What a Man Finds Interesting in a Woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he sounds like a fairly typical self-absorbed type of man. He needs a woman to focus on him, build up his delicate ego, do things he is interested in, make him feel good. I don't quite see what he brings to the table.

I agree with this first part. However, OP has a point. Most men I know want to feel important, loved, appreciated, and basically like a king. That's not to say that men want a doormat (they don't!) or that they won't bring anything to the table or won't treat their woman like a queen. They are mutually exclusive. Men want their women to make them feel like "the man" or, rather, the best man they can be.

Ask him about his day, dress up for him (even if he is the only person who will see you), sometimes say "yes" when you'd rather say "no" because you love him, tell him you're glad to see him when he/you gets home, side with him in front of others no matter what. Did I get that right, OP?

I would also add, though it doesn't seem to matter as much to OP, take pride in your appearance. If you are overweight or getting older or whatever, just take care of yourself and look put together. OP doesn't seem to care, but almost every man I know wants a skinny girl.

[Anonymous]

No one cares what you want, bro.

[Anonymous]

What most of you responding negatively don't understand is the OP didn't say this because he wanted you to agree with him. He said it because he feels it's true and because it's what he needs. I would say most men would agree with him. Selfish? Perhaps. But I also thinks it's mostly true.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ pp here again, I also want to add that I choose to stay single because I suspect that most men feel this way and I just don't have the energy to deal with it. I already have one male child in the house .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What most of you responding negatively don't understand is the OP didn't say this because he wanted you to agree with him. He said it because he feels it's true and because it's what he needs. I would say most men would agree with him. Selfish? Perhaps. But I also thinks it's mostly true.

I don't think most men would agree with him. He didn't say a single thing about the women he is attracted to other than that he doesn't like skinny ones. Other than that, what he likes in a woman is a woman who likes him. Not very enlightening especially since he doesn't sound very appealing. I'm not going to change a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What most of you responding negatively don't understand is the OP didn't say this because he wanted you to agree with him. He said it because he feels it's true and because it's what he needs. I would say most men would agree with him. Selfish? Perhaps. But I also thinks it's mostly true.

I don't think most men would agree with him. He didn't say a single thing about the women he is attracted to other than that he doesn't like skinny ones. Other than that, what he likes in a woman is a woman who likes him. Not very enlightening especially since he doesn't sound very appealing. I'm not going to change a thing.

Well, it is maybe a little enlightening. Women's magazines, which *somebody* is buying and reading, are full of tips about "what men want" when it's not that tough -- generally a man wants a woman who wants him. The rest of the details are mostly incidental and negotiable. Maybe it's selfish, but men will go to incredible lengths trying to get a woman to want him. Some men probably like material goods for their own sake, but most of the guys I hang out with would be perfectly happy living in a crappy apartment, drinking beer, and playing video games except that they can't attract a woman without making something of themselves.

[Anonymous]

And great bjs. Seriously a woman can totally rule any dude is she worships his dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he sounds like a fairly typical self-absorbed type of man. He needs a woman to focus on him, build up his delicate ego, do things he is interested in, make him feel good. I don't quite see what he brings to the table.

I agree with this first part. However, OP has a point. Most men I know want to feel important, loved, appreciated, and basically like a king. That's not to say that men want a doormat (they don't!) or that they won't bring anything to the table or won't treat their woman like a queen. They are mutually exclusive. Men want their women to make them feel like "the man" or, rather, the best man they can be.

Ask him about his day, dress up for him (even if he is the only person who will see you), sometimes say "yes" when you'd rather say "no" because you love him, tell him you're glad to see him when he/you gets home, side with him in front of others no matter what. Did I get that right, OP?

I would also add, though it doesn't seem to matter as much to OP, take pride in your appearance. If you are overweight or getting older or whatever, just take care of yourself and look put together. OP doesn't seem to care, but almost every man I know wants a skinny girl. [/quote

This probably contributes to why there are so many women on this forum that complain about their H.

[Anonymous]

I think the pressure about looking a certain way is social pressure and competition between women.

[Anonymous]

Stroke his ego. Stroke his penis. That's literally all you need to make your man happy. It's so easy it almost a joke.

[Anonymous]

If making my wife happy was just a matter of telling her how awesome she is and doing stuff to her vagina, I can't imagine how much easier life would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been perusing this site for some time, and the kind of things that women put out there that they THINK men find attractive just makes me want to pop the top of my favorite American lager and settle in for another evening of good laughs. There seems to be a predominant belief here that a smart woman - Ivy educated - who is skinny, a professional, i.e. a lawyer or some such office jockey type job, is intellectually curious, likes going to art galleries, cooking organic meals, etc. is just the type of woman your average red blooded American male is looking for. I am here to disabuse of this notion.

I do not mind smart women. I do mind skinny women. I do not mind women with curves - actually I appreciate them. I don't care where you went to school, whether you've back packed around Europe or support a village in the Andes, are vegan and do yoga. What I am interested in is a woman who takes an interest in me. I want a woman with a sense of humor - who can make me laugh and can laugh at herself. I want a woman who can flirt and will pursue me, even when we are in a LTR. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who will not make the effort to get me into bed. Of course, I will take the lead sometimes, but I want to be seduced. I enjoy the game. I want a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them. I would likewise want to spend time with her in some of her pursuits. I want a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me, and not someone who is going to hand me a "honey-do" list the minute I walk in the door. I want a woman who will sometimes say "fuck it," and throw best laid plans to the wind and take on something adventurous, whether that is a new bedroom thing, a new cuisine, a new vacation joint or a career change and and a cross country move. I want a woman who is a committed, though not overbearing, mother, i.e. who realizes the children are only here for 18 years so you better keep the spark alive in our relationship or when they are gone I will be too. These are many of the attributes I find attractive in a woman - combined with a reasonable physical attractiveness. There you have it, the truth right from the horses mouth. Now, you all know what you need to change to catch a good man.

You sound exhausting.

I was just about to say the same thing! He's a total bore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If making my wife happy was just a matter of telling her how awesome she is and doing stuff to her vagina, I can't imagine how much easier life would be.

That's honestly all most women need too. Just get the vagina part right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If making my wife happy was just a matter of telling her how awesome she is and doing stuff to her vagina, I can't imagine how much easier life would be.

That's honestly all most women need too. Just get the vagina part right.

Someone actually said "doing stuff to her vagina". That's beyond hysterical. I'm going to some stuff to DW's vagina in about 30 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of what the OP wrote is not what is "interesting about a woman", but rather what the woman does for the man. If the list was truly about the woman, the list would not contain so many references to the OP..

1. " a woman who takes an interest in me. "
2. " a woman who can flirt and will pursue me"
3. " a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them.
4. " a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me"

Sounds like you just want someone to cater to you, fluff up your ego.

A woman wants all the above things in a man, too, btw. But these are not things women find interesting in men. These are just things that inherently are part of being in a healthy relationship.

Agreed. But appreciate the honesty.