My mother and wife hate eachother! And mom says leave her.

[Anonymous]

Support Your wife. Get therapy for your lack of boundaries. You are making everyone's life harder for no good reason.,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU need to stick up for your wife. Wife is #1. When you got married you started a life and family with her and left your mommy behind. Grow up, act like an adult and put some boundaries between your mom and wife.

And even though it's their argument, YOU need to deal with this since it's your parents. Your wife should referee between her parents and you.

+ 1. Grow up. Support your wife. Your mother sounds like a nut-job. Do it now before it escalates to the point where your wife finds your mother so toxic that she won't have any communication with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mother is a manipulative wedge in your life and marriage. with your wife and your child. She wants you to get divorced so she can dig her claws even deeper into your unhealthy interdependence she has created. Cut ties immediately until she apologizes and behaves appropriately.

She bought a summer house 1 mile from you!?? Yikes.
She fights with your wife all the time!?? Yikes.
She goes to your house and takes your child (13 yo? 16 yo?) without taking or telling anyone? Yikes.
She whines to you about your wife and steals your phone and private conversations!?? Yikes.
She runs around like a baby to various family and friends about her one-sided story she instigated!?? Yikes.
She never taught you to spell!?? Yikes.

Wake up. Your mom is an awful person. Get boundaries now.

LOL! LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU need to stick up for your wife. Wife is #1. When you got married you started a life and family with her and left your mommy behind. Grow up, act like an adult and put some boundaries between your mom and wife.

And even though it's their argument, YOU need to deal with this since it's your parents. Your wife should referee between her parents and you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Mom or wife? You better choose wife. Heck, even the bible says a man shall leave his mother and cleave to his wife.

If you want to use the bible to prove your point it also says in the Ten Commandments to honour your mother and father. Then there's 1 Peter 3: Wives obey your husbands.

Likely there's a lot more to this story than what can be written in a paragraph or two. It's unfair and unreasonable to give advice with so little information and no input from the others involved.

If you want good useful advice go to your priest/pastor or other professional that you, your wife and you mom agree to and talk it out. Meanwhile remind you mom your wife is the mother of her grandchildren and remind you wife with your mom you wouldn't be here.

I hope things work out.

[Anonymous]

Your mother has serious control issues, to show up at your house unannounced and take her granddaughter without prior arrangement; and too boot root thru your phone without permission and then steel it! You need to stand up for you wife. No daughter-in-law would find this behavior acceptable.

[Anonymous]

To the two PP's, you realize that this is a year and a half old thread. Why would you dig this up now?

[Anonymous]

Your wife should have left you years ago.

Your mother's actions are terribly abusive, and the fact you can't see that is severely disturbing.

My advice is for you to limit contact with your mother. Above all, she is NEVER allowed to do anything with your children without your consent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU need to stick up for your wife. Wife is #1. When you got married you started a life and family with her and left your mommy behind. Grow up, act like an adult and put some boundaries between your mom and wife.

And even though it's their argument, YOU need to deal with this since it's your parents. Your wife should referee between her parents and you.

+1

Grow a pair, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Support Your wife. Get therapy for your lack of boundaries. You are making everyone's life harder for no good reason.,

+1

I would not blame your wife if she has left you, by now. She needs a man, not a boy. Your mother treats you like a boy, and you let her. The onus is on you, completely.

Actually, I hope this whole thread is a joke. Who revived this, and why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Support Your wife. Get therapy for your lack of boundaries. You are making everyone's life harder for no good reason.,

+1

I would not blame your wife if she has left you, by now. She needs a man, not a boy. Your mother treats you like a boy, and you let her. The onus is on you, completely.

Actually, I hope this whole thread is a joke. Who revived this, and why?

Religious nut at 01/19/2016 00:36

[Anonymous]

OLD THREAD. Hopefully, after a year and half, OP has sent Mom packing.

[Anonymous]

You are at a crossroad. Pick your wife or your mom. You can't have both. Your mom sounds like a psycho, btw. Taking your phone?
Sounds like you've avoiding confrontation your whole life, probably because your mom added so much chaos. Now it's time to stick up for your wife a kid(s). Be a man.

[Anonymous]

I didn't read your wifes thread - and this thread is pretty crusty- so hopefully you have resolved it - but your wife is right. Your mom has overstepped majorly and you really need to step up and deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mother is a manipulative wedge in your life and marriage. with your wife and your child. She wants you to get divorced so she can dig her claws even deeper into your unhealthy interdependence she has created. Cut ties immediately until she apologizes and behaves appropriately.

She bought a summer house 1 mile from you!?? Yikes.
She fights with your wife all the time!?? Yikes.
She goes to your house and takes your child (13 yo? 16 yo?) without taking or telling anyone? Yikes.
She whines to you about your wife and steals your phone and private conversations!?? Yikes.
She runs around like a baby to various family and friends about her one-sided story she instigated!?? Yikes.
She never taught you to spell!?? Yikes.

Wake up. Your mom is an awful person. Get boundaries now.

+1 On all.

P-S-Y-C-H-O.

Time to pick your wife over your mother (who doesn't sound like much of a mother, at all), OP.