Sexless Marriages- What if its just simply a lack of attraction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attraction or no attraction, sex is still awesome.

To a point...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attraction or no attraction, sex is still awesome.

To a point...

That mentality is probably your problem. If the whole time you're having sex you're thinking about how it could be better then obviously its probably not that great...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the "new" wears off of the man because he is now her husband so she doesn't get excited about having sex with him. They simply want some strange...

I actually think there's a lot to this. Also, in many cases I think they wax nostalgic about ex-boyfriends and fantasize about them and boring old hubby starts looking worse and worse in comparison to the idealized version of the ex.

A lot of the qualities that make for the best husbands (e.g. loyalty, dependability, devotion) detract from sexual excitement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attraction or no attraction, sex is still awesome.

To a point...

That mentality is probably your problem. If the whole time you're having sex you're thinking about how it could be better then obviously its probably not that great...

NP here. Nah people could be bangin a model and still fantasize about others. Happens alllllllll the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attraction or no attraction, sex is still awesome.

To a point...

That mentality is probably your problem. If the whole time you're having sex you're thinking about how it could be better then obviously its probably not that great...

I'm not speaking for my current self. My wife is a fox and she turns me on completely. But when I was young so many of my friends would say things like, "That girl wants you. Who cares if you don't like her. Just get some."

If that works for some, great. But I don't get it, personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the "new" wears off of the man because he is now her husband so she doesn't get excited about having sex with him. They simply want some strange...

I actually think there's a lot to this. Also, in many cases I think they wax nostalgic about ex-boyfriends and fantasize about them and boring old hubby starts looking worse and worse in comparison to the idealized version of the ex.

A lot of the qualities that make for the best husbands (e.g. loyalty, dependability, devotion) detract from sexual excitement.

Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the "new" wears off of the man because he is now her husband so she doesn't get excited about having sex with him. They simply want some strange...

I actually think there's a lot to this. Also, in many cases I think they wax nostalgic about ex-boyfriends and fantasize about them and boring old hubby starts looking worse and worse in comparison to the idealized version of the ex.

A lot of the qualities that make for the best husbands (e.g. loyalty, dependability, devotion) detract from sexual excitement.

Sad but true.

Yup, because those traits are boooooorrrriiiing. Women need excitement and are genetically predisposed to multiple partners.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the "new" wears off of the man because he is now her husband so she doesn't get excited about having sex with him. They simply want some strange...

I actually think there's a lot to this. Also, in many cases I think they wax nostalgic about ex-boyfriends and fantasize about them and boring old hubby starts looking worse and worse in comparison to the idealized version of the ex.

A lot of the qualities that make for the best husbands (e.g. loyalty, dependability, devotion) detract from sexual excitement.

Sad but true.

Yup, because those traits are boooooorrrriiiing. Women need excitement and are genetically predisposed to multiple partners.

We all are. Decades of monogamy is bullshit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the "new" wears off of the man because he is now her husband so she doesn't get excited about having sex with him. They simply want some strange...

I actually think there's a lot to this. Also, in many cases I think they wax nostalgic about ex-boyfriends and fantasize about them and boring old hubby starts looking worse and worse in comparison to the idealized version of the ex.

A lot of the qualities that make for the best husbands (e.g. loyalty, dependability, devotion) detract from sexual excitement.

Sad but true.

Yup, because those traits are boooooorrrriiiing. Women need excitement and are genetically predisposed to multiple partners.

We all are. Decades of monogamy is bullshit.

The problem is, open marriages often have problems. A wife is going to find willing partners just by breathing. So there is an inherent imbalance. Then you run into the issue that sexual performance is such an insecurity for many people that adding others to the relationship is a time bomb.

Probably the best solution is to find a couple in the same boat and swap. That way, everyone is getting action.

[Anonymous]

I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

You don't! It's gotta be his idea first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

But you would find a partner in about 25 seconds. Why do you want an open marriage? Bringing it up will make him believe he is a failure in bed and on the road to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

But you would find a partner in about 25 seconds. Why do you want an open marriage? Bringing it up will make him believe he is a failure in bed and on the road to divorce.

Variety would be nice after 15 years. I'm not going to ask him, so the very reason you say not to. Too chicken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

But you would find a partner in about 25 seconds. Why do you want an open marriage? Bringing it up will make him believe he is a failure in bed and on the road to divorce.

1. So she can bang other dudes

2. Same thing for men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have an open marriage with DH. How do you even start talking about that?

But you would find a partner in about 25 seconds. Why do you want an open marriage? Bringing it up will make him believe he is a failure in bed and on the road to divorce.

1. So she can bang other dudes

2. Same thing for men

There's one in particular. I don't want a relationship with him, though, because he would be an awful boyfriend.