Not hearing from a physically independent parent for 2 days is a blessing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he bored? lonely? If he is, consider independent living for the social life.

He lives in senior apartments and they have events but nothing is like bothering one’s kid after a busy week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps he’ll outlive you OP.

I am thinking that too. He is objectively pretty healthy and of a sunny disposition, just very immature.
He lives a healthy lifestyle too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.

This sucks as a reply. OP is allowed their feelings.

DP

[Anonymous]

Texting bothers you because you are knee jerk looking at every text you get. Can't you mute him and look once in a while? This is why email and mail filters were so great.

[Anonymous]

Agree, mute and respond when you can. If you're slow to respond, maybe he'll slow down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.

Not OP, but I doubt it. My dad is a constant burden and I look forward to days ahead when I will be free.

[Anonymous]

You need to learn that you aren't experienced to respond to every message immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.

This sucks as a reply. OP is allowed their feelings.

DP

And we’re allowed to think she’s a selfish person to be saying these things because her lonely dad who she has characterized as unproblematic texts her a few times a day. BFD. It takes a few seconds to respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.

This sucks as a reply. OP is allowed their feelings.

DP

And we’re allowed to think she’s a selfish person to be saying these things because her lonely dad who she has characterized as unproblematic texts her a few times a day. BFD. It takes a few seconds to respond.

+1

My parents are in their 80’s and I either text or talk to them every day, even if it’s just a quick exchange. I don’t care how busy I am of what I have going on, I will always find time to respond to a text or give them a quick call.

So many of my friends no longer have their parents and I am grateful I still have both of mine.

OP is allowed to feel how she feels but many of us are also allowed to think it’s a shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Texting bothers you because you are knee jerk looking at every text you get. Can't you mute him and look once in a while? This is why email and mail filters were so great.

I feel like I need to check at least daily in case of a relative emergency, so yeah.
There’s no way for me to tell him “please don’t text me unless there’s something truly important. Your best gift to me is not texting me for a week”. So yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Texting bothers you because you are knee jerk looking at every text you get. Can't you mute him and look once in a while? This is why email and mail filters were so great.

I feel like I need to check at least daily in case of a relative emergency, so yeah.
There’s no way for me to tell him “please don’t text me unless there’s something truly important. Your best gift to me is not texting me for a week”. So yeah.

But you could say, "hey, dad, i can focus better on your texts if you just send them in the evening" (or whenever you want). You're allowed to state your preferences in a kind way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will miss him terribly when he is gone, and you will regret this post.

This sucks as a reply. OP is allowed their feelings.

DP

And we’re allowed to think she’s a selfish person to be saying these things because her lonely dad who she has characterized as unproblematic texts her a few times a day. BFD. It takes a few seconds to respond.

I get it! I can see your POV. Idk what’s wrong with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Texting bothers you because you are knee jerk looking at every text you get. Can't you mute him and look once in a while? This is why email and mail filters were so great.

I feel like I need to check at least daily in case of a relative emergency, so yeah.
There’s no way for me to tell him “please don’t text me unless there’s something truly important. Your best gift to me is not texting me for a week”. So yeah.

But you could say, "hey, dad, i can focus better on your texts if you just send them in the evening" (or whenever you want). You're allowed to state your preferences in a kind way.

Honestly I’d like to not hear from him for a week or more, there’s no way to say it really

[Anonymous]

I wish I could text my mom it was hard not to after she died when I had a little funny story to tell her about the kids etc I’m now learning to text my dad with those types of things. I’m sure he is very lonely without your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I could text my mom it was hard not to after she died when I had a little funny story to tell her about the kids etc I’m now learning to text my dad with those types of things. I’m sure he is very lonely without your mom.

+100