Coworkers starting affairs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I got gay vibes, are you?

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coworkers are a NO. Her cheating is a NO.

I knew someone like her and she accused the guy of raping her when her boyfriend caught them...in other words she's straight up CRAZY. She is hunting you and when you don't do exactly what she wants she will ruin your life.

+1 stay away ftom crazy

+2. Early 20s women are nuts (believe me, I was one). There are so many ways this can go wrong and end up with you losing your job.

Never ever ever poop where you eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t shit where you eat.

This 150%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t shit where you eat.

This 150%

bug giver

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I got gay vibes, are you?

Yes

Umm, what? He's clearly not gay. No, maybe but he clearly wants to be with another woman here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coworkers are a NO. Her cheating is a NO.

I knew someone like her and she accused the guy of raping her when her boyfriend caught them...in other words she's straight up CRAZY. She is hunting you and when you don't do exactly what she wants she will ruin your life.

+1 stay away ftom crazy

Not to mention her lines are super cheesy. She sounds like she watches a lot of porn.

[Anonymous]

There are red flags all over this, and the fact that she is your co-worker makes this very clear cut. Reading your post I had the unsettling feeling that you already told her too much about your private life.

She may not be showing any outward signs of "crazy", but the fact that she's so actively and aggressively pursuing a married colleague (before she knew the details of your relationship) is definitely off-putting. It's probably hard for you to fully take that in because you're very sexually attracted to her and flattered by her interest.

But something is off. She has no boundaries, and that makes her a particularly dangerous person to get involved with. There are far too many risks here, to your job/career and relationship. You may already be in murky water with her here - my inner alarm bells are already ringing as I read about your interactions with her.

And then add to the fact that she's not willing to be honest wirh and respectful toward her own partner, AND the age-old wisdom that you don't poop where you eat...and this is a definite no.

I would let her know that the entire foundation of this lifestyle with your wife is honesty, and no secrets.

[Anonymous]

I would not share details of your lifestyle with coworkers or hook up with coworkers. It's too risky for you professionally.
And this one sounds nuts.

[Anonymous]

This is all great advice and it all goes out the window when the head downstairs is doing the thinking. We are powerless to the P, especially a fine young thing like OP has described here. It's totally not worth it for all the reasons stated, but my oh my, would it be enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Ok, ok, I'll take one for the team. Tag me in. 20something crazy equals mind blowing sex, I'll deal with the tornado that follows. As long as I don't get killed, it will likely be worth it.

[Anonymous]

Something is off here. She seems so desperate to get you into bed and like others have said, her lines seem so scripted. Lifted from bad porn.

Best move here is to end the flirting. Stop calling her. Stop fueling the situation. She already sounds crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, ok, I'll take one for the team. Tag me in. 20something crazy equals mind blowing sex, I'll deal with the tornado that follows. As long as I don't get killed, it will likely be worth it.

Famous last words.

[Anonymous]

She's trouble, op. She could easily find a single guy, but instead she's aggressively pursuing a married one. I bet you a million dollars this won't end well. She's working out some emotional issue, and she'll take you down in the end. She'll turn on you and ruin your life. Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Retired swinger here:
This has bad news written all over it, others have laid out a tons of good reasons why. You and your DW can find another sexy 3rd party. There's a few screws loose with this girl and it's clear that she has boundary issues compounded with, what is likely, low self esteem or other emotional trauma.

I would be very concerned about he developing feelings and jeopardizing your position at work.

If you want to let her down easy, just say that you chatted more with your wife and you've decided that you can't fool around with a partner with whom you work everyday. And that you'll reconsider the situation if/when you or her move to another job. This makes it less about her and more about you/DW having clear boundaries. I think it will also allow to exit the situation gracefully in a face-saving manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Retired swinger here:
This has bad news written all over it, others have laid out a tons of good reasons why. You and your DW can find another sexy 3rd party. There's a few screws loose with this girl and it's clear that she has boundary issues compounded with, what is likely, low self esteem or other emotional trauma.

I would be very concerned about he developing feelings and jeopardizing your position at work.

If you want to let her down easy, just say that you chatted more with your wife and you've decided that you can't fool around with a partner with whom you work everyday. And that you'll reconsider the situation if/when you or her move to another job. This makes it less about her and more about you/DW having clear boundaries. I think it will also allow to exit the situation gracefully in a face-saving manner.

+1 do this, OP!