Guac and queso if you make over $450k

[Anonymous]

So we've devolved from kids shouldn't want fancy sneakers or iPhones, to kids shouldn't want guac?

OP, what is your end goal here? If you want to control it, you can. It sounds like you've already laid a guilt trip on your DD. You really need to journal on this, and then journal some more, and then some more until you have some clarity.

[Anonymous]

This has to be one of the most ridiculous questions on dcum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think Guac and queso are a luxury? What if romaine were extra? Would you still be mad? What exactly is the issue?

Queso has no nutritional value and I don't think the marginal enjoyment is worth the marginal price.

[Anonymous]

You remind me of a woman I worked with ages ago with grandchildren who begged her to take them for ice cream and she was aghast they were disappointed with her money saving idea to get a gallon and eat more ice cream at home. I explained the fun of going for ice cream, which she dismissed as nonsense when the price was going to be higher. I love her and anyone who thinks this way as it helps balance out people like me who buy the drinks, guac and ice cream when maybe we should be pinching pennies too.

[Anonymous]

I'm a pp, but were the DCUM famous trolls? What does someone get out of trolling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think Guac and queso are a luxury? What if romaine were extra? Would you still be mad? What exactly is the issue?

Queso has no nutritional value and I don't think the marginal enjoyment is worth the marginal price.

To YOU?

[Anonymous]

Take them to Qdoba. The guac is included

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You see very controlling.

Well, yes, I do try to control my budget. I don't control the calories they eat and they can get as many free items as they want in their bowl. We also don't order drinks out, just water. If my kids want a soda, they are welcome to it and they know that, but they usually get water. I asked my son if he wants double meat in the future and he said yes and I have no problem paying extra for that. I think my issue is the queso, because you can get cheese for free!

My kids get chipotle weekly, so this is not a treat situation.

so this is regular meal order for them and you are trying to limit what they eat? do you do that with ingredients at home?? like are they only allowed one squeeze of the Pizza oil bottle b/c its expensive, only 2 tbsp of the fresh pesto b/c its expensive...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You remind me of a woman I worked with ages ago with grandchildren who begged her to take them for ice cream and she was aghast they were disappointed with her money saving idea to get a gallon and eat more ice cream at home. I explained the fun of going for ice cream, which she dismissed as nonsense when the price was going to be higher. I love her and anyone who thinks this way as it helps balance out people like me who buy the drinks, guac and ice cream when maybe we should be pinching pennies too.

DP, also reminds me of the woman who posted and said her family shares ice creams when they go out for dessert. I cannot imagine sharing one scoop with my DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we've devolved from kids shouldn't want fancy sneakers or iPhones, to kids shouldn't want guac?

OP, what is your end goal here? If you want to control it, you can. It sounds like you've already laid a guilt trip on your DD. You really need to journal on this, and then journal some more, and then some more until you have some clarity.

I used a strawman example, but the larger question I was trying to pose is do you try to instill a sense of want in your kid? Or do you give them everything on a silver platter? My kids know we only buy things on sale and that we buy what we need, not every luxury we feel like. We drive older cars and us our phones into the ground. My DS wanted a pair of resale Nikes that were $300. I told he he'd need to get a job and buy them with his own money, even though we can afford it. That motivated him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be one of the most ridiculous questions on dcum

Not really. It's a very common question, usually around low income.

Low income will let their kids get gum at the register, or a soda out of the machine, because these kids don't have much else in their lives. But it doesn't really teach these kids deferred reward, and given some of the parents, there is no deferred reward.

I grew up without much but my parents never bought us the gum or sodas and of course I was envious of these other kids. But my parents were frugal and they were saving so that we could have christmas gifts, or small car trips, or eventually (tiny) help in college.

But there are actual studies done on this, so it's not that daft.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we've devolved from kids shouldn't want fancy sneakers or iPhones, to kids shouldn't want guac?

OP, what is your end goal here? If you want to control it, you can. It sounds like you've already laid a guilt trip on your DD. You really need to journal on this, and then journal some more, and then some more until you have some clarity.

I used a strawman example, but the larger question I was trying to pose is do you try to instill a sense of want in your kid? Or do you give them everything on a silver platter? My kids know we only buy things on sale and that we buy what we need, not every luxury we feel like. We drive older cars and us our phones into the ground. My DS wanted a pair of resale Nikes that were $300. I told he he'd need to get a job and buy them with his own money, even though we can afford it. That motivated him.

+1 advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be one of the most ridiculous questions on dcum

Not really. It's a very common question, usually around low income.

Low income will let their kids get gum at the register, or a soda out of the machine, because these kids don't have much else in their lives. But it doesn't really teach these kids deferred reward, and given some of the parents, there is no deferred reward.

I grew up without much but my parents never bought us the gum or sodas and of course I was envious of these other kids. But my parents were frugal and they were saving so that we could have christmas gifts, or small car trips, or eventually (tiny) help in college.

But there are actual studies done on this, so it's not that daft.

Op here. Yes there are studies, you are correct. I saw a NYT article on it last week where low income families buy the latest Nikes and phones out of guilt for their kids to their own detriment. My mom taught me the value of wanting less. When i first started working I wanted everything, but now I'm back to wanting less. I told my kids they had to choose one or the other (guac or queso). It feels right for us and I'd doesn't seem like a major hardship. My kids know how privileged they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we've devolved from kids shouldn't want fancy sneakers or iPhones, to kids shouldn't want guac?

OP, what is your end goal here? If you want to control it, you can. It sounds like you've already laid a guilt trip on your DD. You really need to journal on this, and then journal some more, and then some more until you have some clarity.

I used a strawman example, but the larger question I was trying to pose is do you try to instill a sense of want in your kid? Or do you give them everything on a silver platter? My kids know we only buy things on sale and that we buy what we need, not every luxury we feel like. We drive older cars and us our phones into the ground. My DS wanted a pair of resale Nikes that were $300. I told he he'd need to get a job and buy them with his own money, even though we can afford it. That motivated him.

I don’t disagree on the principle, but I think this is an odd hill to die on. It’s literally less than $100 a year to let the kid get queso once a week. Why make $450k if you can’t spend $100 for a year’s worth of queso?

[Anonymous]

First, Guac and queso together are disgusting! Goal should be for kids to learn to manage money. Some day they may decide spending $ on toppings is worth saving elsewhere. Start making them buy their own food at least some of the time.