How nice or sincere are parents in elite private schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the scale of niceness and sincereness (0-10), parents at elite private schools are a 6.7.

(OP asks a stupid question and we can give her a stupid answer.)

This answers how nice you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading the comments in DCUM I feel that there is some schizophrenic behavior going on. Meaning that parents theoretically want inclusion, when in fact they want a cozy school with rich parents to keep it well funded. That might explain the nasty posts that appear on a daily basis here demeaning the parents from public schools, foreigners, or middle class families.

+1 let's get real

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:they're rich and don't like you

That’s ok. It’s reciprocal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the scale of niceness and sincereness (0-10), parents at elite private schools are a 6.7.

(OP asks a stupid question and we can give her a stupid answer.)

6.9 IMO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private school parents are not a monolith.

And also not a political monolith. Many trump supporters.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the school and families, but obviously they are everywhere!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading the comments in DCUM I feel that there is some schizophrenic behavior going on. Meaning that parents theoretically want inclusion, when in fact they want a cozy school with rich parents to keep it well funded. That might explain the nasty posts that appear on a daily basis here demeaning the parents from public schools, foreigners, or middle class families.

All due respect, schizophrenia and multiple personality disorder are distinct conditions.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really care. I send my kids there not in need of networking or connections. People will like me or dislike for whatever reason which I don’t really should care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading the comments in DCUM I feel that there is some schizophrenic behavior going on. Meaning that parents theoretically want inclusion, when in fact they want a cozy school with rich parents to keep it well funded. That might explain the nasty posts that appear on a daily basis here demeaning the parents from public schools, foreigners, or middle class families.

+1 let's get real

I don't think they all even theoretically want inclusion. Some people think it makes them sound good to say that, others just want a shield against accusations of elitism, racism, snobbery, etc. Some people genuinely want inclusion, some people don't even pretend to want it.

There are actual studies that wealthy people are more sociopathic, so it's no surprise that people for whom $50-$60K isn't any kind of sacrifice aren't all good people. And some people pick private for social-climbing/snobby/social anxiety reasons, so again, no shock that they are exclusive perks. Some people pick private for other reasons, and it is not easy, and I feel like you're more likely to get nicer, normal people, but people are just people, you know? Some people are just perks, some people are really kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the surface, they seem very nice and concerned about social justice and inclusion, but reading the posts here, some also come across as more cutthroat, caring mainly about their kids’ experience and their chances of getting into an Ivy League school. Which is the reality and which is the fiction?

The reality is that some people are like that and some are not. Private school parents are not a monolith. Neither are public school parents. Both groups have those who say they're concerned about social justice but don't act that way. Both groups have parents who are cutthroat.

Have you not lived enough to realize this? That's a genuine question - do you really think someone is going to respond with "Yes, all private school parents are X" and it'll be true? Come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they're rich and don't like you

That’s ok. It’s reciprocal.

If you hate private school parents so much then why are you on a forum for private schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading the comments in DCUM I feel that there is some schizophrenic behavior going on. Meaning that parents theoretically want inclusion, when in fact they want a cozy school with rich parents to keep it well funded. That might explain the nasty posts that appear on a daily basis here demeaning the parents from public schools, foreigners, or middle class families.

This is correct. If these people say they want inclusion, it’s a specific kind of inclusion that makes them feel comfortable- a certain kind of “good” black or brown kid. They do not want their children going to school with the “out of boundary” kids who are not white and come from “bad” neighborhoods. This becomes especially apparent as you get closer to high school and see threads like “panic about MacArthur!!” And “I’m going to move if my kid doesn’t get into _____.” I would just like people to be honest with themselves about it.

Are people nice and outwardly seemingly accepting? Sure. Is that the actual reality when you peel back the layers? No.

A certain kind or maybe just the ones that share similar values. That's more important than what people look like on the outside. Some of you are exceedingly shallow and only look at skin color.

[Anonymous]

I think that all parents are proud of their kids, this is likely more pronounced at private schools with the humble brags being presented in ways like asking questions for upcoming class registration. IT is indeed a silent race. A race for what schools accepted your child, a race for what HS accepted your child, and a race for where your child ultimately gets accepted to college. It is what it is because all the parents want the best for their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the surface, they seem very nice and concerned about social justice and inclusion, but reading the posts here, some also come across as more cutthroat, caring mainly about their kids’ experience and their chances of getting into an Ivy League school. Which is the reality and which is the fiction?

Public school parents don’t care?

[Anonymous]

This is not a private school thing, this is a wealthy area thing. We’ve seen similar behaviors from parents at mcps as well at our older DC’s private school and the schools they play against in sports.

Speaking of sports—rubbing elbows with parents from other schools is a good way to get a glimpse at the type of families who attend those schools. Of course those parents are a small slice of the overall community, but still.