Appropriate punishment if you catch teen texting & driving & speeding?
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Anonymous
| The jeep? Are you insane? No matter how rich you are he should be driving a beat up old minivan or you're basically setting him up to act like a self involved tool . |
Anonymous
| Jeep and iPhone are parent provided. |
Anonymous
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He's shown he's not responsible enough to be driving a car. He's on your insurance, any infraction he makes is going to come back on you. That car would be taken away so fast that his head would spin if he were mine. He'd also learn to live without his phone for a nice chunk of time.
Once he's earned your trust back and you Let him drive again, another stunt like that would mean revocation of your sponsorship of his license. Driving is a privilege, not a right just because he's 16 |
Anonymous
| You can buy apps and actual hardware that will monitor your teens driving. Buy one, tell him you have reason to believe that he has not been responsible while driving. Tell him you will be monitoring him. |
Anonymous
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Our son drove drunk once. He was told repeatedly what would happen if he did this yet he did it. Since we bought the car, paid for all repairs, inspections, tires and insurance, we not only took the car back, we sold it.
Actions have consequences. |
Anonymous
| Take away the Jeep and the driving priviledges. Sell the Jeep as the PP did and when you decide to let him drive again, he can "borrow" your oldest ugliest car you don't happen to be using at the time. |
Anonymous
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Are you effing kidding me? How is this even a question? Are you just trying to find a reason NOT to take the car away? I don't particularly care about your kid. I do care that he is going 95 while texting and thus is a danger to everyone else on the road.
Take the car away. If that means you have to drive him to sports practices all over town - well weren't you doing that last yr or 2 yrs ago? And if you're over it and don't want to do it -- refuse to drive him. He can pay the price of having to drop out of activities or having to ride a bus. I would also make a rule that he CAN'T ride in his friends' cars to such activities. If he is group texting with a bunch of friends about this -- you don't know if they are crazy drivers and I wouldn't want him in their cars either. |
Anonymous
He's oldest of 3 children, diff. schools, diff. activities, etc. It won't be easy. What if he says it was just a joke? |
Anonymous
| The other issue is I'm blowing my cover that I can see his messages on this particular app. So, I'll certainly lose that access moving forward -- as he'll change his password. But perhaps worth it? |
Anonymous
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You were asking for trouble providing him with a jeep. I'd say no car for 6 months at least then an old car like a Honda civic.
Think about what happens ALL THE TIME to new you.g drivers, boys especially. Do you want to bury your child, or escort him to prison? |
Anonymous
I get it. Im a mom of teen drivers. But this really shouldn't be a question. If this were my son, he wouldn't have a car until you could trust him whether it was a day or a month. And he wouldn't have a car and a phone together. I'm sure you remember all the kids who have died over the past few years and all of the kids who killed other kids and ended up in jail. No way convenience trumps the risk of your child's behavior. |
Anonymous
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No car and cell phone until they
1) write an essay on why they should not do that 2) watch your choice of 3 online videos re: people dying from texting while driving 3) share their favorite of three on their FB/insta. And include a comment (not just a share) |
Anonymous
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No car, no phone.
You have to wield the hammer here. A lot of lives depend on it, including your son's. What an idiot! |
Anonymous
The dad who ran over and killed a 4 month old baby being pushed in a stroller in front of both parent's kids' school.in Lorton last week was texting and driving. Take his car and his smart phone away. Get him a basic flip phone for emergencies (can't fun/group text on a flip phone). A little inconvenience for you is a much better option than him killing someone. Sell the jeep. When you get him a new car eventually, make it a slow ugly boring car. No 16 year old needs a cool car like a jeep or sportscar. |
Anonymous
No no. He loses the smart phone along with the car. Please be a parent here, not a cool friend. |