Wanting love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"someone who loves me"

So immature. Op, make more friends. Expand your social circle including only responsible people without sketchy behaviors of backgrounds. Be friends. Friends first, than probably will find love.

I have wonderful friends. I want a boyfriend…

just sleep with the best male friend you have and see where it goes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP it's said that 80% of all women want to be with the the top 10% of all guys. With guys it's the opposite. It.sounds like you are trying to punch above your weight class.

Not really. Neither was above me in any way - the first one was a bad idea to begin with but I really had hopes that the second one would work out. He was really nice, attractive, but I think somewhat insecure with his professional status relative to mine (I couldn’t care less) and I just don’t really hear much from him anymore. So I’m taking the hint. I think after 5 months and considering that neither of us is young (I’m mid 40s, he’s 57) he could at least be a bit more mature and communicate if he lost interest.

him not talking to you is his communication, silly. Get a hint

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah good advice if you want a doormat for a boyfriend. Waiting for a month while she gets her back blown out by another guy and if she has her fill of that, it's his turn?

That's a low self esteem man and they don't make good partners.

He has a high self esteem, and he wasn’t passively waiting for me and met with someone else too while I was on the trip. I didn’t expect anyone to match with me and just sit at home alone for a month, waiting for me. He just behaved and behaves as someone who is greatly interested in me specifically - since I became available, his full romantic attention has been on me.

There were two other men who were waiting for me to come back and start a relationship with them. One of them had been so attentive and texted me multiple times a day but then called me while being drunk and then I saw a call from him coming through at 5 am, and I blocked him.

The second one owns two companies which operate smoothly and don’t require a lot of his time, so he sent me dozens of messages every day because he was so excited about me. When I came back, he brought me a lot of groceries (he didn’t want me to come home to an empty fridge and bought food for me as a gift, upon his own initiative) and took me out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Next day, he came over and brought 6 boxes of Thai food.

It’s truly nice to be taken care of and having no doubts that a man is interested in a serious, long-term relationship. For example, just yesterday my boyfriend started planning where we can go two years from now, and it gives me a lot of much needed comfort.

How old are you ? What’s the weight, age and income gap between you and the listed men ?

I’m in my upper 40s, average weight. A rich man who pursued me is 7 years older, normal weight. My boyfriend and a guy who called me drunk are 3 years younger than me. My boyfriend is definitely in a better physical shape than I am (runs marathons, etc.), and he is more educated (PhD), but I think my income is higher (we haven’t discussed the numbers, and he is always paying for both of us when we go out, so it’s not like he is benefiting financially from my higher income).

May be that is an issue if he is paying for everything. He only wanted you to be just available for sex and all that. You want love, contribute financially to the relationship.

It was my story about how I found love on Hinge. He does love me. I contribute when we take trips and stay in the hotels/Airbnbs. I also sometimes buy food and cook for him and bring snacks. But he cooks for me more and if we go out, he pays.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

+1. 6 boxes of Thai food sounds gross. Why do you need so much?

He was just going out of his way to care for me and wanted to be with me for many years. He also did other things for me and made so many plans and invited me to so many places. He said he’s never felt such a strong connection with anybody else in his life - which I knew was mostly because I’m an expert at making connections and have a ton of friends and that man was nothing special to me.

I shared my experience of finding 3 men (in 10 days) who were certainly ready for a serious relationship and love and took efforts to pursue that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FFS what is this ghetto shyte? "I know he loves me because he brings me take out." LOL

+1. 6 boxes of Thai food sounds gross. Why do you need so much?

Sounds like OP needs to be on a GLP and doesn't know it.

You really have a lousy personality, but I’m sure you already know that. And… the person posting about take out wasn’t OP. My previous boyfriend cooked really good food for me (mostly fish and veggies), but it still wasn’t the type of relationship I was looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After divorce from ex from hell, all I want in life is someone who loves me. I keep meeting men who want me, but apparently don’t love me enough to have a real relationship. I feel like maybe it’s not in the cards for me…

Women will love you more. It’s to switch sides.

$trap 0n time

[Anonymous]

Don’t date online. Only trash online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t date online. Only trash online.

I agree unfortunately. Even the selective apps are full of people who are essentially undateable for one reason or another. I met both of the guys I dated irl, and think I might have found a great introduction through a friend - might be a great guy, I hope I’ll meet him in the next few weeks. Unfortunately all my friends are essentially useless in terms of introductions.