dating as a 40+ single mom
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Anonymous
It's tough on everyone. Dating is hard because people have their guard up and always feel like they are auditioning. |
Anonymous
This is depressing 
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Anonymous
For me dating was always depressing, at any age. I hate the flirting and "auditioning" and much prefer actually having a relationship that trying to find one. Sad but true. |
Anonymous
Written by a man... |
Anonymous
| Obviously, your best bet will be with guys who understand your situation - divorced guys with kids. Maybe meeting them through kids' activities. |
Anonymous
+1 and there are plenty of men in their 40s who would eagerly date a single mom in the same age range - easy to spot a single dad at school drop-off/pick up, sporting/school events, etc. just be approachable and there's absolutely nothing wrong with a women who initiates a simple conversation. By looking at some of the comments posted on this thread, I can't understand if expectations are skewed or some women have just had horrible experiences - which may be very true but then their screening process (we all do it) seems to be seriously malfunctioning. |
Anonymous
sure, but how is this not the truth?? |
Anonymous
It's true if she's of better than average attractiveness. it's not true if she's not. |
Anonymous
expectations need to be commensurate with degree of attractiveness. it's when expectations and desires are wildly off base that women end up so frustrated and racked with despondency. |
Anonymous
| Where are the single dads at drop off and spring events. I have never seen one, and I always look. I never see single men anywhere unless they are young. |
Anonymous
well at my DD's school the moms know I'm a single dad and they regularly strike up conversations with me. Though most who do are married and are just being friendly but they know I'm divorced. I have caught a couple of single moms looking or stealing glances when we're picking up kids from the extended day program after school. and then there's the spring fair at school (ours is this weekend). As I'm ethnic and just look different from 98% of community I stick out for a few reasons. |
Anonymous
I'm a relatively attractive woman (single mom) in my 30s and I've found it difficult to find anything more than men interested in casual sex. Yes, finding a man online is easy - finding a man who is interested in an actual relationship, has been challenging. And as a single mom, finding time to actually go on dates has also been a logistical challenge. Perhaps if I had time to go on multiple dates each week, it would be easier to find someone... |
Anonymous
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DH's male coworker, late 30's, with 50% custody of 3 kids age 5 and under, has dated no fewer than three woman (all divorcees) in the 6 months he's been divorced. All friend-of-friend type thing.
However, he is a great guy, who's wife had a midlife crisis. He did not seek the divorce. |
Anonymous
Men suffer from quantity, women from quality. There are at least 2-3 times as many men as women in bars and online. But you have to go through a few to find someone decent who is open to the possibility of getting a relationship going. On the other hand, if a reasonably attractive guy meets five women, chances are that three of them will have their heads on straight and can actually have an intelligent conversation. |
Anonymous
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Idk, I've met several guys here on dcum who are in their fifties and are long-time divorcees. They just never wanted to remarry. Whereas, it sounds like a lot of women divorcees are looking for another marriage, or at least LTR. I think in the older crowd there might be a greater disparity between what kind of relationship they want.
You know, when you're young you expect that the other person will want to get married and have kids. But once you've got the kids, why go through the whole marriage thing again? |