Husband promised to quit smoking pot before DC was conceived.

[Anonymous]

Pot may not be addictive, but that feeling of escape is a hard habit to break. I would be worried that his career could be harmed if this habit was discovered, via drug test or being seen. Does he work in finance? Does he work around children? Does he have to drive for work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if he is an addict, promises mean nothing. Go read up on addictions. That's the best thing you can do now because what you've been doing hasn't worked so far. Good luck.

Pot is addictive? You have to be f**ing kidding me.
Unless he's lighting up around you or your child or neglecting his duties, back off.
Marijuana is the least harmful "drug" on earth.

Pp here. Yes, it's less harmful than alcohol, no question. And I'm all in favor of legalizing marijuana and not just for this reason because I support legalizing far worse drugs like cocaine and heroin. But some people still become emotionally dependent on smoking pot and have to smoke it every day. If that is the situation for OP's husband, she needs to read the research on it. If that's not the situation, then it's another story. Note that I said "if" in this post and in the post above.

Yup - I was a huge stoner for a decade and I believe pot to be addictive. Not physiologically but psychological. It is habit forming. I quit when I got pregnant. Husband still smokes multiple times per day. It's definitely a huge huge problem in my house.

[Anonymous]

He needs to get help if he wants to quit. If he has smoked a long long time, then its going to be a hard habit to kick, today's post if not what it was when I was a teenager.

Sometimes however people are moved to quit for other reasons, like a true kick in the teeth kind of experience. Would you moving out with your child be such an experience that might sober him up? Only you know that but I would say its worth a shot. Not healthy to have that around such a young child, but any child for that matter.

Please dont' delay the longer you push this off the more of a crutch you will find to not do anything. This is child endangerment in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

OP, what is the specific problem with his smoking?

Does he smoke all day?
Is it interfering with his work, with the care he can offer DC, or with the time he has with you?
Does it make him grumpy or unmotivated?
Are you concerned that it's illegal?
Does he smoke in front of DC?

I have a legal prescription for pot and smoke every single day - about 10 minutes before I go to bed. It solves all of my sleep problems without any of the side effects of sleeping pills and I wake up sober and ready for each day, so saying that someone smokes "every day" can mean a variety of things. The key is to identify the problem with his usage and address that specifically. Yes, he broke his promise to you, but if the alternative treatment for his "medical condition" is that he gets whacked out on xanax or vicodin...personally I'd prefer my partner smoke pot! Think about what the fundamental issues are and address them directly with DH; in situations like this, calm, rational specificity is your best bet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is the specific problem with his smoking?

Does he smoke all day?
Is it interfering with his work, with the care he can offer DC, or with the time he has with you?
Does it make him grumpy or unmotivated?
Are you concerned that it's illegal?
Does he smoke in front of DC?

I have a legal prescription for pot and smoke every single day - about 10 minutes before I go to bed. It solves all of my sleep problems without any of the side effects of sleeping pills and I wake up sober and ready for each day, so saying that someone smokes "every day" can mean a variety of things. The key is to identify the problem with his usage and address that specifically. Yes, he broke his promise to you, but if the alternative treatment for his "medical condition" is that he gets whacked out on xanax or vicodin...personally I'd prefer my partner smoke pot! Think about what the fundamental issues are and address them directly with DH; in situations like this, calm, rational specificity is your best bet.

Ok how the hell did you get that script?

So, I have terrible insomnia. I try very hard to avoid Ambian, that shit is crazy-literally. However when I'm on day #5 of insomnia, I literally start to break down. Ambian is so addictive and it literally knocks me out, but it is not refreshing.

I had a moment of regression one night and smoked some pot with some friends. I had the most amazing and refreshing sleep that night. I woke up feeling like a new person, the difference in me in the morning was profound. I can't even begin to describe how wonderful the morning was. I seriously felt like I was in a new body and mind.

I might have to just get some from my friend, but I would love to get access to it legally. It is a freaking miracle for my sleep situation.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that people take issue with pot, but no issue with klonopin, Xanax, or valium....especially when prescribed.

Don't get me started on the prescriptions for amphetamines that so many are on.

It is like amph in the AM and benzo in the PM for a lot of folks, all under the guise of "mental health medicine".

[Anonymous]

I wish I knew where to find some weed. I would smoke weed before putting any pill in my mouth.

I have never drove drunk, never used drugs, would only do it to control the pain I'm in.

Marijuana is NOT addictive. People claiming that just don't want to quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is the specific problem with his smoking?

Does he smoke all day?
Is it interfering with his work, with the care he can offer DC, or with the time he has with you?
Does it make him grumpy or unmotivated?
Are you concerned that it's illegal?
Does he smoke in front of DC?

I have a legal prescription for pot and smoke every single day - about 10 minutes before I go to bed. It solves all of my sleep problems without any of the side effects of sleeping pills and I wake up sober and ready for each day, so saying that someone smokes "every day" can mean a variety of things. The key is to identify the problem with his usage and address that specifically. Yes, he broke his promise to you, but if the alternative treatment for his "medical condition" is that he gets whacked out on xanax or vicodin...personally I'd prefer my partner smoke pot! Think about what the fundamental issues are and address them directly with DH; in situations like this, calm, rational specificity is your best bet.

