Avoiding another child in class selection

[Anonymous]

People who say the kids need to sort it out are idiots. Talk to the principal. Principals absolutely do not want such situations to persist, which is why you got that questionnaire in the first place. I'm pretty sure he or she will be happy to grant your request.

[Anonymous]

Helicopter much, PP? I'm surprised parents would get this involved unless it's a really big issue like bullying. This is one strange area. I do know of parents who have asked that friends be separated because they get too silly together and can distract eachother and the rest of the class but that's different.

[Anonymous]

I know one set of parents who did this because they wanted to avoid some children with special needs. I know some other parents avoided this couple after they did this but then I heard their own child is kind of an anxious mess so maybe it made sense for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my school (MCPS), if a parent requests their child be separated from another student then it happens no matter what. It's taken seriously in the articulation process. --Teacher

What would happen if several parents requested that their children not be in the same class as one particular child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who say the kids need to sort it out are idiots. Talk to the principal. Principals absolutely do not want such situations to persist, which is why you got that questionnaire in the first place. I'm pretty sure he or she will be happy to grant your request.

+1000

It is mind boggling how adults will force kids to take shit they would never take themselves. If this were a place of work and one employee was harassing another it would be an issue for HR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Helicopter much, PP? I'm surprised parents would get this involved unless it's a really big issue like bullying. This is one strange area. I do know of parents who have asked that friends be separated because they get too silly together and can distract eachother and the rest of the class but that's different.

Being consistently mean to one person, over the course of two years, to the point that it is causing anxiety is bullying.

[Anonymous]

That kind of request is no big deal, and it's done all the time. It best to have it in writing. It only becomes complicated if a parent has a big long list of students she does/doesn't want in her child's class (yes, that happens). We have many factor to consider when making classes, and at my school, we try to honor reasonable parent requests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Helicopter much, PP? I'm surprised parents would get this involved unless it's a really big issue like bullying. This is one strange area. I do know of parents who have asked that friends be separated because they get too silly together and can distract eachother and the rest of the class but that's different.

It sounds like OP's child IS being bullied.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call what she described as bullying. There is a difference between a kid being mean and being a bully. Plenty of kids are mean and they are sometimes consistently and repeatedly mean to kids who can't stand up for themselves. I don't think OP is doing anything wrong for asking for the children to be separated but I think people are going too far when they say it is bullying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't call what she described as bullying. There is a difference between a kid being mean and being a bully. Plenty of kids are mean and they are sometimes consistently and repeatedly mean to kids who can't stand up for themselves. I don't think OP is doing anything wrong for asking for the children to be separated but I think people are going too far when they say it is bullying.

uh. hullo dummy. that is the definition of bullying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't call what she described as bullying. There is a difference between a kid being mean and being a bully. Plenty of kids are mean and they are sometimes consistently and repeatedly mean to kids who can't stand up for themselves. I don't think OP is doing anything wrong for asking for the children to be separated but I think people are going too far when they say it is bullying.

Yeah, this is bullying. I don't understand why the teachers don't address this behavior. Why don't they tell kids to cut it out?

[Anonymous]

OP said, "The kid is just consistently mean to my kid, excludes her, tells her she doesn't like her."

There are four kids who do act this way to my child who has special needs. They may be your kids, PPs. Should I go to school on Monday and fill out a bullying report? Because if the consensus here is yes this is actually bullying I will and you'll be shocked because it'll be your kids in the principal's office.

[Anonymous]

OP, the consensus here seems to be that your child is being bullied. That makes you are pretty lame parent for not reporting this to the school earlier.

[Anonymous]

Do all schools have this form? I haven't heard of it before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP said, "The kid is just consistently mean to my kid, excludes her, tells her she doesn't like her."

There are four kids who do act this way to my child who has special needs. They may be your kids, PPs. Should I go to school on Monday and fill out a bullying report? Because if the consensus here is yes this is actually bullying I will and you'll be shocked because it'll be your kids in the principal's office.

Yes you should fill out a bullying report. Not only would your be protecting you child but you may be protecting the other kids in the long run. "Kids are cruel" isn't a white flag, it's is a reminder that kindness sometimes needs to be taught.

If my child were teasing a kid with special needs I would absolutely want to know about it.