Wanting love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few months ago, I found love on Hinge. Here is what helped:

1. On the profile, I specified exactly what and who I’m looking for - including “love” and “emotionally available man”.

2. I decided not to like a man’s profile first and meet with only those who initiate quickly and actively and are looking for a serious relationship and demonstrate a lot of interest for me specifically.

3. After creating a profile, I went on a long trip, coming back only in a month. My boyfriend ended up waiting for more than a month to meet with me and continued pursuing me even after I told him that I’m going to give a chance to another man first (that was because another man put even more efforts in pursuing me).

This is pretty solid advice. I found love on a dating app using a similar method - I was upfront about what I wanted, only talked with men who initiated and continued conversations, and only went out with those who very actively pursued me. It did take a bit of time, but I did find love. Unfortunately, things ended about 6 months later because we found out he was being transferred for his job, and I didn’t want to do long distance.

[Anonymous]

Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

[Anonymous]

Love yourself, pursuit your passions, take care of your health, restore your wholeness and happiness. Enjoy your freedom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

He has a high self esteem, and he wasn’t passively waiting for me and met with someone else too while I was on the trip. I didn’t expect anyone to match with me and just sit at home alone for a month, waiting for me. He just behaved and behaves as someone who is greatly interested in me specifically - since I became available, his full romantic attention has been on me.

There were two other men who were waiting for me to come back and start a relationship with them. One of them had been so attentive and texted me multiple times a day but then called me while being drunk and then I saw a call from him coming through at 5 am, and I blocked him.

The second one owns two companies which operate smoothly and don’t require a lot of his time, so he sent me dozens of messages every day because he was so excited about me. When I came back, he brought me a lot of groceries (he didn’t want me to come home to an empty fridge and bought food for me as a gift, upon his own initiative) and took me out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Next day, he came over and brought 6 boxes of Thai food.

It’s truly nice to be taken care of and having no doubts that a man is interested in a serious, long-term relationship. For example, just yesterday my boyfriend started planning where we can go two years from now, and it gives me a lot of much needed comfort.

[Anonymous]

FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

He has a high self esteem, and he wasn’t passively waiting for me and met with someone else too while I was on the trip. I didn’t expect anyone to match with me and just sit at home alone for a month, waiting for me. He just behaved and behaves as someone who is greatly interested in me specifically - since I became available, his full romantic attention has been on me.

There were two other men who were waiting for me to come back and start a relationship with them. One of them had been so attentive and texted me multiple times a day but then called me while being drunk and then I saw a call from him coming through at 5 am, and I blocked him.

The second one owns two companies which operate smoothly and don’t require a lot of his time, so he sent me dozens of messages every day because he was so excited about me. When I came back, he brought me a lot of groceries (he didn’t want me to come home to an empty fridge and bought food for me as a gift, upon his own initiative) and took me out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Next day, he came over and brought 6 boxes of Thai food.

It’s truly nice to be taken care of and having no doubts that a man is interested in a serious, long-term relationship. For example, just yesterday my boyfriend started planning where we can go two years from now, and it gives me a lot of much needed comfort.

How old are you ? What’s the weight, age and income gap between you and the listed men ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

I didn’t say that that man loved me. He cared for me and overall put a lot of efforts into pursuing me (e.g., invited me to multiple overseas trips, and a domestic trip to meet his relatives, etc.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

He has a high self esteem, and he wasn’t passively waiting for me and met with someone else too while I was on the trip. I didn’t expect anyone to match with me and just sit at home alone for a month, waiting for me. He just behaved and behaves as someone who is greatly interested in me specifically - since I became available, his full romantic attention has been on me.

There were two other men who were waiting for me to come back and start a relationship with them. One of them had been so attentive and texted me multiple times a day but then called me while being drunk and then I saw a call from him coming through at 5 am, and I blocked him.

The second one owns two companies which operate smoothly and don’t require a lot of his time, so he sent me dozens of messages every day because he was so excited about me. When I came back, he brought me a lot of groceries (he didn’t want me to come home to an empty fridge and bought food for me as a gift, upon his own initiative) and took me out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Next day, he came over and brought 6 boxes of Thai food.

It’s truly nice to be taken care of and having no doubts that a man is interested in a serious, long-term relationship. For example, just yesterday my boyfriend started planning where we can go two years from now, and it gives me a lot of much needed comfort.

