DH's middle school ex

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say anything to her about SIL. I'd treat her kindly, as I would anyone else.

[Anonymous]

No one enjoys the holidays. Just ignore them all but be civil and superficially friendly and just act deaf is anyone tries to drudge up some drama. Focus on your kids and your DH and just smile. Then go home and NEVER directly communicate with your SIL. Life is easy then

[Anonymous]

What is PA

[Anonymous]

Op here. I know EX thinks I hate her. Everyone does. A family member was recently in the ICU. EX showed up. Everyone stared at me as she walked in. Then began the whispering and everyone just continued staring at me. It was so uncomfortable. The Christmas get together consists of like 8 people and I just don't want it to be weird and uncomfortable. Does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is PA

Passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is PA

AHHHHH, I just googled PA on urban dictionary.

Don't you will see pics of the Prince Albert piercing...

[Anonymous]

OP, you're feeding the family drama by acting awkward or differently around this woman. Just treat her like a friend. Compliment her, ask if she needs another drink, talk about the weather. Don't just ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're feeding the family drama by acting awkward or differently around this woman. Just treat her like a friend. Compliment her, ask if she needs another drink, talk about the weather. Don't just ignore her.

It was 4:30 AM and we were in the ICU waiting room. I kind of just ignored she was there because I didn't know what to say. I know that just made things worse.

[Anonymous]

What's the DuH and then he lost the u?

OP, I have no idea. This post is nearly incomprehensible to me. Next time you see "ex" ( stupid to even call her that) smile and say, hi - nice to see you!

Just RISE UP. you are ALL acting like idiots.

[Anonymous]

Wait...are you all still in middle school, or is that just how you're acting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know EX thinks I hate her. Everyone does. A family member was recently in the ICU. EX showed up. Everyone stared at me as she walked in. Then began the whispering and everyone just continued staring at me. It was so uncomfortable. The Christmas get together consists of like 8 people and I just don't want it to be weird and uncomfortable. Does that make sense?

Frankly, it doesn't. This was a friend from MIDDLE SCHOOL.

Either you are crazy and imagining these things, or you acted in a way that fueled rumors, or they are crazy and created a story where there wasn't one. But NO ONE in his right mind will think a friend from middle school could be considered a girlfriend and potential rival for the current wife. Unless you're still all in high school?!?

I'm sorry to say that given the way you've explained things here, I would think you're the crazy one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait...are you all still in middle school, or is that just how you're acting?

Because you've never been in an uncomfortable situation before? Seriously, I'm just asking for advice on an uncomfortable situation. Do I address it head on or continue to let her think I hate her. I just feel that by not clearing the air I'm letting unnecessary drama continue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My issue was never with this ex girlfriend. My issue was with my SIL. And I use the word TO loosely. She tried to cause problems in our marriage so we took some time apart.

Your SIL is weird. She can be friends again with her ex bff but why is she bringing this women to your family get togethers?

I would be polite to your dh's former middle school gf but I would avoid, avoid, AVOID that SIL as much as is feasibly possible.

[Anonymous]

Invite out to coffee. Have a chat. Make things less awkward and the next time you see her at a party go over and give her a big hug and have a chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know EX thinks I hate her. Everyone does. A family member was recently in the ICU. EX showed up. Everyone stared at me as she walked in. Then began the whispering and everyone just continued staring at me. It was so uncomfortable. The Christmas get together consists of like 8 people and I just don't want it to be weird and uncomfortable. Does that make sense?

Frankly, it doesn't. This was a friend from MIDDLE SCHOOL.

Either you are crazy and imagining these things, or you acted in a way that fueled rumors, or they are crazy and created a story where there wasn't one. But NO ONE in his right mind will think a friend from middle school could be considered a girlfriend and potential rival for the current wife. Unless you're still all in high school?!?

I'm sorry to say that given the way you've explained things here, I would think you're the crazy one.

I know this is a bit hard to follow. SIL is the one who refers to her as an ex to get to me. I just refer to her as ex here for simplicity.