Perimenopause and no sex drive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you still love your husband? If not, then do some introspection about that. He deserves to be with someone who loves him. If you don't then let him go. And when you divorce, don't take him to the cleaners. You're the one who dropped the ball here, not him, so he shouldn't be screwed because you flaked on the marriage.

Please. You can’t always control who you want to have sex with. What if her DH let himself go?

[Anonymous]

I'll chime in. Lovemyhusbandbut not always his shirt fuse, balding head, napping on Saturday and refusal to ever take his dirty shoes off in the house.
Love and attraction and sexual desire are not the same things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you fantasize while you are with your DH? Try it!

Do you mean during the act? Like imagining its Alan Ritcher on top of me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you still love your husband? If not, then do some introspection about that. He deserves to be with someone who loves him. If you don't then let him go. And when you divorce, don't take him to the cleaners. You're the one who dropped the ball here, not him, so he shouldn't be screwed because you flaked on the marriage.

Please. You can’t always control who you want to have sex with. What if her DH let himself go?

Of course we can. Desire is all in our heads.

[Anonymous]

Op, if you don't want to do it then are you ok with separating or letting your partner try it outside?

[Anonymous]

Our older female bodies can't have babies anymore. Hence....no need to want sex. It's biology and evolution. I told my husband that if he needed it he could go elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our older female bodies can't have babies anymore. Hence....no need to want sex. It's biology and evolution. I told my husband that if he needed it he could go elsewhere.

That's great. are you going to be upset or mad if you find out he is really doing that.

[Anonymous]

I gator to stimulate the area, not just to orgasm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I gator to stimulate the area, not just to orgasm.

That should be vibrator.

[Anonymous]

It’s monogamy. It gets old after a decade and kills your drive. Nature wants you to strike out and try new things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our older female bodies can't have babies anymore. Hence....no need to want sex. It's biology and evolution. I told my husband that if he needed it he could go elsewhere.

Yeah my wife said the same thing and then was upset to find out how often I was going elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50. Married 19 years. Talk to your OB but testosterone was the answer for me. I hadnt realized it until the T kicked in but I had been going Years with almost no sex drive. It’s made a big difference in my relationship w DH bc I look forward to it now instead of dreading it or just preferring to scroll IG. And we feel closer to each other. Ofc if your DH has let himself go, is fat, a slob or has gross habits then no amount of T is going to solve for that.

[Anonymous]

Well maybe at least when you are finished pleasuring yourself you can let your husband sniff your fingers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our older female bodies can't have babies anymore. Hence....no need to want sex. It's biology and evolution. I told my husband that if he needed it he could go elsewhere.

That's great. are you going to be upset or mad if you find out he is really doing that.

No? I mean...I wouldn't have said it if I didn't mean it.

[Anonymous]

T really helped after six months of nothing. Once my desire returned my husband was so excited my wish was his command. He’s always been an attentive lover but after a six month dry spell he really showed his gratitude.