Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.

[Anonymous]

Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you any fun in bed or do you just lay back and expect to be serviced?

I'm very adventurous. I have no problem initiating and have done whatever he has wanted. He is more vanilla. Not as adventurous, but that's ok. I would be happy with vanilla sex once or twice a week. We are very close and do things together, but we are not intimate. We do cuddle on the couch when we watch tv, we go to bed together, kiss and cuddle, I fall asleep most nights with him holding me, but he doesn't have interest in more than that.

[Anonymous]

Is he gay? (not asking to be mean)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ultimatum.

AP.

Move on.

I love him. I can't imagine life without him.

Affair. Do what you have to do to keep your sanity and stay with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he gay? (not asking to be mean)

I have no reason to think this. That's two posters though that have asked this, why?

[Anonymous]

If you were a man then you would need to suck it up and deal with it. Since you are a woman, go ahead and have ahead affair. I'll allow it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

It's absolutely a thought, especially if he was raised in a religious household.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

It's absolutely a thought, especially if he was raised in a religious household.

How do you become gay after 21 years of marriage?

[Anonymous]

Did he see your vagina during childbirth? Some men can't come back from that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he see your vagina during childbirth? Some men can't come back from that

No, he stayed near my head and held my hand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

It's absolutely a thought, especially if he was raised in a religious household.

How do you become gay after 21 years of marriage?

He was always gay. I'm sorry. I'm sure there are support groups for women in your situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

It's absolutely a thought, especially if he was raised in a religious household.

How do you become gay after 21 years of marriage?

He was always gay. I'm sorry. I'm sure there are support groups for women in your situation.

How are you coming to this conclusion?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Was there ever a point where he was a twice a week or more guy? If he was a twice a month guy for a long time he may have simply been doing it for your sake. Have you considered that he may be gay or have gay tendencies? There are plenty of guys around DC who would be happy to help you out.

He was a twice a week guy the first few years of our marriage, then once a week, then twice a month. It has steadily decreased over the years. Why do you ask about gay tendencies? We have been married for a long time. How can that be even a thought?

It's absolutely a thought, especially if he was raised in a religious household.

How do you become gay after 21 years of marriage?

He was always gay. I'm sorry. I'm sure there are support groups for women in your situation.

How are you coming to this conclusion?

He has no interest in sex and it seems to me as though he doesn't even get hard.

[Anonymous]

Like the pp my guess is he is a gay man but doesn't want to be gay. He won't give in to his gay impulses but he also isn't attracted to you because of them. He faked it for a long time but now he is just happy not having any sex