How to get DH to stop overcommitting/doing too much for friends - vacation with friends with kids

[Anonymous]

I think your husband wants a baby. He seems to like the hustle and bustle of family time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't really seem to be overcommitting. I thought your DH would be doing way more from the tone of your post.

It sounds like you married a nice guy. You don't seem that nice.

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Well, it's a slippery slope and we've been there with other people, so I'm wondering if I should step in here. I think I'll just let him do whatever, but not go with his plan to pick up food for everyone. They have legs, plus an au pair.

Yes, you should let him do what he wants, because perhaps this is part of the fun of the trip for him - being part of a group, sharing space, even getting breakfast at McDonalds.

[Anonymous]

Soo, tell me about this tent. What kind is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your husband wants a baby. He seems to like the hustle and bustle of family time.

Except it's 9am and he's still sleeping, while other couples with kids have been up since 6am and already out at the beach. Guess they will be going hungry if they are waiting on his mcdonald's.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he likes to help out and make the vacation fun. Let him do it- focus on doing what you want to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and hubby need to travel alone from now on.

I suspect the OP's husband prefers to travel with other people (who are more laid back and fun).

[Anonymous]

Wow OP. You sound truly awful.

Offering to get breakfast for the group and set up the tent for group use sound like normal group trip things to do. No one should be keeping score and everyone does some things for the good of the group at some point. And yes, there are sometimes people who do less than others. Just be gracious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't really seem to be overcommitting. I thought your DH would be doing way more from the tone of your post.

It sounds like you married a nice guy. You don't seem that nice.

+1

Well, it's a slippery slope and we've been there with other people, so I'm wondering if I should step in here. I think I'll just let him do whatever, but not go with his plan to pick up food for everyone. They have legs, plus an au pair.

"I think I'll just LET him do whatever"???

Do you really control your partner like this all the time? There's no way this relationship will last. I predict next summer the group will be enjoying time with his new girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't really seem to be overcommitting. I thought your DH would be doing way more from the tone of your post.

It sounds like you married a nice guy. You don't seem that nice.

+1

Well, it's a slippery slope and we've been there with other people, so I'm wondering if I should step in here. I think I'll just let him do whatever, but not go with his plan to pick up food for everyone. They have legs, plus an au pair.

"I think I'll just LET him do whatever"???

Do you really control your partner like this all the time? There's no way this relationship will last. I predict next summer the group will be enjoying time with his new girlfriend.

That's fine too. Let her deal with his nonsense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP. You sound truly awful.

Offering to get breakfast for the group and set up the tent for group use sound like normal group trip things to do. No one should be keeping score and everyone does some things for the good of the group at some point. And yes, there are sometimes people who do less than others. Just be gracious.

The tent wasn't for group use. If it was, others in the group should have offered to set it up, take it down, carry it, etc.

[Anonymous]

Are you really young? The things you list are such non-issues. Your DH seems to like group dynamics and you don't. Find a way to compromise, but "telling" an adult what to do is overly controlling and inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP. You sound truly awful.

Offering to get breakfast for the group and set up the tent for group use sound like normal group trip things to do. No one should be keeping score and everyone does some things for the good of the group at some point. And yes, there are sometimes people who do less than others. Just be gracious.

The tent wasn't for group use. If it was, others in the group should have offered to set it up, take it down, carry it, etc.

Lady are you for real??? When you bring items for the beach on a beach vacation with a group, it is commonly understood these items might be shared.

You should stop vacationing with others.

[Anonymous]

Why did you agree to vacation with these friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really young? The things you list are such non-issues. Your DH seems to like group dynamics and you don't. Find a way to compromise, but "telling" an adult what to do is overly controlling and inappropriate.

No, but he offered that "we" set up the tent for them. Meaning we drag it to the beach, set up, take down, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soo, tell me about this tent. What kind is it?

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