My mother and wife hate eachother! And mom says leave her.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that your mom basically stole your phone and read your personal messages and you are okay with that? I agree with your wife. You need to stick up for her and be on her side. Your mom has problems and you do too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well maybe I should've clarified, I mean my mom has really helped us out when we had no money, she helped us get a new fridge once, sold us her truck really cheap, pretty much gave me her old Harley and even told us to concider done money we owed her once as a wedding gift. I kind of feel like my wife forgets those things and that we should deal with my moms crap every now and then because of what she's done for us if u know what I mean.

Don't take any more $$ from your mom. If you feel you owe her, either pay back the $$ if you have it or start a payment plan. Your MIL is completely out of line and has shown no courtesy to your wife. Sounds like your wife has been a saint all these years. You need to set a better example for your daughter and show her how much your wife (her mother) means to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not believe that this could possibly be a different op

Me neither. I just reported it. Let's see what happens.

[Anonymous]

This is why you never marry a moma's boy.

[Anonymous]

Heres what you do. Call your mother, get your phone back and tell her she is wrong. YOU tell her you are cutting her off, no taking, no visits, nothing till she apologizes to your wife and yourself. It's time for you to grown up. What the fuck wrong with you? I don't want to be in the middle...well you are and you are making it worst.

[Anonymous]

Save up the money your mother gave you and pay her back. Sit down both of them. They do not get to speak. Tell your mother you love her but she needs to stop competing with your wife. End of story.

[Anonymous]

You looked bad in the other thread. You look worse here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU need to stick up for your wife. Wife is #1. When you got married you started a life and family with her and left your mommy behind. Grow up, act like an adult and put some boundaries between your mom and wife.

And even though it's their argument, YOU need to deal with this since it's your parents. Your wife should referee between her parents and you.

Honestly, you should be grateful your wife didn't leave you years ago! You owe her a big apology and you need to tell your mom to back off. You also need to set boundaries and YOU need to tell your mother.

Your mother is ruining your marriage and you are letting her.

I love my MIL because she butts out. If she was like your mother, I would have divorced my DH a LONG time ago.
YOU are the one creating this problem because you refuse to stick up for your wife. You don't get any sympathy from me.

If you don't change NOW, your wife will leave you and you will be stuck with your mommy for the rest of your life. Don't think she won't sabotage the next relationship you are with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why you never marry a momma's boy.

+1000

Don't understand why some women marry "boys" instead of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You looked bad in the other thread. You look worse here.

+1000

You are in the wrong, OP. You F'd up BIG time. Your momma read your phone and you are fighting with your WIFE? I hope she divorces you. You are a loser.

[Anonymous]

Your mother doesn't care about you? She is advising you to divorce your wife. Does she know that then you won't be able to see your daughter every day. You will not be better off financially. Your daughter will get a new step-father. I can't imagine any parent advising their child to get divorced based on what you said. Your wife is not cheating, she does not have an addiction, she does not have anger issues, she is not abusing your or your daughter. Your mother has very serious psychological issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not believe that this could possibly be a different op

Same here. This is the psychology student. Can't find the thread where he/she fesses up.

[Anonymous]

If you are for real, then your wife and child come first. Your mom had no business on your phone and should not be taking your child without clearing it with you first. Stick up for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Happy with your wife minus "stuff" or unhappy and possibly a failed marriage plus "stuff." What is more important to you?

[Anonymous]

You should do what your mother tells you to do. She might stop writing your name on your underwear.