Facebook Post from Sheryl Sandberg on Dealing with Grief

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have your credit cards ready. Her book about how to grieve in an overachieving way comes out next spring!

Quickly followed by "how to lean in as a single parent".

This. The post was lovely, and had a lot of truth, but she want the first to speak that truth and she can still shove her leaning in where the sun doesn't shine. You know what would be amazing? Her saying maybe I should have spent so,e extra time with the man I loved and leaned a little less hard. Now THAT would be some honest talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have your credit cards ready. Her book about how to grieve in an overachieving way comes out next spring!

Quickly followed by "how to lean in as a single parent".

This. The post was lovely, and had a lot of truth, but she want the first to speak that truth and she can still shove her leaning in where the sun doesn't shine. You know what would be amazing? Her saying maybe I should have spent so,e extra time with the man I loved and leaned a little less hard. Now THAT would be some honest talk.

Why do you assume she neglected her husband??? If you actually read Lean In you note that she talks a good deal about the partnership she had with her husband and that she credits him with a great deal in her life. You have no idea what their relationship is like and assume she must have been unloving.

Lean In may not be everyone's cup of tea, but too often its message as translated as "work more" instead of what it really was: encouraging women to own their careers and be strategic about the way they approach their careers - just like men are.

I thought her post was moving and heartfelt.

[Anonymous]

For some people writing can be very therapeutic when dealing with grief. I had a cousin that lost both of her parents while she was in high school. From time to time she would write long posts on facebook about how she was dealing with it and what she had learned.

I wonder about those who automatically rush to assume the worst in people.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

[Anonymous]

Tough crowd tonight! I liked her post and think it will resonate with many readers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.

[Anonymous]

I just think that she is an amazing person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.

+1 it come across as an overt act to bolster you "personal brand". It reminded by of something oprah would just love to do a show on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.

It's okay for people to express and say out loud what they think and feel about lost loved ones - especially in Dave Sandberg's case since he was a well-known person in his own right. Nothing cheap about talking about the person you love and your sense of loss. Unless your a heartless cynic, that is.

[Anonymous]

She tells us how to live now how to grieve. Woman needs to shut the heck up and just live life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.

+1 it come across as an overt act to bolster you "personal brand". It reminded by of something oprah would just love to do a show on.

She's a leader and she had to escort the elephant out of the room. And that's exactly what she's done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have your credit cards ready. Her book about how to grieve in an overachieving way comes out next spring!

Quickly followed by "how to lean in as a single parent".

This. The post was lovely, and had a lot of truth, but she want the first to speak that truth and she can still shove her leaning in where the sun doesn't shine. You know what would be amazing? Her saying maybe I should have spent so,e extra time with the man I loved and leaned a little less hard. Now THAT would be some honest talk.

+1 A-fucking-men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this. Your friends and family? OK. But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd. Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.

This is what I thought exactly. Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.

Why? What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving? Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life. We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever. I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that? And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection? Successful women are demonized at every turn.

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.

It's okay for people to express and say out loud what they think and feel about lost loved ones - especially in Dave Sandberg's case since he was a well-known person in his own right. Nothing cheap about talking about the person you love and your sense of loss. Unless your a heartless cynic, that is.

No, no harm at all, it's the over sharing that turns me off. You are free to feel differently, but turning to insults really isn't persuasive.