Insanely attracted to my male opposing counsel...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm much closer to dying of old age than you. The meaning of " You only live once " has more signifance to me than you. If I had to do all over again , I'd had started cheating 20 years sooner. You're not getting what you need at home.

-1! Keep it out of your professional life if you want any respect as a lawyer. Your reputation is EVERYTHING in this field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been a litigator for 25 years at DOJ and the only thing I think about my opposing counsel is how to beat them in the case. Focusing on attraction to them is not mature, not professional, and not appropriate. I would confer with a therapist if I were in your situation.

Unclench.

[Anonymous]

Imagine the worst porta potty, or public restroom smell that you have ever encountered in your life.

That smell, from the bowels of hell, came from your crush.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a litigator for 25 years at DOJ and the only thing I think about my opposing counsel is how to beat them in the case. Focusing on attraction to them is not mature, not professional, and not appropriate. I would confer with a therapist if I were in your situation.

Unclench.

Not that poster, but Why? OP is clearly letting a minor attraction upend her professionalism. Maybe OP could in fact use some professional help.

[Anonymous]

28 years old and already unhappy in your marriage? Yikes.
If you don't have kids, you might want to think this one older. It's only going to get worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a litigator for 25 years at DOJ and the only thing I think about my opposing counsel is how to beat them in the case. Focusing on attraction to them is not mature, not professional, and not appropriate. I would confer with a therapist if I were in your situation.

Unclench.

Not that poster, but Why? OP is clearly letting a minor attraction upend her professionalism. Maybe OP could in fact use some professional help.

New poster. In what way is it "upending her professionalism"? She has not posted that she can't concentrate or is losing her case. She has said she has a little crush. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:28 years old and already unhappy in your marriage? Yikes.
If you don't have kids, you might want to think this one older. It's only going to get worse.

I'm not sure if I agree. Is there anyone out there so happily married that they never get crushes on anyone, no matter how long they have been married?

OP, how long have you been with your husband?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a litigator for 25 years at DOJ and the only thing I think about my opposing counsel is how to beat them in the case. Focusing on attraction to them is not mature, not professional, and not appropriate. I would confer with a therapist if I were in your situation.

Unclench.

Not that poster, but Why? OP is clearly letting a minor attraction upend her professionalism. Maybe OP could in fact use some professional help.

New poster. In what way is it "upending her professionalism"? She has not posted that she can't concentrate or is losing her case. She has said she has a little crush. Period.

She said that she was insanely attracted (in thread title) and also that it was getting to the point of being very distracting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:28 years old and already unhappy in your marriage? Yikes.
If you don't have kids, you might want to think this one older. It's only going to get worse.

I'm not sure if I agree. Is there anyone out there so happily married that they never get crushes on anyone, no matter how long they have been married?

OP, how long have you been with your husband?

PP again. I reread and saw that OP is unhappily married. If no kids, I would divorce now and not cheat.

[Anonymous]

It could be one of these men is your true soulmate. It would be a shame to go through life wondering, What if?

[Anonymous]

Isn't this the formula for the ubiquitous TV law drama plot?

So, I'll save you some time-


It's the magic he's sending to distract you in order for him to win the case OR
You might have a brain tumor which explains your lack of judgement OR
He's a lothario used to getting want he wants- just his usual narcissistic personality at play,but he loves it. After the case, you are history OR
You will be sued for an ethic violation by your bully coworker who is tired of your shit OR
You have bipolar disease- but your husband will forgive you because he's going to take the higher road OR
Your client commits suicide because he is the one with crush on you, but, and really but.....yeah, what about HIS case?

Come on DCUMers, fill some in. It's just TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:28 years old and already unhappy in your marriage? Yikes.
If you don't have kids, you might want to think this one older. It's only going to get worse.

+1. You are too young to be unhappy in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

If I had a nickel for every woman lawyer who has had a crush on me I'd be a richer man. By 20 cents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:28 years old and already unhappy in your marriage? Yikes.
If you don't have kids, you might want to think this one older. It's only going to get worse.

I'm not sure if I agree. Is there anyone out there so happily married that they never get crushes on anyone, no matter how long they have been married?

OP, how long have you been with your husband?

We have been together since I was 16 and had an unplanned pregnancy and got married, been pretty miserable for most of the marriage but we both hide it pretty well and raise our kids in a mostly functional household that I don't want to ruin, so I have put my happiness on the back burner since 16 pretty much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a litigator for 25 years at DOJ and the only thing I think about my opposing counsel is how to beat them in the case. Focusing on attraction to them is not mature, not professional, and not appropriate. I would confer with a therapist if I were in your situation.

Unclench.

Not that poster, but Why? OP is clearly letting a minor attraction upend her professionalism. Maybe OP could in fact use some professional help.

New poster. In what way is it "upending her professionalism"? She has not posted that she can't concentrate or is losing her case. She has said she has a little crush. Period.

She said that she was insanely attracted (in thread title) and also that it was getting to the point of being very distracting.

Definitely has not been affecting my work, in fact, I think that's the problem, I advocate zealously, we get into some heated debates about our case and I feel way too much sexual tension (though maybe just on my part, not sure), and after arguing with him I just want to rip off his clothes. As I said, I wouldn't act on it, I don't want to feel this way, and maybe it's because I am so unsatisfied in my current marriage.