Wanting love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After divorce from ex from hell, all I want in life is someone who loves me. I keep meeting men who want me, but apparently don’t love me enough to have a real relationship. I feel like maybe it’s not in the cards for me…

Stay open to this possibility but don't be desperate to make it happen. Just love yourself, your career, your purpose and passions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP it's said that 80% of all women want to be with the the top 10% of all guys. With guys it's the opposite. It.sounds like you are trying to punch above your weight class.

A very misunderstood statistic and.probably 80/20. The counter girl at Arby's wants a guy with a good job to take her out of there and whoever is cooking in the back doesn't get too much female.attention. This skews a.lot.of this

[Anonymous]

"someone who loves me"

So immature. Op, make more friends. Expand your social circle including only responsible people without sketchy behaviors of backgrounds. Be friends. Friends first, than probably will find love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"someone who loves me"

So immature. Op, make more friends. Expand your social circle including only responsible people without sketchy behaviors of backgrounds. Be friends. Friends first, than probably will find love.

I have wonderful friends. I want a boyfriend…

[Anonymous]

Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are looking for love, so you probably won’t find it. Try not looking and just living the life you personally want. He will appear magically as soon as you don’t need him!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

Yes, we get it. You're perfect. Gorgeous, thin, look ten years younger than your age (as do all DCUM women), perfect personality, brilliant, elite pedigree, and, of course, have very reasonable expectations about potential men. But, of course, for some inexplicable reason, you're finding it difficult to find eligible men. It's a tale as old as time, OP. Most of the single women I know are just like you.

[Anonymous]

A few months ago, I found love on Hinge. Here is what helped:

1. On the profile, I specified exactly what and who I’m looking for - including “love” and “emotionally available man”.

2. I decided not to like a man’s profile first and meet with only those who initiate quickly and actively and are looking for a serious relationship and demonstrate a lot of interest for me specifically.

3. After creating a profile, I went on a long trip, coming back only in a month. My boyfriend ended up waiting for more than a month to meet with me and continued pursuing me even after I told him that I’m going to give a chance to another man first (that was because another man put even more efforts in pursuing me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

I believe you OP. I am in the same position as you. I have finally let go, and accept what will be will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few months ago, I found love on Hinge. Here is what helped:

1. On the profile, I specified exactly what and who I’m looking for - including “love” and “emotionally available man”.

2. I decided not to like a man’s profile first and meet with only those who initiate quickly and actively and are looking for a serious relationship and demonstrate a lot of interest for me specifically.

3. After creating a profile, I went on a long trip, coming back only in a month. My boyfriend ended up waiting for more than a month to meet with me and continued pursuing me even after I told him that I’m going to give a chance to another man first (that was because another man put even more efforts in pursuing me).

In other words with 3., you made him jump through hoops and he was neurotic enough to put up with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few months ago, I found love on Hinge. Here is what helped:

1. On the profile, I specified exactly what and who I’m looking for - including “love” and “emotionally available man”.

2. I decided not to like a man’s profile first and meet with only those who initiate quickly and actively and are looking for a serious relationship and demonstrate a lot of interest for me specifically.

3. After creating a profile, I went on a long trip, coming back only in a month. My boyfriend ended up waiting for more than a month to meet with me and continued pursuing me even after I told him that I’m going to give a chance to another man first (that was because another man put even more efforts in pursuing me).

In other words with 3., you made him jump through hoops and he was neurotic enough to put up with it.

Oh no, he was just really interested and persistent. He is actually very balanced, steady, and knows very well what he wants in a relationship. Unlike two other men who started texting me multiple times a day over my trip, he asked if we can talk over the phone, and I said I’ll see if I have time during the trip, and he wished me a good trip and then didn’t text me for nearly 3 weeks.

For that reason, I was moving forward with a man who in the meantime sent me hundreds of messages and nearly planned the rest of his life with me. When my now boyfriend texted me again, I told him that I’m going to give a chance to another man first because he is making a lot of efforts. We had a nice conversation over several days, and after seeing that I’d made up my mind, he invited me to meet as friends.

After 3 days with another man, I knew that I don’t want to continue with him and texted my now boyfriend saying that I’d like to meet for something easy like coffee and walk, and we met during lunch break. As we walked, he asked what I think about us, and I said: “We can meet one more time”, and he replied: “One more time? Many more times!” - and it’s been great since then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After divorce from ex from hell, all I want in life is someone who loves me. I keep meeting men who want me, but apparently don’t love me enough to have a real relationship. I feel like maybe it’s not in the cards for me…

The person in life who should love you is you. Work on that. Once you love yourself you will understand that life will be great whether you have a new partner or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

You left out what your face looks like. Look I'm not objectifying you, you objectified yourself. .that's fine. Tell skinny blue eye blonde in great physical shape. Smart. You must make a good buck.

If you were even half way attractive facially you would have guys all over you.

Maybe you are pretty but you have serious personality issues.

This kind of question is difficult because you're basically asking to be pitied.

And I suspect you don't want just any random guy to love you. You would like a tall handsome intelligent well employed professional to love you. And that's fine.

What is special about you? What makes you attractive to a high quality man beyond the superficial characteristics you have described?

You can't expect someone else to love you romantically to the exclusion of all other women unless you can clearly articulate, at least to yourself, why they should pick YOU specifically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

You left out what your face looks like. Look I'm not objectifying you, you objectified yourself. .that's fine. Tell skinny blue eye blonde in great physical shape. Smart. You must make a good buck.

If you were even half way attractive facially you would have guys all over you.

Maybe you are pretty but you have serious personality issues.

This kind of question is difficult because you're basically asking to be pitied.

And I suspect you don't want just any random guy to love you. You would like a tall handsome intelligent well employed professional to love you. And that's fine.

What is special about you? What makes you attractive to a high quality man beyond the superficial characteristics you have described?

You can't expect someone else to love you romantically to the exclusion of all other women unless you can clearly articulate, at least to yourself, why they should pick YOU specifically.

The person who writes “I has .. great skin” is an Ivy Lawyer ? Troll

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP?

I find that even the people who were great catches in their 20s and 30s don’t look like much now in our 50s. If I were looking and they were single, I would look right past them if I didn’t know already that they had good jobs and personalities.