My mother and wife hate eachother! And mom says leave her.

[Anonymous]

From your side? Your mom is crazy. Asking before she does something with your daughter is basic courtesy.

Running off with your phone and sharing private information with family is absolute batshit crazy. Your mom shouldn't be allowed back in *your* home after that. How are you not furious with her for that stunt?

[Anonymous]

What is the other thread?

[Anonymous]

"forsaking all others"

ALL others. Not "except your mom"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well maybe I should've clarified, I mean my mom has really helped us out when we had no money, she helped us get a new fridge once, sold us her truck really cheap, pretty much gave me her old Harley and even told us to concider done money we owed her once as a wedding gift. I kind of feel like my wife forgets those things and that we should deal with my moms crap every now and then because of what she's done for us if u know what I mean.

Grow up, pay your own bills, quit borrowing money from Mom, and tell her to piss off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why you never marry a momma's boy.

+1000

Don't understand why some women marry "boys" instead of men.

I did. I was young, naive, and lived far away from the future MIL. 8 years after it still sucks. I want out but have a child.

[Anonymous]

Your mother sold you a truck for cheap and gave you her old Harley Davidson motorcycle? And went through your phone? Have you considered going on Jerry Springer?

[Anonymous]

You are either a complete loser, or a troll.

If the former, I have to say that even though your wife is probably not perfect, your mother is clearly in the wrong, and has been all along. It's just hair-raising to think that you did not support your wife all these longs years. If she divorces you over this situation, you've completely deserved it.

The first rule of a marriage is to present a united front to the world (specifically, the ILs and parents!). Have your battles out privately. Call out anybody who is mentally unstable enough to intrude. Decide things with your wife, then let everybody else know.

Do you need your mother's money? You still need to confront her over her behavior. From now on, you cannot welcome you mother in your house unless she can stay polite and keep her hands off other people's private property.
If she chooses to cut off contact with you, it won't exactly be a loss.

[Anonymous]

One more thing - it's so easy for parents to keep their children on their toes with gifts of money.

Don't let her play this game with you. My parents tried that with me, and it did not end well.

[Anonymous]

Loser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heres what you do. Call your mother, get your phone back and tell her she is wrong. YOU tell her you are cutting her off, no taking, no visits, nothing till she apologizes to your wife and yourself. It's time for you to grown up. What the fuck wrong with you? I don't want to be in the middle...well you are and you are making it worst.

I agree with this, without the foul language. Husband also needs therapy to help him understand what the issue is. It doesn't appear that OP really understands the problems or how to stick up for himself and his wife. Get some therapy.

[Anonymous]

How did you marry a woman that hates your mother? How can she love you and hate the woman who raised you?
What happened?when did things go wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you marry a woman that hates your mother? How can she love you and hate the woman who raised you?
What happened?when did things go wrong?

The problem is the mother, not the wife.

I doubt a man would want his MIL intervening in his marriage and causing problems. So why is it ok for a woman to put up with it? You are the only poster to advocate for the OP. He is WRONG. His wife has tried to be a good DIL but the MIL has gone above and beyond to make her life a living hell. Why did it get this far? because the OP let it. His refusal to stick up for his wife allowed his mother to increase her bad behavior. I feel sorry for OP's wife. What a horrible situation. I certainly would not have put up with it for so many years. I believe in "in sickness and in health..." to the very end, but if my MIL was disrespectful and DH didn't stick up for me, it would be over. There is no point in being miserable and fighting with someone who isn't trying to make the marriage work.

[Anonymous]

Your mother is a manipulative wedge in your life and marriage. with your wife and your child. She wants you to get divorced so she can dig her claws even deeper into your unhealthy interdependence she has created. Cut ties immediately until she apologizes and behaves appropriately.

She bought a summer house 1 mile from you!?? Yikes.
She fights with your wife all the time!?? Yikes.
She goes to your house and takes your child (13 yo? 16 yo?) without taking or telling anyone? Yikes.
She whines to you about your wife and steals your phone and private conversations!?? Yikes.
She runs around like a baby to various family and friends about her one-sided story she instigated!?? Yikes.
She never taught you to spell!?? Yikes.

Wake up. Your mom is an awful person. Get boundaries now.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, this isn't real right? Just mocking the original thread? Both trolls?

[Anonymous]

Definitely trolls.