Letting young family member come live in your home?

[Anonymous]

I would take care of any grandchild in a heartbeat!

Having said that, I don't understand why the young parents cannot live together and share the parenting. It's your son's duty. As his mother, I would remind him of his duty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son has a house, and the mother of his child is his girlfriend, yet she and the baby can’t live in his house? I’m confused.

THIS!!! She should move in with him, not you!

This is ridiculous! Wtf.

If he can't live with her, he should move in with you and give her HIS house.

This is ridiculous, OP.

This, this, this!

[Anonymous]

If you do, make sure she has a separate refrigerator and small eating area. She can then apply for benefits through wic and snap. She needs the other benefits to succeed. Relying on you is not going to help her. She really should stay with her parents. This should be everyone’s aim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posted at 11:34. I missed where it says he has *his own house* so just offer to spend a weekend helping him clean out a room for her so she can sleep there if needed.

Oh FFS. What kind of man-baby needs his mommy to help him clean a room for his OWN CHILD in his OWN HOUSE? Time for this person to step up and be an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you do, make sure she has a separate refrigerator and small eating area. She can then apply for benefits through wic and snap. She needs the other benefits to succeed. Relying on you is not going to help her. She really should stay with her parents. This should be everyone’s aim.

Not at all. The young couple should be parenting together in the same house. They made a baby, they get to raise it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posted at 11:34. I missed where it says he has *his own house* so just offer to spend a weekend helping him clean out a room for her so she can sleep there if needed.

Oh FFS. What kind of man-baby needs his mommy to help him clean a room for his OWN CHILD in his OWN HOUSE? Time for this person to step up and be an adult.

Better than mommy cleaning his old room in HER house lol. Keeps the peace.

[Anonymous]

Why is she not moving in with your son in his house?

What is their plan, get married or raise the child separately or adopt out the child?

Why is she unable to support herself, having income and a place to live at? Was her plan to stay in her parental home forever or find a partner with a house?

I'd not do this due to her establishing residency. Too many unknowns and the GF sounds fishy. Does she have a job? What is her life plan? Did she expect to pop out the baby and then somebody else was supposed to support her from now on?

[Anonymous]

Time for your son to man up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adoption!

This! Give the kid a chance at good life. They are not it and it is not your responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Well, OP.
The chickens are coming home to roost. You declared yourself "team baby" at his birth and started messaging and sending baby items at once, to the other grandparent's home.
You don't know WHY she is not getting along with parental figures in her home. You had previously said she lived there pre pregnancy too. Is it money and her financial obligations there? IChildcare? If so those issues may surface in your home too.
Once she moves in you are correct she may establish tenancy. Even with a 6 month agreement she may be very hard to evict.
Even if you do this, even if, your son should come prepare his old room and bath. Even if it's 2 am in the morning. It's a precedent.
Still not clear why he can't provide living space where he is.
Serving as a neutral spot for visits is a prudent step. Not a new home.
Team Kevin, maybe you van get a yard sign.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, she needs to live with your son. Son needs to be providing care to the baby and bond with the baby.

I would agree if son, girlfriend and baby all needed a place to stay, but son HAS a place!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is she not moving in with your son in his house?

What is their plan, get married or raise the child separately or adopt out the child?

Why is she unable to support herself, having income and a place to live at? Was her plan to stay in her parental home forever or find a partner with a house?

I'd not do this due to her establishing residency. Too many unknowns and the GF sounds fishy. Does she have a job? What is her life plan? Did she expect to pop out the baby and then somebody else was supposed to support her from now on?

Many in the other "what would you say" thread felt strongly and warned that there was something awry with the mid twenties woman. And the whole story.
It was a 32 week assumed crypto pregnancy that led to a birth of a 6 pound 4 oz boy Kevin about a week or two after the reveal.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't she move in with your son? It keeps coming up because it's the obvious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is she not moving in with your son in his house?

What is their plan, get married or raise the child separately or adopt out the child?

Why is she unable to support herself, having income and a place to live at? Was her plan to stay in her parental home forever or find a partner with a house?

I'd not do this due to her establishing residency. Too many unknowns and the GF sounds fishy. Does she have a job? What is her life plan? Did she expect to pop out the baby and then somebody else was supposed to support her from now on?

Many in the other "what would you say" thread felt strongly and warned that there was something awry with the mid twenties woman. And the whole story.
It was a 32 week assumed crypto pregnancy that led to a birth of a 6 pound 4 oz boy Kevin about a week or two after the reveal.

Oh, I must have missed the other thread. The story is certainly strange. At least the OP seems certain the child is her grandson!

[Anonymous]

Can someone please post the link to the other thread?