My husband can't keep a job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex was the same way, OP. He was a professor in NYC before entering the private sector workforce and was shocked that people would not pay him $100k just to read articles and say intelligent things. When he tried to get an actual assignment done, he'd freak out and stay until midnight, then stress about it for days. His jobs would give him the benefit of the doubt at first, but it typically took 6 months for them to get rid of him. Of course he was convinced his coworkers were crazy and/or threatened by his intelligence.

Sad, I just checked his LinkedIn and looks like he’s unemployed yet again after less than a year at a job in SF. I guess that's an improvement!

OP here. Similar to mine. He has very lofty expectations but is actually quite disorganized and has poor follow through. :/

[Anonymous]

Mine too, OP. He got fired when I was 5 months pregnant with DC #2, and it took him a year to find another position. Two years after getting that job, he just got laid off again. He's a government contractor so it really could be the shitty economy/government cutbacks, but I do sometimes wonder if it's him. Sad.

I *really* want to go part-time at my job now that my oldest is in elementary, and I think my boss would be open to me doing an 80% schedule, but I just can't take the paycut now. Makes me really upset when I see that my friends are able to pick up their kids at 3pm and take them to afternoon activities, and I don't know that I'll ever be able to swing that.

[Anonymous]

Look into adult ADHD. DH had untreated as a kid, MIL didn't want him on meds, still affected as an adult and couldn't keep a job until well into his thirties.
I am reading a book on adult ADHD in order to help DS navigate college. The symptoms and other characteristics described in this book really look like what our family has been experiencing in at least two generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine too, OP. He got fired when I was 5 months pregnant with DC #2, and it took him a year to find another position. Two years after getting that job, he just got laid off again. He's a government contractor so it really could be the shitty economy/government cutbacks, but I do sometimes wonder if it's him. Sad.

I *really* want to go part-time at my job now that my oldest is in elementary, and I think my boss would be open to me doing an 80% schedule, but I just can't take the paycut now. Makes me really upset when I see that my friends are able to pick up their kids at 3pm and take them to afternoon activities, and I don't know that I'll ever be able to swing that.

Grow up, spoiled one. There will always be someone else whose life you can envy. Maybe it makes your DH "really upset" when he sees his friends have hotter wives.

[Anonymous]

Grow up, spoiled one. There will always be someone else whose life you can envy. Maybe it makes your DH "really upset" when he sees his friends have hotter wives.

Maybe it does. *shrug* At least he's not married to a harpy like you.

But I am entitled to my feelings. I would like to make a change, have worked hard to be a successful team player & highly valued employee, but I can't risk making this change that could improve my family's lives because of this other instability. It sucks. Do other things suck more? Absolutely. Doesn't mean I can't be aggravated about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Grow up, spoiled one. There will always be someone else whose life you can envy. Maybe it makes your DH "really upset" when he sees his friends have hotter wives.

Maybe it does. *shrug* At least he's not married to a harpy like you.

But I am entitled to my feelings. I would like to make a change, have worked hard to be a successful team player & highly valued employee, but I can't risk making this change that could improve my family's lives because of this other instability. It sucks. Do other things suck more? Absolutely. Doesn't mean I can't be aggravated about it.

And it doesn't mean that your glaring immaturity and sense of entitlement can't be pointed out when you decide to vent on a public forum, either. Just one more thing that sucks, I guess. You clearly deserve much better.

[Anonymous]

And it doesn't mean that your glaring immaturity and sense of entitlement can't be pointed out when you decide to vent on a public forum, either. Just one more thing that sucks, I guess. You clearly deserve much better.

Thank you, O Wise One, for showing me the error of my ways. I'm glad your life is absolutely perfect and that there is nothing you would like to improve, and also that you have attained perfect contentment.

While you rest in the beauty of the enlightenment that you have already achieved, please show mercy and forgiveness to the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Grow up, spoiled one. There will always be someone else whose life you can envy. Maybe it makes your DH "really upset" when he sees his friends have hotter wives.

Maybe it does. *shrug* At least he's not married to a harpy like you.

But I am entitled to my feelings. I would like to make a change, have worked hard to be a successful team player & highly valued employee, but I can't risk making this change that could improve my family's lives because of this other instability. It sucks. Do other things suck more? Absolutely. Doesn't mean I can't be aggravated about it.

And it doesn't mean that your glaring immaturity and sense of entitlement can't be pointed out when you decide to vent on a public forum, either. Just one more thing that sucks, I guess. You clearly deserve much better.

Spot on!

You did not play along. We are all supposed to lament the terrible life PP has because she does not have the flexibility to make the choices that she wants to make because of the potential ramifications on her family.

[Anonymous]

Sunday cat fight at dcum. Pass the popcorn.

[Anonymous]

Aiyaaaaahhhhh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell me - what are these guys doing?

Besides spending my money and building up my resentment? I'm not sure.

[Anonymous]

Join the club, my DH quit his job last year and was fired from one this year. It's stressful as hell when a spouse doesn't have their stuff together.

[Anonymous]

Funny part is if their DH went out and got a job they actually liked but payed way less the DW would still be pissin' and moanin'. Money, the root of all evils.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny part is if their DH went out and got a job they actually liked but payed way less the DW would still be pissin' and moanin'. Money, the root of all evils.

A PP here. Nope, that's not it. I will always make more than DH because of my graduate degree. I'm fine with him making less, and even substantially less, if it were a job he liked and was good at. But he needs to contribute something.

[Anonymous]

Leave him OP. I've experienced a marriage with an unreliable partner, and now one with a reliable partner. I should have left the first one sooner.

If you have your shit together, you should not accept any less from your partner. Find someone on your level.