Giving up your master bedroom and bath to visiting ILs
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Anonymous
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OP here. If I don't do it, I will feel guilty, if I do, I will have no sanctuary to escape to and I probably won't sleep well, and I may get so stressed out by the end of their visit that I behave poorly. Lots of other stressful issues around their visits for me.
Normally the finished basement is where our 2 kids sleep. There is a full bath, but it is very 80s. There is a tiny bedroom which is my younger's, that has a door. Then there is a great room space with no door, where my DD sleeps (comfortable queen bed). We have had a handyman no show 3 times on us to put in a door, including today, the day my ILs arrive. Handyman texted he's not coming. So they will have no door. Also they can't share the same bed unless it's a king. So we were thinking to move the kids up with us in an adjacent room, so one of them could have the twin in the little bedroom, and the other could have the queen. Final issue is that once a day, at night, my DD finds a massive disgusting spider down there. I feel major guilt for her for this, have looked into extermination, but don't really want kids in a basement space with a bunch of chemicals either. They appeared this summer, we always race down and get the spider out, was hoping they would just "go away". Didn't sleep well last night from the anxiety of this. Had a blowup with husband as we cleaned last night (we rarely fight). Horrible. |
Anonymous
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No door?
Hotel. |
Anonymous
| If you have a king bed and your in-laws can only sleep on a king, how could you not let them have your room? |
Anonymous
| Why can your inlaws only sleep on a king? That's the most asinine thing. |
Anonymous
| Make the offet. I suspect inlaws will turn you down at this point. So you don't have to feel guilty. |
Anonymous
This caught my eye too. Maybe they don't sleep together at home? |
Anonymous
| I would not do it just because I have to go to work everyday and my stuff is in my bedroom. Too big of a hassle. If you have a decent guest room, what is the big deal? |
Anonymous
| My DH only have a queen. |
Anonymous
Uh they can get a hotel with a king bed if it's that important to them... |
Anonymous
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You have a perfectly fine guest space.
If they "need" a king, they can stay in a hotel! It sounds like you need to draw some boundaries with these folks. What else is going on? |
Anonymous
| Probably depends on how long the visit is. But in the newborn baby days, my inlaws gave up their room to us, so I would certainly return the favor. |
Anonymous
This- we either would sneak in with DS in the 2nd bedroom of the condo on the pullout or crash in the living room and basically had to force the parents to take the master. They are youngish/healthy but I just felt bad putting them in the LR (and they would definitely wake up DS!) but when we moved, no, guest room all the way. I don't think you need an attached bath. We have one in the master but its actually the crappiest of all the bathrooms! |
Anonymous
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Nope nope nope. Let them stay in a hotel if the only other option is them sleeping in your room or your kids' rooms. And you shouldn't feel guilty about it, it's your bedroom!! And I don't think you should make your children move bedrooms either. Why should you turn your house upside down for the ILs? Your husband should deal with it. It's your house too.
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Anonymous
I mean I could understand if they said they didn't want to sleep on a twin, but come on! A queen is perfectly fine and normal. I only have queens in my house. |
Anonymous
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They don't have a perfectly fine guest room though. There's no door separating the guests from the children.
A hotel is the acceptable compromise. |