Ex is hiding money and step mother VA

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Anonymous wrote:How is this money laundering? I thought the whole point of it was that person X gets money in an illegal way but transfers it to person Y so that it appears legal. That's not what your ex is doing from the sounds of it. Sounds like he's "gifting" money to his wife so she can purchase things in her name. I guess I'm missing something, but not sure how that's money laundering.

In the end OP, you don't care if he gets caught and gets in trouble. So why are you not filing to see what happens and what they find? There just seems like there is something you are not telling us if you won't just file

Tax evasion. Not claiming profits. I have filed want to find all $

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

I know how much she makes because she's a fed
Real estate records show house sells and purchases
Tax assessments etc
He is doing a very sloppy job of laundering money

OP, you sound very bitter.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

I know how much she makes because she's a fed
Real estate records show house sells and purchases
Tax assessments etc
He is doing a very sloppy job of laundering money

OP, you sound very bitter.

And? I'm going more for vengeance but whatever., op

[Anonymous]

OP, let the vengeance thing go. Trust me. Your time will be better spent focusing on your child and self. Working with the ex-wife? Seriously let that one go. You'll only end up a bitter haggard mommy.

Get your child support; let the rest go.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

I know how much she makes because she's a fed
Real estate records show house sells and purchases
Tax assessments etc
He is doing a very sloppy job of laundering money

I know those records are public but the fact you'd take the time to look them up says a lot about you. Worry about building a life for yourself instead of worrying about that married couple's business.

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Ok, why on earth would you have a child with a man who has several wives and probably a few kids? You don't sound to classy yourself. Let me guess... you were the affair? File already. I don't get the complaining. You should have filed when your child was born if you weren't married/living together/him providing support. Or, did you choose not to so you could get gov't benefits?

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OP, my friend has an asshole ex who hid income so he could have a reduced child support payment. The idiot then posted about it on FB (the fact that he was being paid cash and let the "bitch" find it) totally not thinking someone would tell my friend. So she decided she would figure out a way to prove it. It pissed him off and he stopped paying Cs. OP, it's not an easy process to get Cs when ex will do all he can do prevent it.

My point is, just be careful. He sounds like a jerk and if you really piss him off, I bet he will retaliate however he can.

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Thanks and OMG I had to google Banff. Sigh- OP

OMG I did not! Feel like a winner, for the first time in months on DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:OP, my friend has an asshole ex who hid income so he could have a reduced child support payment. The idiot then posted about it on FB (the fact that he was being paid cash and let the "bitch" find it) totally not thinking someone would tell my friend. So she decided she would figure out a way to prove it. It pissed him off and he stopped paying Cs. OP, it's not an easy process to get Cs when ex will do all he can do prevent it.

My point is, just be careful. He sounds like a jerk and if you really piss him off, I bet he will retaliate however he can.

Thanks. He'll try. I'm letting the state handle him. I am just pointing out all the places he's hiding the money to the state.
I'm pretty sure Fiancé reads DCUM. This was fun all.-op

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, why on earth would you have a child with a man who has several wives and probably a few kids? You don't sound to classy yourself. Let me guess... you were the affair? File already. I don't get the complaining. You should have filed when your child was born if you weren't married/living together/him providing support. Or, did you choose not to so you could get gov't benefits?

You missed post where I said she reads DCUM. This marriage won't last . I want tall I can get before the next kid shows up.