Why would my ex do this? Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be mindful that he's also dropping off gifts for his girlfriends. The man is a pathetic attention-seeker. You were not interesting as his wife, because he already had your attention. But anyone who isn't already his is a target for him to acquire.

Bingo.

Say no or ignore, OP. Whichever response feels the most grey rockiest.

Also be prepared for him to pout/lash out when you refuse his overtures. These guys come in one flavor.

[Anonymous]

Personally I’d just be breezy and aloof. Treat him like a friendly acquaintance. “Sure, thanks! If I’m not home you can just leave on the porch.” And then put it out of your mind.

Also if you’ve been divorced for a year, and you had multiple mothers days where he did nothing during your marriage- that makes your daughter at least 4 or so, right? She’s old enough to pick out a card or a gift for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

[Anonymous]

Maybe find someone who was married to him who can better explain his behavior.

[Anonymous]

It's control, image management, and wanting to center himself on a holiday that is not about him. Ignore him best you can. PP is right that men like this come in one flavor.

[Anonymous]

The fact that this evokes any emotion from you shows that he still has some hold on you.

If my ex brought me a gift, I would just be like oh well whatever. It wouldn’t be a thing.

I also wouldn’t feel some obligation to get him a gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

God could say the same thing about us and yet He’s always there waiting to reconcile us to Himself if we choose it. Reconciliation is always possible. Maybe not now, but one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

God could say the same thing about us and yet He’s always there waiting to reconcile us to Himself if we choose it. Reconciliation is always possible. Maybe not now, but one day.

Oh the religious nut job lady is back. You haven't told anyone not to have extramarital sex today so you're feeling left out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

God could say the same thing about us and yet He’s always there waiting to reconcile us to Himself if we choose it. Reconciliation is always possible. Maybe not now, but one day.

Oh the religious nut job lady is back. You haven't told anyone not to have extramarital sex today so you're feeling left out?

?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

God could say the same thing about us and yet He’s always there waiting to reconcile us to Himself if we choose it. Reconciliation is always possible. Maybe not now, but one day.

Oh the religious nut job lady is back. You haven't told anyone not to have extramarital sex today so you're feeling left out?

?????

She is on every thread. Super annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one knows what he means but him. Don’t ask him what he means. If he wanted to say something he would.

But still, open your heart and consider it as a gesture of goodwill as any gift from someone is. Don’t be too excited, rather remain coolly polite and continue to keep your distance. Let him keep showing you that he has changed and has become more thoughtful, loving, attentive so that you may be able to reconcile one day.

BARF. Someone who cheated three times on his wife is NOT reconciliation material.

God could say the same thing about us and yet He’s always there waiting to reconcile us to Himself if we choose it. Reconciliation is always possible. Maybe not now, but one day.

+1

[Anonymous]

just let him drop them off on the porch and then give them to charity or whatever.

saying no will cause more drama than its worth

[Anonymous]

Don't engage. Don't acknowledge. GRAYROCK.

He has informed you but it is not an action item for you.

BTW - do you have ring camera and CCTV?

[Anonymous]

IGNORE

[Anonymous]

Ignore. Silence is an answer.