My husband can't keep a job

[Anonymous]

DH was fired today. This is the third time in three years he's been let go. I am being supportive but it's becoming obvious that he's the problem. Our health insurance is under him. Such a nightmare! I've been at my job for a decade, but he's the breadwinner. We have three kids. Now if my DH could just stay employed....

[Anonymous]

My ex was the same way. Sorry you are in this situation, it is not easy.

[Anonymous]

Why was he fired? What is it about him that made his last three employers fire him?

[Anonymous]

Why OP? ~ enlighten us

[Anonymous]

That really sucks. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Well, the economy is s l o w l y improving, so it will be harder to fire him! Would be better if he could exercise some self control for whatever it is.

[Anonymous]

Are we married to the same guy? Except mine quits first. Becoming increasingly obvious he has no interest or intention in working. ...

(Maybe this belongs in Relationships.....)

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP.
I was in a similar boat with my ex, but I was the breadwinner. It was stressful and, yes, embarrassing.
Like 20:31, mine likes to quit before he's fired. So often there's no unemployment.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, op. My friend's DH is the same way. It is extremely stressful for her. I am sorry you have to go through this again.

[Anonymous]

Tell me - what are these guys doing?

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you, are the breadwinner.

I am very sorry.

[Anonymous]

Similar situation with my sister and brother in law. It's clear they have a problem getting along with people generally, although it's quite vague and whenever they are fired or laid off it's all about how awful the company was,and how it is going downhill, etc. As far as I can tell, they say politically incorrect things with the idea that everyone feels the same way. They both put their family through hell and back numerous times with the lack of income and benefits. Both are now employed but the income in very low.

[Anonymous]

I can't keep a job either. I don't get fired so much as I have REALLY bad job luck.

Over the last ten years: One job was different than advertised and I didn't have the computer skills to do what they needed (and I have learning disabilities so learning new skills is REALLY hard - close to impossible) so I got fired. One job was moving offices from 10 minutes away to an hour and a half away so I lost it. Then was out of work for almost four years during the recession. Then I worked for a year and a half and then the owner closed the business. Then I worked for someone for 11 months and then he laid me off because business was slow and he couldn't afford me.

My resume is now shit and it's super frustrating. I have excellent letters of reference from my last two jobs but it's still super difficult to even get interviews. My self-esteem is in the toilet because of this.

[Anonymous]

My ex was the same way, OP. He was a professor in NYC before entering the private sector workforce and was shocked that people would not pay him $100k just to read articles and say intelligent things. When he tried to get an actual assignment done, he'd freak out and stay until midnight, then stress about it for days. His jobs would give him the benefit of the doubt at first, but it typically took 6 months for them to get rid of him. Of course he was convinced his coworkers were crazy and/or threatened by his intelligence.

Sad, I just checked his LinkedIn and looks like he’s unemployed yet again after less than a year at a job in SF. I guess that's an improvement!

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Ugh, sad to see it looks like a lot of you describe this person as your EX. I dont' want to leave my marriage over this, but it is incredibly stressful and belies certain flaws my DH must possess.

This time they told him it was job performance but of course according to him, his boss just never liked him. And before that it was downsizing, I don't even remember before that. It's always someone else's fault.