How old are you ? What’s the weight, age and income gap between you and the listed men ?

I’m in my upper 40s, average weight. A rich man who pursued me is 7 years older, normal weight. My boyfriend and a guy who called me drunk are 3 years younger than me. My boyfriend is definitely in a better physical shape than I am (runs marathons, etc.), and he is more educated (PhD), but I think my income is higher (we haven’t discussed the numbers, and he is always paying for both of us when we go out, so it’s not like he is benefiting financially from my higher income).

[Anonymous]

You sound kind of old to be a sugar baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound kind of old to be a sugar baby

Note that I rejected a rich man who was willing to pay for my business class tickets to travel with him to his European villa and chose love with a man who isn’t career and money oriented.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok just because everyone here seems to think that I’m a 90%Ike woman who wants a 10%Ike man… I’m tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes, go to the gym several times per week, has great skin, am a double Ivy lawyer but not argumentative or only focused on work… all I want is someone who has similar interests (or complementary), supports himself, hasn’t let himself completely go, and genuinely loves me. It’s really not too much to ask for.

You left out what your face looks like. Look I'm not objectifying you, you objectified yourself. .that's fine. Tell skinny blue eye blonde in great physical shape. Smart. You must make a good buck.

If you were even half way attractive facially you would have guys all over you.

Maybe you are pretty but you have serious personality issues.

This kind of question is difficult because you're basically asking to be pitied.

And I suspect you don't want just any random guy to love you. You would like a tall handsome intelligent well employed professional to love you. And that's fine.

What is special about you? What makes you attractive to a high quality man beyond the superficial characteristics you have described?

You can't expect someone else to love you romantically to the exclusion of all other women unless you can clearly articulate, at least to yourself, why they should pick YOU specifically.

I don’t think you’re in a great position to give advice. You sound a bit judgmental and frankly, not very nice. You’d be exactly the kind of man I wouldn’t ever want to date because your message sounds cynical and negative. I also reject the categorization of people into high quality or high value. And … interest from men isn’t really the issue here. I alr mentioned that all I have to do is get on hinge and have close to a thousand likes/roses/messages or wtv within a week. I can’t date like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After divorce from ex from hell, all I want in life is someone who loves me. I keep meeting men who want me, but apparently don’t love me enough to have a real relationship. I feel like maybe it’s not in the cards for me…

Op, this is what the dating world is for last two decades. Depends how much time, energy and efforts you can put, it is very difficult to get a serious relationships. In have met single ladies, never been married in their mid 40s that are just burned from all the dating. They have become too good for dating but can't find anyone to rely on or take a little risk and go deep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

He has a high self esteem, and he wasn’t passively waiting for me and met with someone else too while I was on the trip. I didn’t expect anyone to match with me and just sit at home alone for a month, waiting for me. He just behaved and behaves as someone who is greatly interested in me specifically - since I became available, his full romantic attention has been on me.

There were two other men who were waiting for me to come back and start a relationship with them. One of them had been so attentive and texted me multiple times a day but then called me while being drunk and then I saw a call from him coming through at 5 am, and I blocked him.

The second one owns two companies which operate smoothly and don’t require a lot of his time, so he sent me dozens of messages every day because he was so excited about me. When I came back, he brought me a lot of groceries (he didn’t want me to come home to an empty fridge and bought food for me as a gift, upon his own initiative) and took me out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Next day, he came over and brought 6 boxes of Thai food.

It’s truly nice to be taken care of and having no doubts that a man is interested in a serious, long-term relationship. For example, just yesterday my boyfriend started planning where we can go two years from now, and it gives me a lot of much needed comfort.

How old are you ? What’s the weight, age and income gap between you and the listed men ?

I’m in my upper 40s, average weight. A rich man who pursued me is 7 years older, normal weight. My boyfriend and a guy who called me drunk are 3 years younger than me. My boyfriend is definitely in a better physical shape than I am (runs marathons, etc.), and he is more educated (PhD), but I think my income is higher (we haven’t discussed the numbers, and he is always paying for both of us when we go out, so it’s not like he is benefiting financially from my higher income).

May be that is an issue if he is paying for everything. He only wanted you to be just available for sex and all that. You want love, contribute financially to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

+1. 6 boxes of Thai food sounds gross. Why do you need so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

+1. 6 boxes of Thai food sounds gross. Why do you need so much?

Sounds like OP needs to be on a GLP and doesn't know it.