How did you decide on family size?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

Your husband sounds like a dick. But you think god wants you to keep bringing kids into this shitty home life? Fucking brilliant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

that makes me so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

Your husband sounds like a dick. But you think god wants you to keep bringing kids into this shitty home life? Fucking brilliant.

Apparently you didn't read the part where I said I've cut him off completely and there will be no more kids for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

that makes me so sad.

The part where I've cut him off makes you sad, not that he is abusive when I'm pregnant? Strange....but I'm not going to continue to have sex with someone that won't treat me with respect when I am carrying his child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The third and fourth were surprises, and we are so thrilled with them! I feel like you need the chaos of three to make life interesting. Plus, everyone out in the burbs seem to have three or more (tons with four or more).

Not to mention that three is the new two

There's your answer. Do whatever seems to be the norm on your street and keep up with current trends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

that makes me so sad.

The part where I've cut him off makes you sad, not that he is abusive when I'm pregnant? Strange....but I'm not going to continue to have sex with someone that won't treat me with respect when I am carrying his child.

So he is only abusive when you are pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The third and fourth were surprises, and we are so thrilled with them! I feel like you need the chaos of three to make life interesting. Plus, everyone out in the burbs seem to have three or more (tons with four or more).

Not to mention that three is the new two

You should have as many kids as your friends are having?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

This makes me sad, too -- following religious beliefs that say not to use birth control, but not (I assume) following religious beliefs that say not to be abusive to your pregnant wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The third and fourth were surprises, and we are so thrilled with them! I feel like you need the chaos of three to make life interesting. Plus, everyone out in the burbs seem to have three or more (tons with four or more).
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Not to mention that three is the new two

1. If your life was so uninteresting before the 3rd, I feel sorry for you. Luckily, most people live interesting lives.
2. This is not the first time you post this exaggeration to make the case or justify your choices. Where do you live, what zip code? Because, unless you're in Utah, you are lying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

that makes me so sad.

The part where I've cut him off makes you sad, not that he is abusive when I'm pregnant? Strange....but I'm not going to continue to have sex with someone that won't treat me with respect when I am carrying his child.

So he is only abusive when you are pregnant?

He has been abusive at many times but ALWAYS when I've been pregnant and in more scary ways. The only time he actually ever physically struck me was when I was pregnant. The other times it has been more verbal abuse/intimidation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Due to our religious beliefs, we don't use birth control...first 4 kids came VERY quickly...Dh is military and was deployed A LOT the first 8 years of our marriage, still we managed to have 4 kids in 6 years.

He's not a nice person when I am pregnant. It's really bad, actually. So I've cut him off completely, sexually. No more kids for us.

that makes me so sad.

The part where I've cut him off makes you sad, not that he is abusive when I'm pregnant? Strange....but I'm not going to continue to have sex with someone that won't treat me with respect when I am carrying his child.

So he is only abusive when you are pregnant?

He has been abusive at many times but ALWAYS when I've been pregnant and in more scary ways. The only time he actually ever physically struck me was when I was pregnant. The other times it has been more verbal abuse/intimidation.

Jesus. I recommend you take advantage of whatever counseling you can get through the military for this.

[Anonymous]

Your religious beliefs are probably anti-divorce too?

[Anonymous]

We're taking it one at a time and deciding based on desire, money, and our ability to handle it. Considering number 4 now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having only 2 gives me room before I go over the edge. Had to give myself some room.
Also, the jump to 3 kids was just going to change a lot of things- a bigger car, a bigger house, an extra hotel room/cruise cabin when you travel (since most everything is based on a family of 4). We are glad we stopped at 2.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your religious beliefs are probably anti-divorce too?

They are...but at this time I am considering it anyway.