Ok how the hell did you get that script?

So, I have terrible insomnia. I try very hard to avoid Ambian, that shit is crazy-literally. However when I'm on day #5 of insomnia, I literally start to break down. Ambian is so addictive and it literally knocks me out, but it is not refreshing.

I had a moment of regression one night and smoked some pot with some friends. I had the most amazing and refreshing sleep that night. I woke up feeling like a new person, the difference in me in the morning was profound. I can't even begin to describe how wonderful the morning was. I seriously felt like I was in a new body and mind.

I might have to just get some from my friend, but I would love to get access to it legally. It is a freaking miracle for my sleep situation.

PP here, and I know exactly the feeling you're describing. Getting this prescription has substantially changed my life; I'm calmer, more energized, I get sick far less often, and that full-body ache of insomnia is a distant memory. Before this I tried ambien, lunesta, benzos (I had 2mg of xanax per day prescribed for a while there), and every OTC product you can imagine (from melatonin to Nyquil) but I would sleepwalk, always felt groggy, and never actually felt like I'd slept; instead of waking up in the mornings, it felt more like I was coming out from anesthesia (and by the time my brain had cleared away the fog, it was bedtime again).

I wish I could help you out with a recommendation but I'm actually not in the DC area any more and don't know of any doctors to send you to there. I do believe the tide is turning and that within the next year or two you'll be able to access it more easily, but I'd strongly recommend buying it any way you can until then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that people take issue with pot, but no issue with klonopin, Xanax, or valium....especially when prescribed.

Don't get me started on the prescriptions for amphetamines that so many are on.

It is like amph in the AM and benzo in the PM for a lot of folks, all under the guise of "mental health medicine".

I think people take any issue with any drug that impairs famiy life. Illegal or otherwise. And pot certainly can do that. My husband was a raging asshole when high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that people take issue with pot, but no issue with klonopin, Xanax, or valium....especially when prescribed.

Don't get me started on the prescriptions for amphetamines that so many are on.

It is like amph in the AM and benzo in the PM for a lot of folks, all under the guise of "mental health medicine".

I think people take any issue with any drug that impairs famiy life. Illegal or otherwise. And pot certainly can do that. My husband was a raging asshole when high.

You don't get it.

I've done cocaine. I've also done adderall. The Adderall is much more potent and intense, but however people take it because it "helps" the family life. Cocaine is much cleaner and sharper. Well OF COURSE IT FUCKING does help the family life Amphetamines are awesome, until of course you crash. Until you are an addict, but somehow it is OK when prescribed because you "need" it, but somehow Pot is awful. Cocaine and Adderall are horrible drugs to get involved with, but somehow the connotation so different with each.

Absurd.

[Anonymous]

It does look like he's looking for an excuse to use it, because he apparently used and abused it before, which is terrible for those who are genuinely prescribed it for medical reasons. I see it from the other end, the street dealers. I tthink most of the middle to upper middle class people who use this stuff and think it's harmless would be shocked to see the violence at the other end of this business. What I see is a stepping up on the police and prosecution side to prosecute users and dealers, where before they'd let them slide. This is even as it's becoming legal in very limited circumstances. I'm saying this because I seriously doubt after years of "abstinence" he now suddenly wants to smoke it again. Sounds like he hasn't really stopped. If I were you I'd ask him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are dumber than dirt. How many times will women have to learn the hard way that YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE.

You are not a victim here, you are a volunteer.

Agreed. You did this to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that people take issue with pot, but no issue with klonopin, Xanax, or valium....especially when prescribed.

Don't get me started on the prescriptions for amphetamines that so many are on.

It is like amph in the AM and benzo in the PM for a lot of folks, all under the guise of "mental health medicine".

I think people take any issue with any drug that impairs famiy life. Illegal or otherwise. And pot certainly can do that. My husband was a raging asshole when high.

You don't get it.

I've done cocaine. I've also done adderall. The Adderall is much more potent and intense, but however people take it because it "helps" the family life. Cocaine is much cleaner and sharper. Well OF COURSE IT FUCKING does help the family life Amphetamines are awesome, until of course you crash. Until you are an addict, but somehow it is OK when prescribed because you "need" it, but somehow Pot is awful. Cocaine and Adderall are horrible drugs to get involved with, but somehow the connotation so different with each.

Absurd.

I get it just fine. Why are you so angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are dumber than dirt. How many times will women have to learn the hard way that YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE.

You are not a victim here, you are a volunteer.

Agreed. You did this to yourself.

OP here. And your advice, as to best remedial steps to take, for someone who made a royally stupid mistake is what exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are dumber than dirt. How many times will women have to learn the hard way that YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE.

You are not a victim here, you are a volunteer.

Agreed. You did this to yourself.

OP here. And your advice, as to best remedial steps to take, for someone who made a royally stupid mistake is what exactly?

"Quit, or get out."