dating as a 40+ single mom

[Anonymous]

i'm a recently divorced mom and wondering what the dating experience has been of other women in their 40s in the dc and montgomery county area.

[Anonymous]

I'm not trying to be mean, but I really don't think you are going to get any universally applicable answers here. I am 41 with full custody a five year old with ADHD, averagely attractive but by no means especially so, and I can safely say I don't get asked out much. A good friend of mine is 48 with share custody of a 14 year old, very good looking, and goes out relatively often, though nothing serious has stuck.

[Anonymous]

and I am also sorry I am having trouble typing well on my iphone!

[Anonymous]

Try eHarmony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not trying to be mean, but I really don't think you are going to get any universally applicable answers here. I am 41 with full custody a five year old with ADHD, averagely attractive but by no means especially so, and I can safely say I don't get asked out much. A good friend of mine is 48 with share custody of a 14 year old, very good looking, and goes out relatively often, though nothing serious has stuck.

thanks for the response. i wasn't expecting universally applicable answers. i'm moving to the area and just trying to get a sense of what some other women's experiences have been.

[Anonymous]

thanks for the response. i wasn't expecting universally applicable answers. i'm moving to the area and just trying to get a sense of what some other women's experiences have been

Right, I definitely wasn't trying to put you down, but if you could share a bit more about what your custody arrangement, children's ages, and other time constraints are, we could probably share information more applicable to your circumstances. Totally up to you about what you want to share, of course, though.

[Anonymous]

It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

thanks for the response. i wasn't expecting universally applicable answers. i'm moving to the area and just trying to get a sense of what some other women's experiences have been

Right, I definitely wasn't trying to put you down, but if you could share a bit more about what your custody arrangement, children's ages, and other time constraints are, we could probably share information more applicable to your circumstances. Totally up to you about what you want to share, of course, though.

i'm 43, have full custody of my child and work full time. i think i'm fairly attractive , but haven't dated in years. this is new territory for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

meeting men isn't hard. meeting single men who aren't creepy or sleazy isn't so easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

meeting men isn't hard. meeting single men who aren't creepy or sleazy isn't so easy.

+ 1,000

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 with full custody and no family in the area. What's dating again?

I know I could probably do something online, but the cost of a sitter for an exploratory "how nice to meet you -- I've seen your profile" coffee/dinner is just not something I'm willing to take on. Don't want to spend $50+ making small talk with a stranger -- might be willing to do it with someone I kind of already know (met at work, etc), but not to go back on the online treadmill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 with full custody and no family in the area. What's dating again?

I know I could probably do something online, but the cost of a sitter for an exploratory "how nice to meet you -- I've seen your profile" coffee/dinner is just not something I'm willing to take on. Don't want to spend $50+ making small talk with a stranger -- might be willing to do it with someone I kind of already know (met at work, etc), but not to go back on the online treadmill.

Dated a single mom for a while. When we first met, I offered to pay for at least part of the sitter bill. A someone once mentioned in here, a woman takes a risk every time she meets a man, even in a public place. If we have spoken a few times and decided to meet, to me offering to pay is understanding that and the financial part, whether or not we decided to see each other again.

[Anonymous]

Mighty slim pickings out there.

[Anonymous]

It's not that bad! I have had recent success meeting two great men on OKCupid. Be selective. There are some really great guys around.

[Anonymous]

42 single mom with full custody of 5 yr old. Only way to meet men is on line, i never see single guys on the street, in stores. evenryone is married. Very hard to meet decent people who don't just want to fool around. Lots of hidden issues with guys, there was a reason for their divorce. Many divorced guys under 45 want younger, no more than mid30s. Or they want kids,n which is not happening with me. How you look is extremely important. Lots of single women in this area and any decent guy can take his pick, and they do. Good luck, SLIM PICKINS