What a Man Finds Interesting in a Woman

[Anonymous]

I have been perusing this site for some time, and the kind of things that women put out there that they THINK men find attractive just makes me want to pop the top of my favorite American lager and settle in for another evening of good laughs. There seems to be a predominant belief here that a smart woman - Ivy educated - who is skinny, a professional, i.e. a lawyer or some such office jockey type job, is intellectually curious, likes going to art galleries, cooking organic meals, etc. is just the type of woman your average red blooded American male is looking for. I am here to disabuse of this notion.

I do not mind smart women. I do mind skinny women. I do not mind women with curves - actually I appreciate them. I don't care where you went to school, whether you've back packed around Europe or support a village in the Andes, are vegan and do yoga. What I am interested in is a woman who takes an interest in me. I want a woman with a sense of humor - who can make me laugh and can laugh at herself. I want a woman who can flirt and will pursue me, even when we are in a LTR. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who will not make the effort to get me into bed. Of course, I will take the lead sometimes, but I want to be seduced. I enjoy the game. I want a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them. I would likewise want to spend time with her in some of her pursuits. I want a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me, and not someone who is going to hand me a "honey-do" list the minute I walk in the door. I want a woman who will sometimes say "fuck it," and throw best laid plans to the wind and take on something adventurous, whether that is a new bedroom thing, a new cuisine, a new vacation joint or a career change and and a cross country move. I want a woman who is a committed, though not overbearing, mother, i.e. who realizes the children are only here for 18 years so you better keep the spark alive in our relationship or when they are gone I will be too. These are many of the attributes I find attractive in a woman - combined with a reasonable physical attractiveness. There you have it, the truth right from the horses mouth. Now, you all know what you need to change to catch a good man.

[Anonymous]

I think this is true for women too, if you reverse the equation.

[Anonymous]

Make or female we all want one thing in a partner: romantic companionship. It really isn't that complicated.

Someone we are happy with. Someone who challenges and improves us, someone we are attracted to. Someone who laughs and makes us laugh. Someone who provides stability in our lives. Where each of us finds those needs fulfilled will vary, but what we want from a spouse is very uniform and independent of sex or gender.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps many women don't care what you (or other men to whom they aren't attracted) find attractive?

And perhaps it's the social pressure of other women that concerns them most.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you, and have you ever been married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you, and have you ever been married?

From the nature of OP's concerns, I'm going to guess mid-30s with a child or children in the 0-5 range.

[Anonymous]

Cool story, bro.

[Anonymous]

Most of what the OP wrote is not what is "interesting about a woman", but rather what the woman does for the man. If the list was truly about the woman, the list would not contain so many references to the OP..

1. " a woman who takes an interest in me. "
2. " a woman who can flirt and will pursue me"
3. " a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them.
4. " a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me"

Sounds like you just want someone to cater to you, fluff up your ego.

A woman wants all the above things in a man, too, btw. But these are not things women find interesting in men. These are just things that inherently are part of being in a healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been perusing this site for some time, and the kind of things that women put out there that they THINK men find attractive just makes me want to pop the top of my favorite American lager and settle in for another evening of good laughs. There seems to be a predominant belief here that a smart woman - Ivy educated - who is skinny, a professional, i.e. a lawyer or some such office jockey type job, is intellectually curious, likes going to art galleries, cooking organic meals, etc. is just the type of woman your average red blooded American male is looking for. I am here to disabuse of this notion.

I do not mind smart women. I do mind skinny women. I do not mind women with curves - actually I appreciate them. I don't care where you went to school, whether you've back packed around Europe or support a village in the Andes, are vegan and do yoga. What I am interested in is a woman who takes an interest in me. I want a woman with a sense of humor - who can make me laugh and can laugh at herself. I want a woman who can flirt and will pursue me, even when we are in a LTR. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who will not make the effort to get me into bed. Of course, I will take the lead sometimes, but I want to be seduced. I enjoy the game. I want a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them. I would likewise want to spend time with her in some of her pursuits. I want a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me, and not someone who is going to hand me a "honey-do" list the minute I walk in the door. I want a woman who will sometimes say "fuck it," and throw best laid plans to the wind and take on something adventurous, whether that is a new bedroom thing, a new cuisine, a new vacation joint or a career change and and a cross country move. I want a woman who is a committed, though not overbearing, mother, i.e. who realizes the children are only here for 18 years so you better keep the spark alive in our relationship or when they are gone I will be too. These are many of the attributes I find attractive in a woman - combined with a reasonable physical attractiveness. There you have it, the truth right from the horses mouth. Now, you all know what you need to change to catch a good man.

I was going to say: HIMSELF! But you said it so much more like love (of self)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been perusing this site for some time, and the kind of things that women put out there that they THINK men find attractive just makes me want to pop the top of my favorite American lager and settle in for another evening of good laughs. There seems to be a predominant belief here that a smart woman - Ivy educated - who is skinny, a professional, i.e. a lawyer or some such office jockey type job, is intellectually curious, likes going to art galleries, cooking organic meals, etc. is just the type of woman your average red blooded American male is looking for. I am here to disabuse of this notion.

I do not mind smart women. I do mind skinny women. I do not mind women with curves - actually I appreciate them. I don't care where you went to school, whether you've back packed around Europe or support a village in the Andes, are vegan and do yoga. What I am interested in is a woman who takes an interest in me. I want a woman with a sense of humor - who can make me laugh and can laugh at herself. I want a woman who can flirt and will pursue me, even when we are in a LTR. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who will not make the effort to get me into bed. Of course, I will take the lead sometimes, but I want to be seduced. I enjoy the game. I want a woman who takes a genuine interest in the things I enjoy and wants to spend time with me doing them. I would likewise want to spend time with her in some of her pursuits. I want a woman who will tell me at the end of the day she is happy to see me, and not someone who is going to hand me a "honey-do" list the minute I walk in the door. I want a woman who will sometimes say "fuck it," and throw best laid plans to the wind and take on something adventurous, whether that is a new bedroom thing, a new cuisine, a new vacation joint or a career change and and a cross country move. I want a woman who is a committed, though not overbearing, mother, i.e. who realizes the children are only here for 18 years so you better keep the spark alive in our relationship or when they are gone I will be too. These are many of the attributes I find attractive in a woman - combined with a reasonable physical attractiveness. There you have it, the truth right from the horses mouth. Now, you all know what you need to change to catch a good man.

You sound exhausting.

[Anonymous]

I think he sounds like a fairly typical self-absorbed type of man. He needs a woman to focus on him, build up his delicate ego, do things he is interested in, make him feel good. I don't quite see what he brings to the table.

[Anonymous]

Thigh gap.

[Anonymous]

I find women that can eat very spicy Indian food fascinating.

[Anonymous]

Fortunately, we women sit around wondering how best to make ourselves attractive to men. We find validation in this way. Thank goodness you are here to enlighten us on the issue.

[Anonymous]

Toby Keith: "I wanna talk about me"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxUuDPNbkJk