I've been unknowingly dating a transgender man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP. I would be very upset too.

But I don't know what legal action there is to take.

None. None. People lie, it's not actionable. If it was our courts would be so full of cases where someone was married, poorer than they said, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

You have a right to be angry but I'm flabbergasted as to why you think there is any legal action you can take against her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, its OK to not be able to overlook this woman's biological sex.

However you are an asshole of epic proportions for wanting to slug, sue, and shame her on social media.

+1. Would you be having this same reaction if you found out she was married?

No. I'm a straight male. I might have kept the relationship going.

[Anonymous]

And you liberals stop it now with on the anti trans shit alright. I'm not trans bashing. It's one thing to respect someone's right to be who they want to be. It's quite another to have that person stick their tongue down your throat and hand down pants without notice.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound like your homophobic.

Look she lied by omission and that's wrong. Move on. You found out what you need to know about her and her character. Let the homophobic commentary go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

Exactly what kind of cause of action do you think you'd pursue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

You have a right to be angry but I'm flabbergasted as to why you think there is any legal action you can take against her.

I think OP is very upset because he feels he was physical with someone against his will, meaning had he known she was a transgender woman he would not have been physical with her. He feels violated and forced and I am sure a good deal of this knee jerk anger is from that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

You have a right to be angry but I'm flabbergasted as to why you think there is any legal action you can take against her.

I think OP is very upset because he feels he was physical with someone against his will, meaning had he known she was a transgender woman he would not have been physical with her. He feels violated and forced and I am sure a good deal of this knee jerk anger is from that.

It was in no way against his will. That he later learned something that made him regret the experience doesn't make it some kind of assault, unless we want people to be able to make the same claim if they fool around with someone who tums out to be married, lying about their interest in a long-term relationship, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 months and just getting to 2nd base? There's the real problem

We have been on 5 dates. We both travel a lot for work so most of my getting to know her time was on the phone.

I have had a habit of moving too fast with women. This was the one time where I decided to let things slow down and play it out. Oddly, I do think he is a kind guy and feel bad that he has had to live life this way. But this is the second time it's happened to him. This means he's doing this on purpose. Why? If he keeps it up he's going to piss off the wrong dude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

You have a right to be angry but I'm flabbergasted as to why you think there is any legal action you can take against her.

I think OP is very upset because he feels he was physical with someone against his will, meaning had he known she was a transgender woman he would not have been physical with her. He feels violated and forced and I am sure a good deal of this knee jerk anger is from that.

It was in no way against his will. That he later learned something that made him regret the experience doesn't make it some kind of assault, unless we want people to be able to make the same claim if they fool around with someone who tums out to be married, lying about their interest in a long-term relationship, etc.

He would not want to have intimacy from someone who was biologically a male. There is a reason this transgender woman hid the truth of her status. It was to trick him into a relationship before learning the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like your homophobic.

Look she lied by omission and that's wrong. Move on. You found out what you need to know about her and her character. Let the homophobic commentary go.

If not wanting to be tongued down by man when I am straight is homophobic then fine. Arguing homophobia is like going into a black hole.

[Anonymous]

I call bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like your homophobic.

Look she lied by omission and that's wrong. Move on. You found out what you need to know about her and her character. Let the homophobic commentary go.

Not wanting to date your same sex doesn't make you homophobic it makes you heterosexual.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Legal options?

Yes legal options. She a fucking dude. You lie about your marital status, your job, your family. Fine. He deceived me into thinking he's a woman. He was physical with me. He tried to compare this to him saying he's married and there is no difference. There's a huge fucking difference. I'm not gay. And I don't care if this dude, the athlete and whoever else thinks they are a woman. I will call you and treat you however you want, but at the end of the day, you are a man and you didn't even give me a chance to make a choice engaging in homosexual activity. To him its hetero.

You have a right to be angry but I'm flabbergasted as to why you think there is any legal action you can take against her.

I think OP is very upset because he feels he was physical with someone against his will, meaning had he known she was a transgender woman he would not have been physical with her. He feels violated and forced and I am sure a good deal of this knee jerk anger is from that.

It was in no way against his will. That he later learned something that made him regret the experience doesn't make it some kind of assault, unless we want people to be able to make the same claim if they fool around with someone who tums out to be married, lying about their interest in a long-term relationship, etc.

This statement in bogus. My will is to date women. Straight is my sexual orientation. In any other bogus hypothetical example, I have still have free will. If it's a woman who is married, I can still date her. If she has an std, I can make that choice. If she has kids, is a murder, is wife of a crime boss, I still would have a choice. If she's a man and I'm not gay, I had no choice.