Ex is hiding money and step mother VA

[Anonymous]

I'm a stepmom in Virginia. My income makes no difference in support calculations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

[Anonymous]

Oh hi angry child support lady

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

Hmmm... I make $150k more than my husband (he also has a crazy ex), and he definitely benefits from an increased standard of living. His son does, too, by the great vacations we bring him along on, all the extracurriculars we pay for, the electronic and name brand clothes that matter so much to him now that he is in middle school. In fact, it is my income that is likely paying for all this great stuff we get to do and buy as a blended family! But his ex wife doesn't see a dime of my money. Sorry sweetie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

Hmmm... I make $150k more than my husband (he also has a crazy ex), and he definitely benefits from an increased standard of living. His son does, too, by the great vacations we bring him along on, all the extracurriculars we pay for, the electronic and name brand clothes that matter so much to him now that he is in middle school. In fact, it is my income that is likely paying for all this great stuff we get to do and buy as a blended family! But his ex wife doesn't see a dime of my money. Sorry sweetie.

Well, dear I wish your husband was my EX. My child has not only not recieved any of which you mention his father has refused to see him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

My husband's case was in CA. His ex got a decrease. You are so clueless aren't you. My husband's ex cheated on him. f you want your child to benefit from his standard of living, which is also because of his wife, then the child should be living with them, not you. Simple solution. The child when they stay there has that lifestyle and has the lifestyle that you can afford in your home. And, no just because you are shacking, it does not change anything. My husband's ex shacks up and her boyfriends income was not included even though it was clear he was paying the rent and other household expenses.

You choose to have a child, you are getting child support. If you wanted his income, you should have stayed married. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

My husband's case was in CA. His ex got a decrease. You are so clueless aren't you. My husband's ex cheated on him. f you want your child to benefit from his standard of living, which is also because of his wife, then the child should be living with them, not you. Simple solution. The child when they stay there has that lifestyle and has the lifestyle that you can afford in your home. And, no just because you are shacking, it does not change anything. My husband's ex shacks up and her boyfriends income was not included even though it was clear he was paying the rent and other household expenses.

You choose to have a child, you are getting child support. If you wanted his income, you should have stayed married. Simple.

You seem angry. Also you dont appear to be a good reader. I'm not getting support!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

My husband's case was in CA. His ex got a decrease. You are so clueless aren't you. My husband's ex cheated on him. f you want your child to benefit from his standard of living, which is also because of his wife, then the child should be living with them, not you. Simple solution. The child when they stay there has that lifestyle and has the lifestyle that you can afford in your home. And, no just because you are shacking, it does not change anything. My husband's ex shacks up and her boyfriends income was not included even though it was clear he was paying the rent and other household expenses.

You choose to have a child, you are getting child support. If you wanted his income, you should have stayed married. Simple.

You seem angry. Also you dont appear to be a good reader. I'm not getting support!

Then you clearly choose the wrong person to have a child with. Get a better job. I'm not angry. Child support is long over for us. You are the one demanding money.

[Anonymous]

OP--are you asking to have your child support from your ex-husband increased because he married someone else who has a salary and therefore their combined HHI income has increased? That's what I'm getting from you post.

So then what happens to your CS if they divorce, if they have a child, if one of them loses their job or becomes disabled?

And since you're asking for a portion of her income, does that mean you are welcoming her input in how your child is raised?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP -- is this HIS income? It has to be HIS income, not "household" income.

Not OP, but is it a combination of income and expenses? If his household expenses have gone down (because they are now shared), does that change the calculation at all?

No, how old are you? Why don't you know these things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stepmom in Virginia. My income makes no difference in support calculations.

Even I know that and I haven't been divorced or had kids outside marriage. Can't believe she doesn't know this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it has to be an extremely high income or special situation. My husbands ex was like you and expected my income to count even though she refused to provide her boyfriends income whom she left the marriage for. Judge said no. Took the older kids off child support, ordered her to pay more in travel costs for the youngest, and a lot more visitation. They only used my income for tax purposes and given I put him in a higher tax bracket, it got slightly reduced for that. You are not entitled to his wife income.

Are you in Virginia? Together they make close to 300K. I am single with just our child.

You are missing the point. You are NOT entitled to the stepmother's income. Your child is entitled to a portion of her father's income as child support. It does not matter what state you are living in, it is your and the child's father's responsibility to provide for your child. If you cannot afford to care for your child, talk to dad or give dad custody. If you believe you are entitled to an increase based off of his income, then file. Simple. No judge is going to base it off of combined income. If you want a joint income, get married.

+1000

Look, leftover ladies. You married him. If you think he gets to increase his standard of living by leaving his child behind you are dumber than we thought. I already posted the guidance from california any other states?
FYI for those of you just shacking - up that increase HHI as well.

Do you live in California? Very, very few states allow the courts to consider a step parents income in calculating child support. Last I checked, Virginia was NOT one of them.

How in the hell do you rationalize taking another woman's money? Get a damn job and take care of your kids.

And just as an aside - my DH's idiot ex-wife tried to get her hands on more money one too many times. When my stepkids were 4 and 6, the judge gave my DH physical custody. She got every other weekend and four weeks during the summer. AND she got to write US a check every month. You sound completely certifiable. I would be careful about letting a judge see that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--are you asking to have your child support from your ex-husband increased because he married someone else who has a salary and therefore their combined HHI income has increased? That's what I'm getting from you post.

So then what happens to your CS if they divorce, if they have a child, if one of them loses their job or becomes disabled?

And since you're asking for a portion of her income, does that mean you are welcoming her input in how your child is raised?

1) yes
2) reduction if applicable
3) do I have a choice?