Do you really wish your ex well?

[Anonymous]

I wish all my exes well including the ones that were disrespectful. The way i see it, i nevet felt complete happiness in the relationship, we were not compatible, I can't loose something I never had, I'm definitely not losing anything special moving on. I hope they each meet the ideal person and find hapinness. This is how I move on indefinitely and never think of them plus blocking all communication. This mindset keeps me open and willing to meet new people and not carry over any past bitterness in to my next relationship.

[Anonymous]

Initially I wanted to be gracious etc but now .....not so much.

[Anonymous]

We broke up on pretty bad terms. Cut off all communication with him.....that kind of BAD.

I have never wished bad things on him though and I hope he's happy (but doubt it). For the most part I don't really care what he's doing. My own life got much better after the break up - that's the part that I can control.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I wish him well. He's a good person. If I won the lottery I'd share some money with him, at the least pay for his kids' college. He was good to me during our marriage and has always been a good friend. We were simply not compatible as a couple.

[Anonymous]

I don't wish my XH ill, but it's hard to wish him well. The difficulty for me is that we have three children together. I have sole custody, and there is no co-parenting (his choice), and meager financial support. It's hard to see the kids try and cope with this, and while I am doing my best to help them navigate, and provide them with a stable home, therapy etc, I know the effects will be long-lasting. To see a father who was, in their eyes, loving and engaged for most of their lives, suddenly be disinterested is so hurtful. We were married 16 years when he bailed.

So no, I guess I don't wish him well. He's hurting my babies.

[Anonymous]

To a point, but I don't want him to be happier than I am, ha ha! I wish I were indifferent, but he broke my heart pretty badly. Even though I recognize I am better off without him and my husband is a far better partner than he was capable of being, I still feel a little wistful. Also because I kind of miss that very idealistic, hopeful person I was when I was with him.

[Anonymous]

Like a PP's ex, my ex should never have taken on the responsibilities of suburban fatherhood. He's lost, with ADD and depression. But he did, and we had two kids.

I don't blame him for who he is or for making the mistake of thinking he could handle it.

I can blame him, and disrespect him, for failing to share parenting even when we found pot. I can blame him for, after he left to pursue his dreams, buying a new car and hiring a super-expensive Bethesda lawyer to go after my pension, so he can retire early, instead of giving me child support.

I figure karma will come back to bite him without me thinking about him one way or another. This is because his money choices have always been horrible.

[Anonymous]

My ex is a selfish, racist, and cowardly asshole who deserves to die disgraced and abandoned in a semi-furnished apartment in Bayonne, New Jersey.

[Anonymous]

Sort of. I just feel mostly indifferent to him. But several years have passed. I wish we could agree more on parenting issues, but I don't think either of us is totally outside the range of reasonableness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like a PP's ex, my ex should never have taken on the responsibilities of suburban fatherhood. He's lost, with ADD and depression. But he did, and we had two kids.

I don't blame him for who he is or for making the mistake of thinking he could handle it.

I can blame him, and disrespect him, for failing to share parenting even when we found pot. I can blame him for, after he left to pursue his dreams, buying a new car and hiring a super-expensive Bethesda lawyer to go after my pension, so he can retire early, instead of giving me child support.

I figure karma will come back to bite him without me thinking about him one way or another. This is because his money choices have always been horrible.

11:35 here - exactly.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I wish him nothing but the worst. (Actually I feel the same about a couple of ex bf's, too!) I've not thought about this much, but since you mention it, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish him to be functional and successful for the sake of my kids. I don't really care if he is happy in his personal life as long as he holds it together for them.

I also know he's an unhappy and insecure person underneath the happy front he puts on for everyone else. I don't need to wish him ill because I already think his choices are going to come back to bite him in the ass one day.

I could have written this. Word for word.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been broken up?

I only wished a couple of my exes ill for a short time after we broke up. It's been so many years now I can't bring myself to even wonder how they are - I do not care.

[Anonymous]

I mostly wish my ex well. But I do hope I meet someone else before he does. I feel like I deserve it more.

That said, in every other area I wish him well. He's not a bad guy, he's just the guy who dumped me after he got me pregnant and that will always annoy me a little.

[Anonymous]

No I don't. He is a loser and a failure and he will always be. My wishing him well wouldn't change that.