Anonymous wrote:She had been slightly suggestive at work with comments for the past few months. For instance, I've talked about moving to another state for work and she would say that I couldn't go unless she came too. I'd reply jokingly with a small tone of suggestion "What use what I have for you?!" On at least 5-10 occasions she had said something about going with me here or there to something utside of work and I'd say "I don't think ----name of her SO---- would like that." Her reply would be "What he doesn't know won't hurt him."
She took it up a notch a few weeks ago when she walked in from the rain about a month ago and said to me as I looked towards her "You made me wet!" Nobody was around in earshot but I said in a hushed voice "Youre going to get me in trouble at work!" That then led to several occasions of her saying that she could be trusted and she's not like most other women that we work with and that she's very good at keeping secrets.
Fast forward to yesterday. My wife is out of town for the past few days with the kids with her family. I joked with a male colleague in front of coworker that he and I could hit up the bar and pick up ladies. Completely joking with no suggestion that we'd actually do that. She asks what I really was going to do with my wife out of town. I said that when my wife is out of town I usually do a four letter word that starts with "F" and she quietly blurts out "F--k!" I laughed and quickly said "no! Food! I usually go get take out at my favorite restaurant." This isn't uncommon type of talk/joking in our office which is mostly female (they are actually consistently worse than myself and the male colleague). She again says "take me with you" because her SO is out of town until late and she'll be alone for most of her birthday. I dismiss it as not an option.
I message her to say happy birthday (this past evening, the night of this original post). She asks what I was doing and tells me that she can't believe I didn't ask to take her since she's alone and that what he doesn't know won't hurt him. Saying that I don't like secrets is met with her defending herself that she can keep a secret and that she is also "very good at other things." Then immediately says that she wishes she was at my house. I told her that she doesn't have permission from her SO to being doing this and she again said he will never know. She then becomes overtly explicit and states what she wants.
Having laid it all on the table she said that if I didn't want to do this that at least she offered. I came clean in saying that I was interested and that my wife was actually interested too. She didn't get it so explained that we don't keep secrets in our relationship, that my wife is very bi, and that I had permission to go solo with her if she'd join us for WMW another time. She was completely surprised and doubled down on being explicit and that he would never know.
I left it at the rules that my wife and I have and said I'm going to have think about the fact that she's going behind her SO in doing this but that in no way was to diminish the interest or opportunity.
and has also brushed into me quite a few times that was more than what should have been accidental. (We sometimes work in close quarters.)
Total ew- what kind of trashy place do you work where you can make slutty sexual comments all day long.
I don't know a single soul who would joke about going to a bar and picking up ladies when his wife was away. You have kids? Do you talk to your kids with that same mouth??
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