Unmarried men, at what age is something seriously amiss?

[Anonymous]

A totally cute, smart, athletic, tall and socially astute single man who is 35 would set off alarm bells, unless he tells me he just got out of 5 year relationship, he was once engaged, etc.

I am more forgiving of:

A man under 5'6"
A total nerd
Someone who immigrated here at an odd developmental stage and they can't quite find a good cultural match

[Anonymous]

40

[Anonymous]

Any age - just like women, sometimes relationships don't work out, you just don't meet someone you can see yourself with for the rest of your life, or you think you have found that person but they don't feel that way about you. I would rather a guy be unmarried at any age then find out he married someone just for the sake of getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any age - just like women, sometimes relationships don't work out, you just don't meet someone you can see yourself with for the rest of your life, or you think you have found that person but they don't feel that way about you. I would rather a guy be unmarried at any age then find out he married someone just for the sake of getting married.

X10000

[Anonymous]

45

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^No particular age.

It isn't the age. It's the personality and character of the guy. I was 37 when I got married in large part because I didn't meet the right person until I was 34. We have been happily married for 11.5. My best friend was 39 when he finally found the right person. He was looking for a long time and found the wrong match a few times, but finally eharmony matched him with the right life partner. Happily going on 7+ years. I have another friend who just got married at 41 because he finally found the right person. Again, a good match.

The high rate of divorce is largely due to some people who have some soft of artificial standard for when they have to be married by and then end up married to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Some of us waited for the right person and have not yet become another statistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After 28, I expect a man to date for the purpose of looking to settle down. Before that it is for everything else but marriage.

By 35 - he is not marriage material.

Are you 15 yourself?

DH married at 42, for the first time. I would say he is marriage material.

[Anonymous]

I have some friends in their 40's who are actually nice guys, who for whatever reason have not been married. In a few cases, I think they just don't really see any benefit to being married so they don't go that route. (they don't want kids, have good incomes, own property, have good social lives, date - why rock the boat?) And in some cases, they would like to get married but haven't found the right person yet.

So I don't think you can really say there's any one age. You've got to take it case by case. (and if a guy says he doesn't want to marry, believe him.)

[Anonymous]

35

[Anonymous]

33

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After 28, I expect a man to date for the purpose of looking to settle down. Before that it is for everything else but marriage.

By 35 - he is not marriage material.

+1. 35 is APA; not good for making healthy babies.

[Anonymous]

Any guy I know who is 40+, straight, and never married-has ISSUES.

[Anonymous]

45

[Anonymous]

When they start to develop Old Person Smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^No particular age.

It isn't the age. It's the personality and character of the guy. I was 37 when I got married in large part because I didn't meet the right person until I was 34. We have been happily married for 11.5. My best friend was 39 when he finally found the right person. He was looking for a long time and found the wrong match a few times, but finally eharmony matched him with the right life partner. Happily going on 7+ years. I have another friend who just got married at 41 because he finally found the right person. Again, a good match.

The high rate of divorce is largely due to some people who have some soft of artificial standard for when they have to be married by and then end up married to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Some of us waited for the right person and have not yet become another statistic.

Question for you, PP: when your friends finally found the right person later in life, where their partners significantly younger than them?