorce. If you do, screw him a couple times a week and fake liking it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd say for me (woman) sex can be repulsive when I'm not connected to my partner. When I'm connected, it's awesome. Could it be, OP, that you and your SO need some help connecting?

This.. when I'm not connected to my DH (ie, bitter/angry with him), and I tried having sex with him, it made me feel gross. Otherwise, it can be awesome.

Then here we have the answer to discussions in other threads, about why a woman shouldn't have sex with her husband just because she's married to him! She should do it if and when they both feel like it!

Agreed that when you're "not connected" to your partner "(ie, bitter/angry with him)," you shouldn't have sex ... that's a perfectly valid reason to refuse sex, and sex when you're bitter/angry is not good for either person. But if your partner wants to be intimate (ie, have sex or otherwise), and you refuse because you'd rather watch Netflix or spend another hour looking at Facebook pictures of your old high school friends, then you are creating a relationship problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's complete bullshit. I am a married man that often does things for my wife that I'm not particularly fond of. We have been taking dancing lessons twice a week for an hour each night and I really don't like it. I would rather be at home watching a ballgame or sipping on some wine.

Why do I do it? I love my wife and can see the joy that it brings her. Its only 2 hours a week and this woman has put up with some of my quirks (minor but just like any other person they are there) for 20+ years.

Most women conflate sex into their marriage with every other issue under the sun. Let's say that you are talking 3 times a week and each time is 30 minutes. That's 1 1/2 hours a week?

If you don't like the guy any more divorce. If you do, screw him a couple times a week and fake liking it!

This this this. Thanks, guy. As a married woman, I agree. My DH does a lot I'm sure he doesn't like doing. But, he does it, and doesn't even usually roll his eyes. So, even if I'm not feeling it all the time, we make time for sex. And probably you doing dancing makes her like you more, and more likely to be into the sex with you! Win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's complete bullshit. I am a married man that often does things for my wife that I'm not particularly fond of. We have been taking dancing lessons twice a week for an hour each night and I really don't like it. I would rather be at home watching a ballgame or sipping on some wine.

Why do I do it? I love my wife and can see the joy that it brings her. Its only 2 hours a week and this woman has put up with some of my quirks (minor but just like any other person they are there) for 20+ years.

Most women conflate sex into their marriage with every other issue under the sun. Let's say that you are talking 3 times a week and each time is 30 minutes. That's 1 1/2 hours a week?

If you don't like the guy any more divorce. If you do, screw him a couple times a week and fake liking it!

This this this. Thanks, guy. As a married woman, I agree. My DH does a lot I'm sure he doesn't like doing. But, he does it, and doesn't even usually roll his eyes. So, even if I'm not feeling it all the time, we make time for sex. And probably you doing dancing makes her like you more, and more likely to be into the sex with you! Win-win.

+1 Woman here, and I agree. My DH does whole bunch of $hit that I'm sure he hates, but he does it with a smile to keep things moving smoothly. I, intern put on my best face and make time for sex. Most times I'm not for up it because as soon as I get into it, Ol'boy is done! and I'm like WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's complete bullshit. I am a married man that often does things for my wife that I'm not particularly fond of. We have been taking dancing lessons twice a week for an hour each night and I really don't like it. I would rather be at home watching a ballgame or sipping on some wine.

Why do I do it? I love my wife and can see the joy that it brings her. Its only 2 hours a week and this woman has put up with some of my quirks (minor but just like any other person they are there) for 20+ years.

Most women conflate sex into their marriage with every other issue under the sun. Let's say that you are talking 3 times a week and each time is 30 minutes. That's 1 1/2 hours a week?

If you don't like the guy any more divorce. If you do, screw him a couple times a week and fake liking it!

This this this. Thanks, guy. As a married woman, I agree. My DH does a lot I'm sure he doesn't like doing. But, he does it, and doesn't even usually roll his eyes. So, even if I'm not feeling it all the time, we make time for sex. And probably you doing dancing makes her like you more, and more likely to be into the sex with you! Win-win.

+1 Woman here, and I agree. My DH does whole bunch of $hit that I'm sure he hates, but he does it with a smile to keep things moving smoothly. I, intern put on my best face and make time for sex. Most times I'm not for up it because as soon as I get into it, Ol'boy is done! and I'm like WTF?

Tell him you don't enjoy when he finishes before you. Instruct him to focus on YOU, before ol'boy goes to town.
Yes, you shouldn't "have to" tell him this. But with your firm guidance, he will learn, and obey.