In-laws had no reaction to first grandchild news??

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted. But please stop looking to them to give you what you want - they've clearly proven they will not be giving that to you. Look elsewhere. Your father, your SIL, your friends, etc. If you keep looking to them, you will keep getting disappointed over and over again. So look elsewhere.

Congratulations on being pregnant!

[Anonymous]

Maybe waiting to see if this really happens considering you and DH have been together for a decade already.

[Anonymous]

Some people aren't good with news in person. I know I'm not. I have to "prep" myself beforehand if I know news is coming. For instance, when I meet a new baby I immediately say how cute he is and what a great name. If I don't prep, sometimes I've been dumbfounded because the baby isn't cute and the name is awful and I won't know what to say.

Some grandparents are also upset when they're not told immediately and are told at 12 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps if you had said, "we're expecting" rather than "we're pregnant," they may have reacted differently as they are probably dumbfounded that their son is pregnant.

I'm sure they'll enjoy being grandparents, but at the cost of violating the rules of biology?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. That stinks. I agree with the PP to talk to the SIL. She may be helpful with your DH too. Do you have any friends who could be adoptive grandparents?

[Anonymous]

They sound like cold fish. Also, having a baby with DH means that you really and truly are not going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps if you had said, "we're expecting" rather than "we're pregnant," they may have reacted differently as they are probably dumbfounded that their son is pregnant.

I'm sure they'll enjoy being grandparents, but at the cost of violating the rules of biology?

Thanks, Grammar Police.
Their loss if they don't want to be engaged grandparents.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry! I am excited for anyone having their first baby. It is such an exciting time for you and your DH!

My mom had to smile through gritted teeth. She didn't even give me a hug or say anything. She quickly left the room. She has been mad at me for years, won't talk about it and is just a bitch. I was really hoping having a baby might change things and it didn't. We were together and married for long enough for it to be expected for the news and my parents love DH.

They have done this in the past. I think the most hurtful part especially for your DH is when other people are more excited for you than your own parents. And there are always people that mention "hoe excited your parents must be" and you just have to smile and nod knowing they arent. Or watch other parents say and do what you can only wish yours would.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my in-laws when we told them we are engaged after 6 years of being together. They were silent for about a minute. Awkward... Then when we told them we were pregnant, they didn't even say congratulations. Some people are just weird or don't know how to express excitement. Don't let it bother you and celebrate the news with the people that are excited!

[Anonymous]

My MIL asked If DH had talked with his therapist about getting engaged when he told her we were getting married. When we told her we were expecting a son (after we married), she cried. Not happy tears.

So, she sucks. She does love our son, though. Just not me. Can't change it, so just live with it and turn it into funny stories you share with friends over wine.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like they don't like you and now their son is really stuck with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my in-laws when we told them we are engaged after 6 years of being together. They were silent for about a minute. Awkward... Then when we told them we were pregnant, they didn't even say congratulations. Some people are just weird or don't know how to express excitement. Don't let it bother you and celebrate the news with the people that are excited!

If you know they're like that, then maybe you need to announce the news differently. Such as a balloon bouquet or flowers.

[Anonymous]

Definitely see if DH can get to the bottom of it. Maybe there's something else going on in the extended family that you don't know about. Still, they should be able to muster up a hug and some form of congrats.

When DH talks to his parents about it, make sure he leaves you OUT of the equation - he shouldn't say you were disappointed. He should make it just about himself, so lines don't get blurred about who might have said what.

[Anonymous]

I said, "Hi dad, how do you feel about being a grandpa?" He said, " I don't have a choice, do I?"

Ugh. It was frustrating, but he's great with my son now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps if you had said, "we're expecting" rather than "we're pregnant," they may have reacted differently as they are probably dumbfounded that their son is pregnant.

I'm sure they'll enjoy being grandparents, but at the cost of violating the rules of biology?

Thanks, Grammar Police.
Their loss if they don't want to be engaged grandparents.

"Grammar Police" doesn't mean what you think it means. You also lack perspective and life experience if you think their level of enthusiasm at the news is indicative of their engagement as grandparents. I can see why they're hoping the college girlfriend comes back on scene.