Is getting married an achievement?

[Anonymous]

It's not an achievement. But I still say a heartfelt "congrats" because it's an exciting, wonderful event! We say "happy birthday" even though it wasn't an accomplishment to be born (though it might been for your parents, depending on TTC and L&D journeys).

[Anonymous]

It is an achievement because not everyone can do it.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would rather see my social media filled with people happy and celebrating milestones than the alternative. In this volatile political/social environment with scary news every day, it's nice to see people happy and coming together and celebrating love and life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This obsession with getting engaged, engagement photos, wedding hoopla is crazy.

Even worse is the baby obsession after! Baby bump pics. Updates. Baby pictures doing the most mundane things.

And these women are soo....smug. Like they have arrived.

Sorry, as an engaged but not yet married woman, I find the social media wedding/marriage/baby cycle so annoying.

I agree (as a married woman with a new baby, at that). I think the focus on "gotta get engaged, gotta get married, gotta have a baby" also pushes people to marry people they shouldn't, to have kids when they shouldn't or with people they shouldn't have kids with, because it's "what you're supposed to do" not because it's the right decision.

Agree. It's ridiculous. -Married woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think they're smug now wait until the get pregnant, smugness increases 100x at that point.

But humans have been reproducing since we have lived in caves. I don't understand the smugness.

And then after that they have a baby and post pictures with details suggesting they are the BEST mom and their baby is the BEST thing ever ever!

Yup. Block.

[Anonymous]

No but a happy, long lasting marriage (decades) is one imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but a happy, long lasting marriage (decades) is one imo.

Sure!

In this mid-late-twenties wedding frenzy, I wonder which of these smug couples will last and which won't.

With the women, its almost as if they want to one up each other.

My wedding is bigger! No my husband is richer! I got pregnant first!

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is an achievement. Not everyone who wants to get engaged/married can get engaged/married. It is something you have to make an effort at--you have to invest time and energy into meeting someone, and then building a relationship with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think they're smug now wait until the get pregnant, smugness increases 100x at that point.

But humans have been reproducing since we have lived in caves. I don't understand the smugness.

And then after that they have a baby and post pictures with details suggesting they are the BEST mom and their baby is the BEST thing ever ever!

Sorry that you just want to suck the joy out of life. I'm a new mom and am just completely filled with love for my dd. Every day I think she's the best thing ever. I'm sure the feeling will die down, but some of us really feel this way and aren't making shit up. She took 5 years to conceive, so many injections, drugs and worry, so IDGAF what you think.

I'd take moms that post about their babies over the political posts any day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is an achievement. Not everyone who wants to get engaged/married can get engaged/married. It is something you have to make an effort at--you have to invest time and energy into meeting someone, and then building a relationship with them.

Very few people who want to get married don't. If you want to get married, you put yourself out there and you will find a guy. I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is an achievement. Not everyone who wants to get engaged/married can get engaged/married. It is something you have to make an effort at--you have to invest time and energy into meeting someone, and then building a relationship with them.

Very few people who want to get married don't. If you want to get married, you put yourself out there and you will find a guy. I promise.

Oh, I am married. But I'm thinking of at least 3 women in my circle, and 4 in my husband's circle, who wanted/want to get married, and have never even gotten engaged. It's just not something you can MAKE happen. You can try, you can put yourself out there, you can have long-term relationships, but you can't make it happen. One of these women has published a book--so it's not a matter of effort/putting your mind to it. There are a lot of factors you can't control.

[Anonymous]

Most people I know see marriage and kids as success and feel sorry for you if you dont have one or both of them. I don't agree but it seems I am in the minority.

[Anonymous]

95 percent of Americans will get married in their lifetimes.

If a university let in 95% of applicants, would you call that an achievement getting in?

[Anonymous]

Getting married is an important milestone and a celebration. I would say staying married is an achievement.

[Anonymous]

As others have said, getting married is no achievement. STAYING married is the real achievement.